guys y do have to make things so complicated???

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   .mely.posted 13 years ago

   so i went to his girl to his girlfriend...

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      brianzenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      So what happened?

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         .mely.posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         i was seeing this guy for bout 2 1/2 years and he deceides to move to mexico then he cheated we boke up got back to gether then cheated for several montjs then when he came back 6 months later i nroke up then we got back together nut i wasn't his "girlfriend" i was his "girl" everythinh was as if we were  boyfriend and girlfriend he even told his friends we were but we werent and well thats putting it short...

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            .mely.posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            sorry bout the errors...

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            europe24meposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            You were one of his girls. Like the flavor of the month. He is not ready for relationship and is just stringing you along, and being very selfish about it. Deal with Accept it or reject it, but do not be his dish rag. Me to me never really grow up,the just get a little wiser. wise cracks.

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      Will Say Plentyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      What?  I'm not sure I understand the question>

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         brianzenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         She told on him ( i think)

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      An improvement in attitude from him about respecting you and makes for a more serious type assessment.
      
      "His girl" is a childish, immature way to address a female. The fact that he has switched to "His Girlfriend" is an acknowledgment of you, as a person, a female.
      
      I would consider it a sign of respect. I would also see it as a sign of growing a little, maybe because of a connection he feels.
      
      In my study of people, there comes a point, where mature must rise to the occasion and present itself. Apparently he is introducing you differently to people. This is an obvious sign.
      
      So, with that said...that's my thoughts about it.
      
      There isn't a complication. You pay close enough attention to him and he will tell you everything you want to know about him. Just be observant and listen to the words he uses.
      
      His intentions will become obvious and you'll always be two steps ahead of him.

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         blondepoetposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Haha how you did that?

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            Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Hi Blondepoet, how are you today?
            
            Are you asking I how I answered the question or just surprised?

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               blondepoetposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               I am amazed how you understood what was going on.
               You are a smart man Cags!!!

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                  Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Thank you very much Blondepoet. I appreciate the compliment.

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   Colebabieposted 13 years ago

   I think I speak for everyone when I say, "Huh?"

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      TheGlassSpiderposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      At the very least you speak for me as well. Well said.

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      Hokeyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for saying this for me too.

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   TheGlassSpiderposted 13 years ago

   OH! So, he's cheating and she went and confronted the other woman??
   *slaps forehead*

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   blondepoetposted 13 years ago

   And you had a threesome then what....

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   Colebabieposted 13 years ago

   You got all that from two lines of grammatically incorrect "english"?

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Yes Cole. Btw, how are you?

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      Will Say Plentyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Ditto!

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         Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Yes Will Say Plenty. I did.

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            Will Say Plentyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I was going to when I read the OPs question but decided to do another hub instead.

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      h.a.borcichposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You spoke for me too!

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   Colebabieposted 13 years ago

   I'm good, just got back from Spring Break. This semester can't go by fast enough. But I'm good And you?

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Doing well. Thank you for asking.

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   GoGrannyposted 13 years ago

   I think guys make things complicated (in relationships) because they are insecure. But not all guys are complicated though...especially the wham, bam, thank you mam types....they just do it and go on about their way...it's those who want to come back for seconds that make it complicated!

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Insecure? You are joking right? Please, I've seen more men who are arrogant, self-absorbed, ego-maniacal than anything else. So, insecurity is not their problem.
      
      Apparently, the men you've met have that attitude. However, there are the exceptions and if women do as I said above, pay attention(everything he does) and listen to the words he uses, then you will know what you need to know. Simple enough. No complication.

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         GoGrannyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Sure, I am drawing on my own thrice divorced experience! I am talking about the insecure part...not the wham bam part!
         So you are saying that a man won't be complicated if the woman heeds his beck and call?

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            Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Where in anything I said did you come up with that impression? WOW!
            
            A woman is to be true to herself. If he asks her to do something, then she has two choices- do it or do not.
            
            Beck and call, is a foolish control game. If you've meet a man who want you to be at his beck and call, then he better be willing to pump the neighbor's dog. Because, if she is going to bend over backwards for him, it better be received back in an equal manner- otherwise the relationship is destined to fail.
            
            I hope that cleared up things for you.

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               GoGrannyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               "Insecure?  You are joking right? Please, I've seen more men who are arrogant, self-absorbed, ego-maniacal than anything else. So, insecurity is not their problem"
               
               Yes it is if they feel they must put on such acts then they are blatantly insecure. A real man doesn't need to overdo himself to be considered confident and manly. I do get your points - well taken. You are talking about good guys, though. I was referring to the arrogant, self-absorbed, ego types...as I inferred ...I was married to three insecure men. I will not do that again!
               Thanks Cag

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                  Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  You're basing your entire statement on an assumption that it is an act? WOW!
                  
                  Do you think everyone puts up a front to who they are? You really have a low opinion of people.

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   Cagsilposted 13 years ago

   That's in your experience. I'm sorry you had a bad experience, but not everyone is like what you've experienced.

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   brianzenposted 13 years ago

   There is a strange phenomena known as male bashing, and I think it is a form of sexism as well, some guys may be insecure but why generalize? I think if a man who looks for a strong independent women like yourself becomes insecure it might be a result of indifferent man hating! (I am so just kidding)

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    Cagsilposted 13 years ago

    I would say you have a bigger problem. Just from what you explained. He might be simply playing you? Unlikely, but it could be the case.
    
    I stand by my original post. If he is stepping up and learning to respect you? Is still to be seen by you and if it continues.
    
    My recommendation in my original post was for you to keep paying attention to everything about him. The way he acts, the way he talks, the way he reacts, watch facial expression(even liars give tells that they don't know about) and mostly listen to how he talks to you and others in your presence.
    
    See if things change, either for the better or the worse. You'll be ahead of him, because he won't know you're doing it. Unless, he likes to watch people himself and is good at it.
    
    That's my thoughts on it.

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