Be Brutally Honest, what would you tell my cousin?

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   FelineFranceposted 12 years ago

   My cousin is not the type of guy most girls think is cute andI am not just saying this because we are related. He thinks by saying things like he can get any girl he wants, that he is a money (even though he works at K-Mart), or that he has many girl's after him will make him appear confident or that girls will gravitate to him because the same thing works for his other guys friends.
   He copies what he sees friends do, but the only reason they can brag about money is because they do have money, and they can brag about having many girls after them because they are the type of guys that women would think is cute and women are after him.
   He does ask for my advice, but I do not want to break his self-esteem and tell him honestly the only reason those lines do not work for him because they are complete exaggeration of who he is. If he acted like the kind, humble, guy he is girls may actually like him.

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      Randy Godwinposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      To be brutally honest, I'd be brutally honest!

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         Cagsilposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Agreed.

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      Greek Oneposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I think your cousin's strategy is bag on... but he has to believe it himself first..or be a really good actor

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   Aficionadaposted 12 years ago

   You could say something like, "Be yourself - you're the only one of you there is.  If a girl likes you because you are acting like someone else, then she's not really liking you."

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   UndisclosedDesireposted 12 years ago

   I would tell the truth about how you feel to him.
   
   always important tell him to "BE HIMSELF".
   
   and if any girl can not accept him for who he is than she is not worth it.

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   Disappearingheadposted 12 years ago

   What does he want? A real relationship with a woman? In which case you need to tell him to grow up and get a life. If he's just wanting a shag now and then, then he will carry on in such a way as he thinks will get him one, and nothing you say will make a difference.

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   Onusonusposted 12 years ago

   Chicks dig dudes with money. Tell him to get a real job.

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   ftclickposted 12 years ago

   If you are close to him, then you should say what it actually is. be honest.

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   livewithrichardposted 12 years ago

   Tell your cousin to remember the words of Popeye "I am what I am"  and have him watch this video:
   
   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F8TRoMSG-5I

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   iQwestposted 12 years ago

   I agree with many of the comments being posted.  Being honest and upfront is the best way to go.  Allowing someone to believe they're something they're not is more harmful in my opinion (based on the circumstances you've described).
   
   We all have our strengths and weaknesses.  Even though it's not easy, we have to rely on our strengths, work on our weaknesses, but be okay knowing that we're not going to be all things to all people.
   
   Being true and honest with yourself will enable you to give the best of yourself to others.

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   Home Girlposted 12 years ago

   "Being true and honest with yourself will enable you to give the best of yourself to others." How true!
   
   
   

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      Greek Oneposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      It's a man-eat-frog world out there
      
      To get the ladies, your friend must exhibit the alpha man qualities they instinctively seek... confidence, charm, and above all, lack of desperation for their attention and affection.
      
      If he does that, then it won't matter how much money he has.... they will end up given theirs to him
      
      

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    puddingicecreamposted 12 years ago

    I would definitely just be honest with him, and tell him not to exaggerate. I also agree with "being yourself," as cheesy as that may sound.

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