Provocative dress as a catalyst

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   thirdmilleniumposted 12 years ago

   I have been inspired to put this up for public consideration, prising out the topic from another forum topic.
   
   Some people are of the opinion that  the way a girl dresses has to do with rape, inviting the rape as it were.
   
   I would say that even if a girl walks around, you can not go rape her, period.
   And, if you can do that, would you do it too, had the girl been your sis? After all, she has the same physical assets like any other girl does. And it is raw flesh that you feast your eyes on that makes you do it, doesn't it? Flesh is flesh is flesh, whether it is your sister's or any other girl's!

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      Len Cannonposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      No one is inviting rape by dressing the way they feel comfortable. Rape is a violent act committed by criminals.  Anyone who claims that someone is raped because of the way they dress is blaming the victim and should be utterly ashamed of themselves.

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   lxxyposted 12 years ago

   I don't think so.
   
   I can't remember one of the women studies / gender documentaries I was watching, but studies have shown that when a woman is ovulating she is more likely to do two things:
   
   a. Dress provocatively (at least in their culture)
   
   and
   
   b. Sleep around with more men (something to do about how sperm interacts with the egg, etc.)

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      thirdmilleniumposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      These "studies" have to be taken with a pinch (or loads of) salt, to be sure!

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         lxxyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Well, it was based on college students, so, I suppose as a woman grows older things may change.
         
         But with all things, take them with a grain of scepticism and call your opinion in the morning.

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   Ohmaposted 12 years ago

   Rape is not about sex. It is now and always has been about power and control.

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      lxxyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Agreed. Serial rapists generally end up becoming serial murderers.

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   jerrylposted 12 years ago

   Provocative dress is a catalyst.  The proof is in the many
   arrests resulting from female police officers dressing provocatively in sting operations.

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      lxxyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      False. She's acting like a hoe, skimpy clothing is just easier to get out of and change back into.

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      Ohmaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      You are kidding right? How very Victorian of you.
      She deserved it because she allowed someone a glimpse of her ankle!

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         lxxyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         

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            Ohmaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Way to cool Ixxy!

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               lxxyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               Oh, I try.
               
               Thank the guy who made the comic, really. Otherwise, it'd be stick figures.

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            Pearldiverposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Excellent mag and it has helped so many bond with their small dogs as well!
            Though I'm sure that's already known in Germantown PA

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         Marisa Wrightposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Ohma, if it was just an ankle it would be different.
         
         I do feel women have to take some responsibility for their actions. 
         
         If you're going to go out to a nightclub with your boobs practically falling out of your top, and your skirt so short you can almost see tomorrow's laundry, you are making a statement. You're displaying your sexual wares just like a babboon displays its coloured bottom.  You're saying "I'm available". 
         
         I'm not saying it's an invitation to rape, but it is an invitation to explore the possibility of having sex.   I've seen a lot of reported rapes recently which occurred in a hotel room, or in the man's home, and I'm thinking - girl, if you flaunted your half-naked body at this guy and he invited you to a hotel room or his bedroom, what did you think he had in mind???  Dominoes?

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            lxxyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Haha, personally, I'm more fond of Scrabble. Anyone up for a game in my humble abode?
            
            At that end, I think you're correct Marisa, sometimes a woman wants to look and feel sexy and she goes out to show herself off with her girlfriends. But that doesn't mean an invitation of rape.
            
            It's just an invitation to buy a lady a drink.

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               Marisa Wrightposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               That's true, but if the girl is dressed in a highly provocative manner, that can lead the guy to make a wrong assumption, and think she is looking to hook up.  That can lead him to misinterpret her signals, especially if she's stupid enough to encourage him.  No excuse for rape, as you say, but occasionally I see reports which make me wonder - was it really rape, or did she just change her mind at the last minute, or regret it later when she thought Mom might find out?

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                  lxxyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  Ya know, I knew a lesbian in high school. Like, my gaydar went way off. I could tell a million miles away, just passing her in the hallway. Anyway, her--and a mutual friend of a friend (and the guy in question, the friend of friend, I knew, too) had a little bit of fun.
                  
                  She was, I suppose, testing out to make sure she wasn't full on lesbian? Anyway, she claimed rape against him. But those of us who know the guy in question--and her--there's complete doubt to the claim.
                  
                  So, in essence, yes, I think maybe some cries of rape are false.
                  
                  But I don't think they're nearly as high as actual cases, maybe less than one percent. Of course, 70% of all statistics are made up on the spot.

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            Ohmaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Marisa,
            While I agree that if a women takes a man up on his advances and then latter regrets the choice she should not cry rape, but dressing in sexy attire in and of itself is neither an invitation or a cause for rape.

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               k@riposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               I have to agree with Ohma...rape is not about sex, it's all about power and control.  It doesn't matter how the individual is dressed.

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