Do you get jealous when your partner gets too close to a friend of the opposite

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  1. seriousnuts profile image60
    seriousnutsposted 12 years ago

    Do you get jealous when your partner gets too close to a friend of the opposite sex?

    How do you deal with it?

  2. Jowy2000 profile image94
    Jowy2000posted 12 years ago

    Yes, and there is no good way to deal with it. Only varying degrees of bad ways. That's my experience at least.

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    reeltaulkposted 12 years ago

    If  you are getting jealous, there are things that you both need work on.  Maybe trust issues, maybe someone is purposely behaving in a way that makes the other insecure.  Maybe you just don't feel safe neither secure in this relationship.  If anything I have mentioned is on the positive side then you need work on your insecurities, whatever they may be.  When in a great relationship there is no need to be jealous, it doesn't matter how gorgeous the person on the outside may be.  Jealousy may rise every now and again but that's healthy!  It's also a reminder that you have something that has worth and everyone desires to have.

  4. greenza profile image61
    greenzaposted 12 years ago

    Nope. Why would you get jealous? Your partner chose to be with you! So there is no need to be jealous!!

  5. JT Walters profile image73
    JT Waltersposted 12 years ago

    No absolutely not.  If a guy loves me than he knows he is with me and if he strays he is out of my life.

  6. puddingicecream profile image69
    puddingicecreamposted 12 years ago

    I don't really get jealous. I know it's me my partner likes wink

  7. shayshay1723 profile image61
    shayshay1723posted 12 years ago

    Oh My God Yes! and i dont agree with reeltaulk. i beleive that perhaps its not trust issues with eachother, but maybe from previous relationships. i get very jealous, and he knows that. he is the exact same way, and me and him understand that.. and we are okay with that... we stay away from opposite sexes.. smile that way we are both happy!

  8. smith624 profile image60
    smith624posted 12 years ago

    That depends on what you mean by too close. If you take those words at meaning, then yes. Too close is too close. There is only so close that one's partner should get with someone of the opposite sex. And of course, going out together would be one of them.

  9. RedxVelvet profile image62
    RedxVelvetposted 12 years ago

    Considering that all of his friends that are of the opposite sex are his cousins, not in the least.  lol  However, if he did have friends of the opposite sex with no blood relation, I would be perfectly fine with it.  I give him my complete trust, and there is no need to worry and fret over something so benign as that.

    However, I would get a bit jealous if I knew one of his said friends started seriously and blatantly hitting on him. sad

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    ExoticHippieQueenposted 12 years ago

    Well, I tried not being that way because I trusted one of my best friends.  I saw some weird things between them and tried to explain it away to myself.  How can you be suspicious of your best friend?  Long story short, later I just saw too many questionable interactions between them, so I had to end my friendship with her.  Later, I divorced him as well.  She wasn't what ended our marriage, just a cog in the wheel.

  11. jackthechairs profile image60
    jackthechairsposted 12 years ago

    No, but that might be because we're both men.  Honestly, him and I don't really get jealous over who the other one hangs out with because we just trust each other.

  12. stricktlydating profile image82
    stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

    No I wouldn't get jelous, but I seriously wouldn't like my partner to become close friends with another female during our relationship. I would probably feel uncomfortable about him spending time with her (especially if it was time alone) and would probably become embarrassed about it.  I'd discuss this with him.

  13. JBBlack profile image60
    JBBlackposted 12 years ago

    Yes, I got jealous, twice.  Heartbreak, I was right, happened twice.  I deal with this in tears, mild self destruction, can't sit still, road lust, changing states.  Once Tennessee to California and the other California to Tennessee, with about 10 years between.

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    Carliismiles<3posted 12 years ago

    I honestly don't. I mean.. i know my fiance loves me and so i have nothing to worry about. Once in a while i'll ask him who he has talked to.. but other than that, im completely okay with him talking to other girls.. he on the other hand is a tad bit jealous. We do trust each other, he just wants to know. And i let him know, i have nothing to hide.. and i rather just tell him then get in a fight over something stupid.

  15. OneFineG467 profile image60
    OneFineG467posted 12 years ago

    There some type of chemical reaction happens to u r brain and body when u r close partner gets absorbed by someonelse without paying much attention to u...

    The influence u both shared will get altered a bit and both start seeing each other in a new perspective...

  16. clintonb profile image60
    clintonbposted 12 years ago

    Jealousy is like the worst thing that can happen to anyone. It just ruins the relationship. If there is no trust then there is no relationship.

  17. TheMonk profile image60
    TheMonkposted 12 years ago

    Only if I feel insecure. However, then again, if I feel uncertain about someone, there is something wrong with the whole relationship on the first place. Just my 2c.

  18. INDIAGUIDE profile image41
    INDIAGUIDEposted 12 years ago

    No not at all. It is the mind frame which distract you. Believing is love. Believing more than yourself is love. You will get in return what you give

  19. varonny profile image75
    varonnyposted 12 years ago

    I used to in the beginning but I think that was because at that time the relationship was not very secure and very fresh too. Now, I only get a bit annoyed when he goes out with the guys and being a dancer off course he goes to dance with some girls. Don't get me wrong I don't care he dances with girls, I care that I am not there to monitor. And now I sound like a crazy wife, but truth is I do got a little annoyed with that, sometimes. Come to think of that... it might be because I don't usually go out and dance with other people, so I guess I feel jealous for that?

  20. Dardia profile image61
    Dardiaposted 12 years ago

    No, I don't get jealous. There was a time when I worried a little, as he is a musician and has had a lot of women throwing themselves at him. He has proven himself loyal and trustworthy. So there is no reason to get jealous.

  21. shanaya profile image60
    shanayaposted 12 years ago

    No way because I Trust Him and He also does the same. Thats what Matters.

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    Indigitalposted 12 years ago

    Depends on the guy really. I can trust girlfriends if the guy is okay and doesn't seem the type to try anything behind my back. I don't like when your girlfriend talks to someone you have no understanding on, I get annoyed I can't start a conversation with him because I know it'll all be about the girlfriend, and then it'll get awkward.

    But yeah, mostly I know boys don't snoop round my girlfriend, but if they do..Well, then they look like the silly chap when I tell my friends what they tried to do.

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    frumpletonposted 7 years ago

    This is an old hub (5 yrs. old) but I'll answer it anyway.  Yes, I got jealous but I was provoked.  I was driving and my boyfriend was the passenger and he was staring at a woman walking along.  I stopped the car right next to her and asked him, "Want to go introduce yourself?"  He muttered, "Start the car."  Another time, he took a woman to the fair and I found out.  I got so mad, I cut up his jeans in the crotch and wrote vulgar stuff on his t-shirts and then took them to his girlfriend's house. (She wasn't home but I told her friend so and so could have him.)


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