Is the reason I keep getting walked all over because I am too nice and care too much?
No, it's because you don't love YOURSELF enough!
Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
Each of us has our own mate selection and must haves list.
Each of us has our own "boundaries" and "deal breakers".
Each of us gets to choose who spend our time with.
The only thing all of your bad relationships have in common is (you).
If you're having one bad relationship experience after another it's probably time you reexamine your (mate selection criteria) or "must haves list".
Oftentimes people set out pursuing relationships before taking the time to figure out who (they) are let alone what they want or need in a mate.
It's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!
They allow "impulse connections" and "happenstance" to dictate their relationship choices.
Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart.
Having said that it's also a possibility that you have unrealistic expectations due to immaturity or refusing to (learn) from your past mistakes.
For example lets say you're a teenager or a young lady in her early 20s who is dating guys her age. It' s fairly unrealistic to expect teenage guys and those in their early 20s to be looking to "settle down" or be contemplating marriage.
They want to enjoy their youth, play video games, watch sports, party with friends, possibly establish a career, and get laid! Most first time grooms are in their late 20s or early 30s. Therefore you'd be better off to date guys your age just for FUN or decide to date guys who are older and ready to settle down.
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde
Please take note that you have just asked and answered your own question in one sentence. It may not be because you're too nice or care too much.....but if you're "being walked all over" only YOU can put a stop to this. Learn to have self-worth and speak out when you feel you've been wronged, making sure it is understood you will not tolerate poor treatment by anyone.
To quote Dr.Phil "We teach people how to treat us." Let that sink in.
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