How life continues when he is gone

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   PinkNavyWifeposted 14 years ago

   My husband is deployed in a war zone and granted he is 23 after all, but he seems to think that when he leaves for an extended amount if time the kids and I remain in suspended animation and only come alive at his behest. Sorry it does not work like that. I become mommy and daddy, if the car breaks down I have to push it and figure out what is wrong with it. By the way the battery died on the neon and it was parked across the street and I moved it by myself. I have to clean a 4brdm 2bathroom house with a 13yr old disabled kid. I tube feed him diaper him and shower him. Did I mention the 2yr and 7mos old and their needs?  So please be more considerate and realize that although you are out there in a highly stressful situation I am here worried about you but keeping the household afloat. So please don't get an attitude if you msg me to chat online and expect me to be awake.

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      Froggy213posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I also agree with Grannie--My wife died in November, and what I would give to just have the stress of who does what back.
      I too, take care of everything now and I would give anything to get a message from her, even if I was dead asleep.
      Hang tuff girl--we are only here for a very short time

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         Froggy213posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I meant Goldie

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   GmaGoldieposted 14 years ago

   The caregiver is always bearing the brunt of work and emotions.  Be strong and persevere.  It is a team effort.
   
   Be thankful throughout the day for your family's health, the roof over your head - yes, it is not fair but life is not fair - we must take what we are given and be appreciative.
   
   God would not allow this if you were not strong enough to bear this.
   
   You and your family are in my prayers.

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