Me and one of my female friends have been friends for over 6 years and I have a male friend that I have dated off and on for 10 years. We all met up again on Facebook and she sent him a friend request even though she barely knew him. Now they are communicating behind my back and I am really hurt. Is this normal for me to feel this way?
I acknowledge your feelings of hurt. Possibly you still have feelings for him. I believe it's normal to have a feeling of resentment. Think of it this way: He's simply saying 'yes' to another part of his life. If they are corresponding in secrecy deliberately, it would make me feel bad.
Yes it's normal since you obviously still have feelings for him. Have you told your friend you have feelings for him? If she doesn't know how you feel, why would she think it's not okay for her to date him?
we are very close. so close that I know his whole family and the only reason we never really made it official is because we were both young. Me and the friend are very close to, so close that she has been hiding the fact that she is doing this so evidently she knows somewhere she is wrong.
Now that I know you still see him, whether it's off & on or not, you definitely have a right to your emotion. He is lacking regard for your feelings and it's not acceptable.
You could either confront him or do nothing. By doing nothing you aren't acknowledging him one way or another. By confronting him with his lack of respect, you are pointing out you don't appreciate it.
He may just be that type person. It's hard, but it has nothing to do with YOU. It's a character flaw in him and her.
thanks u really helped. I think it is best if I do not say anything and just let them go because he pretty much ignores me now but I see that they are always comunicating like he is trying to get at her or they already have.
thanks 4 all the advice it really helped I have actually deleted both of them just so that I do not have to torture myslef and I am gonna have a long talk with her tonight. Will update with the outcome.