What and when do you share things about old realtionships?

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   britecoachposted 15 years ago

   What and/ or when do you feel it is okay to share things with your new lover about old relationships?

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      Greek Oneposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      once i am exclusive with a woman I tell her all...
      
      Since I am classy though, I leave out the graphic parts about the chains, the orangutans and the Avon lady with the @%@%$

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         britecoachposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Cute..do you ever feel talking to much can cause problems in the current relationships. For example: Cheating issues

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            Greek Oneposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            I dont think talking about what happened causes the problems...
            It is what actually happened itself that causes the problems...
            
            Talking about it just gets it out in the open so that you can be honest with one another and so whatever happened in the past doesnt hit you in the face later on.  In that case, not only might your partner be upset about your past, but also by the fact that you didn't come out with the truth to begin with.
            
            True, your partner might not like what happened in the past.. and maybe dislike it so much as to dump you.  At least whatever relationship you do/might end up having will be built on honesty though

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               britecoachposted 15 years agoin reply to this

               DEEP thanks

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   donotfearposted 15 years ago

   Remain discreet in revealing too much intimate detail. It's perfectly okay to discuss the reasons behind past regrets & experiences, unless confessing too much would cause emotional or personal harm to the other party.

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   FranyaBlueposted 15 years ago

   It is never OK! Keep the past in your head, people are insecure as it is without adding to it.

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   generalbratposted 14 years ago

   I have been with my soul mate for 16 years. we are junior high school sweet hearts. my advice and his is always keep it 100% real truthfull with lots of love and understanding 24/7 all year long....the love i have for my husbans ramiro is that we must have understanding and always forgive each other. learn from our mistakes.

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   thougtforceposted 14 years ago

   I dont think you should tell, and if you tell, it should be of some use for your partner. If it´s just for the sake of being honest with each other, I dont get it. The past is the past.

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   wildorangeflowerposted 14 years ago

   don't compare is all (your ex and present), when the partner ask, just be honest about what happened

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