I am Sexually Frustrated

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   yogaburnclubposted 5 years ago

   I love my boyfriend very much and he loves me too. Things are really good between us. The only problem is that I never get sexually satisfied. Its frustrating please advise me.
   
   Leah
   

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      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Unfortunately one of the downsides to establishing a commitment or exclusive relationship with someone prior to knowing if you're sexually compatible is you may end up in a situation like this.
      You're emotionally invested in someone who doesn't please you.
      
      There are a few possible solutions depending on both of you.
      
      1. Does he sincerely desire to please you and is open to listening and learning from you what makes you climax?
      
      You can encourage a man with each audible sigh, moan, or screaming YES! Most men want to believe they have "rocked their mate's world".
      Silently keeping things to yourself or faking it will never change things.
      It's important for every woman to explore and know her own body.
      You can't teach what you don't know!
      
      2. Are YOU {proactive} in trying to ensure you have an orgasm?
      
      Some people simply lay back and expect their mate to "make the magic happen". Other women aren't afraid to take charge and use their partner's body as tool. They choose the position and even manually stimulate them self during their session or introduce adult toys.
      
      3. Communicate outside of the bed
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      Tell you had this dream where he did such and such, or the last time you were together and while he was doing whatever it (almost) made you explode...etc. A listening man will usually apply this next time around.
      
      4. Walk away
      
      Each of us is entitled to have our own "deal breakers".
      If your mate is unable or unwilling to please you sexually and you choose to stay with them YOU are (choosing) to be sexually frustrated.
      No one is "stuck" with anyone! Suffering is optional.
      

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   Kyler J Falkposted 5 years ago

   As usual, Scorpio has come into the conversation early and with great fervor, explaining the best options possible in a way no one else could match. Though, I do have a similar situation with myself and my girlfriend which cannot be fixed unless she loses weight (she is obese) and she solved my lack of physical attraction by allowing the addition of other individuals to our sexual relationship.
   
   I wouldn't recommend it if you have always been monogamous, but where one cannot provide another will be able to. The last best option isn't always "break-up" if your partner is unwilling AND unable to provide, especially not if you are both getting a majority of what you desire from each other already.
   
   Sexual coaches and workshops are always nice as well, offering a safe environment to openly discuss sexual issues and unexplored desires with those more, and less experienced than you.

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