Long distance with indian boyfriend need help

  1. profile image56
    Weirdokichanposted 20 months ago

    Long distance with indian boyfriend need help

    Weve been together for a year and a half now. Lately he has been distant towards me. He had told me he was being forced to his cousin. And that he had to sort this out his own.. And he said they were just pretending for their family's sake. Because his aunt was bugging him. I have no contact with his family only his one friend. Last night he told me I should let him go if I cant handle the pain of waiting for him. He told me he will only marry me no one else. And that hes fam will accept me after the big problem, and that I shouldnt find him but he will find me..please anyone idk what to do..

  2. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 20 months ago


    "We've been together for a year and a half now." - REALLY?
    One common mistake people make in long distance relationships is confusing "calendar time" with actual time spent together.
    Take for instance a couple who sees each other one weekend per quarter. Naturally at the end of year they'd proclaim they've been together for a year. However in reality they would have only been "together" 8 days!
    And yet if they lived in the same town and spent 8 days together no one would be talking about engagements or getting married!
    You state the guy is dating another woman/girl! (regardless of the reason) He's still going out with someone else, getting to know her better, and doing whatever couples do while you're siting by the phone or in front of your laptop. Time you can't get back!
    " Last night he told me I should let him go...."
    "He told me he will only marry me no one else."
    "...and that (I shouldn't find him) but he will find me."
    Essentially it's "Don't call me. I'll call you."
    Stop being a "passenger" in your own life!
    When you're young and naïve "obstacles" have a way causing one to "romanticize" doomed relationships.
    "If it weren't for the distance, his parents, their culture, and so on we would live happily ever after."
    Face the truth! Long distance relationships were meant to be temporary. The goal is to (be with) the person you love!
    There has to be a "light at the end of the tunnel" where one of you decides to relocate. It's the {counting down} of the months, weeks, and days until you're finally done with the inconvenience of being in a long distance relationship that keeps it strong!
    Now "your guy" is basically telling you NOT to come be with him!
    He will "find you". Don't hold your breath!
    If he wanted to be with (you) he'd have a solid plan.
    You need to go out with your friends and start enjoying life!
    Every ending is a new beginning! Best wishes!


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