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   lawrencebeach2010posted 13 years ago

   Can you put the past behind you in a relationship? Or will it haunt you forever?

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I wrote a hub- "The Past, The Present or The Future - Which Controls Your View?" - IF you're interested.

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   knolyourselfposted 13 years ago

   Not if you have a present and future.

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      lawrencebeach2010posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Some poeple dont consider the future they only live off there past

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   klarawieckposted 13 years ago

   Some things will haunt you even if you try to leave them behind. But this, of course, only happens if you are not honest with your present relationship and confess to what you've done, so that there are no surprises.

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   knolyourselfposted 13 years ago

   Personally I don't live in the past; what's done is done. However been writing autobiographical stories again which projects me into the past. Review it good. However the future is a tough one, and involves the passion of future creation.

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   dixie28714posted 13 years ago

   depends on the situation, but I can't imagine who would want whatever in their past to haunt them and live with it.  They would either have to forgive and move on with the relationship or call it quits.

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   Moms-Secretposted 13 years ago

   I say accepting the past leads to your best future.  Like it or not, or pasts help build up who we are.  I have great pasts and horrible pasts.  They were the path to my current and I would not change them.  As long as your past does not hold you captive, you will come out fine!

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      HattieMattieMaeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Personally I think this involves some age and maturity some times, and other times I think it has to do with how well you are at letting go of things, and detaching from others and circumstances. I think as we grow older we disengage from the past a little more than we did when we were younger. Depends on what a person is focused on, and even if they do practice the technique of staying in the present moment. Of course how intimate you were with a person, and how close you were to them makes it more difficult. There are many different ways you can look at this from many angles.

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   4tuneposted 13 years ago

   Yes you can ( remember they are people ) Just people with their own screwed up ideas and issues, FORGIVE them and move the hell on with life and accept if you screwed up and just try not to do it again.
   
   Sure some people maybe you will love FOREVER.. But that don't mean you cant love again.. Just seems that way I think for a while anyhow.
   
   But then maybe I don't know what the hell I am talking about, I don't know sh*t. Anyone got a hard drink on them? I could really go for something that just burns like hell when it huts the stomach about now and then makes you kinda numb and relaxed.
   
   Okay off topic, But yeah maybe look for some of the same appealing qualities personality wise is all.

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