How do you leave somebody you're emotionally attached to?

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   Mary Harryposted 4 years ago

   We often find ourselves dating an individual for a prolonged period of time and forming an emotional attachment that is so difficult to get past when the time comes to part ways. How would you suggest handling this?

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      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      The reason why it's so difficult to get past...is because:
      In order to "move on" you have to (want to) "let go".
      The truth of the matter is a lot of people really don't WANT to let go!
      
      What they really want is a magical reconciliation and a happily ever after ending. Oftentimes they want their mate to become someone they're clearly not or else they'd already be happy with the way things are.
      
      The first and most important step to getting over someone is to accept the relationship is over! Imagine what you would do if your house burned down to the ground... You would find another place to live.
      
      When it comes to a failed relationship the person in whom you put your heart and trust into is just as gone as the house which burned to the ground. You take time to grieve with family/friends, put away mementos, focus on what you want for yourself in the future and as the days, weeks, and months go by you get stronger. Eventually you meet someone new.
      
      It's important to keep things in perspective.
      The guy you feel you can't "live without" just know this; there are Billions of us who are doing exactly that! You use to be one of us!
      
      You had a life BEFORE you ever knew your ex.
      Your future lies ahead of you and not behind you!
      
      Breakups and divorces are not the end of the world.
      No (one person) should have that much power over your life!
      
      Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.
      People who love themselves look out for (their) best interest.
      They won't tolerate being mistreated or disrespected.
      
      Emotional security comes from having a loving family, close friendships, and mentors one can turn to and confide in when things get rough.
      
      People who have the hardest time moving on usually have either cut their loved ones out of their life or they chose not to be open with them.
      This makes them feel alone and isolated when their relationship fails. Essentially they put everything into one basket: their mate.
      
      Seek and yea shall find!
      Just about anything a person wants to do there are other people who have already done it. You're not the first and you won't be the last.
      There are books, videos, and therapists to help people move on.
      
      
      
      
      

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