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I am dating a poor man

  1. profile image59
    Iliza6posted 8 months ago

    I am dating a poor man

    This man I fell in love with from the first sight. Also he loved me as of first sight so no work on the relationship would be added. No emotional stress.

    We both want to get married to each other.  He calls me everyday. We see each other weekly. He always admires me and tells me how much he loves Me.

    To be honest I struggled until I found a man whom I love and loves me as I do.

    Because I have known rich men but they didn't want an emotional relationship or commitment.

    My bf now is broke and has no job and we pay for our dates.I am 29 he is 37. Shall I wait on him?

  2. FatFreddysCat profile image99
    FatFreddysCatposted 8 months ago

    He's 37, has no job, and lets you pay for everything. Sounds like he's living the dream!
    If you want to continue carrying this dude, then have at it. But since you're asking this question I have a feeling that deep down you know you can do better.

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      Iliza6posted 8 months agoin reply to this

      Your answer is right.  I have should chosen better man. Love doesn't last but commetmint aspects do. Money is important. I guess I will be waiting for too long if decided to be with him.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 8 months ago


    Lots of poor people are married.
    You're either "in love" with the guy or you're not.
    Two people can plan and  build a life together. However you do have to decide how "motivated" and "ambitious" the two of you are. When you say poor do you simply mean he is {in between jobs} and has a skill? or Do you mean he's homeless and asking strangers for hand-outs? Is he too proud to work for McDonalds at night while continuing his job search during the day?
    Has he signed up with any temp agencies for day work?
    Are (you) working?
    It sounds like he's also dating a poor woman.
    There's a difference between being "poor" and "broke". How long has he been this way?
    Broke is usually seen as a "temporary situation" while poor is often a way of life.
    Not everyone has a (desire) to strive for success. You might have to be "the breadwinner" if you want to make a future marriage work with (him). Are you willing to do that?
    Is the love you feel for him that strong?
    Having said that everyone is entitled to have their own "mate selection/screening process" and list of "must haves" for choosing a mate or spouse. You said the following:
    "To be honest {I struggled} until I found a man whom I love and loves me as I do."
    Don't feel "forced" to choose a husband based upon your past.
    Are you really "in love" with (this man) or  feeling desperate?
    First of all being 29 isn't exactly old. You still have time to (establish your own career), travel, and possibly meet a man who Does Not give you "reservations" about marrying him.
    There are over 7 Billion other people on the planet! Rarely does it come down to marrying someone who is rich or poor. Most people end up with someone in the middle.
    Truthfully if you thought (this guy) was "the one" you wouldn't be posing this question. Usually questions are "red flags".
    Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.
    Best wishes!

    1. threekeys profile image80
      threekeysposted 8 months agoin reply to this

      This is good dashing scorpio. And, I would like to add if I may, love is not enough. It will quickly wear off if you have huge financial worries that you cannot remedy in some way. Ask,is there potential? Just "think with your heart". All the best.