Have you ever helped an unknown perrson in your life time and?

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   VENZKHVAMposted 12 years ago

   
   Have you ever helped an unknown perrson in your life time  & later regretted it or felt happy about the help irrespective of  a lack lustre attitude by the person who recieved your help?

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      KeithTaxposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Back in the 1980's when I had my office in the home, I saw a woman pushed out of a car outside my home. I went out and helped her up and brought her into the house until the police came.
      
      The next tax season one of my clients started telling the story about the nice man who helped one of their tenants that was pushed out of a car and let her into his home until the police arrived. I smiled politely while the warm and fuzzy feeling grew inside.
      
      It proves what goes around, comes around.

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         VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         you mean to say that   what you sow that you reap . Am I right?

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      Valerie Fposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Sure. Sometimes I feel pretty decent about it. Sometimes I'm too busy figuring what I could have done to be of better help to pat myself on the back. A few times I may feel a little frustrated, worried, or downright rattled. Once I even needed to hide for a bit afterward and cry. But it's all in a day's work, and I won't stop.

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   Cagsilposted 12 years ago

   Yes, I have helped people who are not known to me. And, no I've never regretted helping them.
   
   I know what I did was right and regardless of them, it's my way of making a difference.

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      paradigmsearchposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      +1

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      VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      But will you feel bad if the szame person mistreats you or never acknowledge that you did the help?

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         Cagsilposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Nope.

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            paradigmsearchposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            I have an inquiry...

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               VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               what is your inquiry paradigm search

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   Emile Rposted 12 years ago

   I've never regretted helping. I actually appreciate a lack lustre response, more than I do some. Like 'God bless you'. I don't like that. Why should someone expect a deity to bless me for an action that should be a natural response to the need of another?
   
   To be honest, I don't help as much as I should and when I help someone I usually feel guilty. I feel so good about being able to help, I think I get more out of it than the other person does. I think they are cheated in the exchange.

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      VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      so what exactly are you you going to do if you get a chance to help , will you look back for his gratitude?

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         Emile Rposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Like I said. I never expect it. I'm the grateful one. I'm in a position to try and help and not the one in need of it.

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            VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            OK that sounds good and  a very clear message. thanks for giving me the clarifications

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   knolyourselfposted 12 years ago

   Ya - I got to save someone's life, a teenager drowning, a long time ago. Swam out and brought him in with the neck hold to shore. Funny thing was his whole family was there all strangers, and I having long hair and beard did notl get so much as a bye or leave ya, nothing. Not a word was said. But that's beside the point.

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      paradigmsearchposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      No, it isn't.

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      VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Knolyourself,
                          what you ahd done is a selfless act. this is really sweet. it happens out of impulse, where you dont havce time to read.

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   habeeposted 12 years ago

   Yes, and I've never regretted it. Never.

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      paradigmsearchposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Now that is unusual. Normally we get screwed.

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         VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         hahaha  i know you afre speaking the truth , But still iam looking out for those good natured still out there with some good experiences?

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   earnestshubposted 12 years ago

   Have I ever helped an unknown person? I do it as a way of life everyday, as many others do.
   
   I don't hang around expecting thanks, but often get it anyway. Helping others where possible is not an event, it is a part of daily life.

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      VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      that sounds great ,that youa re able to do it in day to day life.Can you for the benefit of the readers put couple of examples and the feelings.

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         earnestshubposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         OK I will try to explain with a couple of simple things that I have done of late.
         
         Shopping this morning, I saw and elderly man trying to dial out on a pay phone and hold his weight up with a walking stick. I grabbed a chair from the shop next door and put it in place for him. Took 20 seconds and almost no effort.
         
         While I was in the store one of the people loading shelve was dropping cans on the floor. I picked them up and helped her to juggle the case they fell out of.
         
         Last week I changes a tire for a lady on the freeway.
         
         I don't have much feeling about it at all, I simply see the opportunity to be useful and deem it to be what I am supposed to do as a civilised person living in a civilised society.

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   Reality Bytesposted 12 years ago

   Helping a person with the thought of gratitude in return is not really help at all.  It is a form of ego gratification of self.

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      paradigmsearchposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I disagree. Now what?

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         Reality Bytesposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Your welcome?

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      paradigmsearchposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Actually, I agree. Now what?

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         Reality Bytesposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks?

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            VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            so this thanks given is ego satisfaction am i right?

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               Reality Bytesposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               If that helps

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                  VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  hahaha

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         recommend1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

         So - now go help that poor glowing green cat get painted so it can get back to chasing mice at night !!!!!

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            VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            hahahaha that's nice.

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   nimeshgraphicposted 12 years ago

   s i have helped a uncle met with an accident  though i couldnt attend my college on tht particular day i felt happiness on his family face for bringing him to hospital at right time on tht day i felt proud on myself

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      VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      ok that is good one man

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   imediadishaposted 12 years ago

   yes!!! and it really felt great !

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      VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      that is nice to know

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    asmaiftikharposted 12 years ago

    yes dear i agree with you that what you sow that you reap.in my professional life i help many people but dont have any regrat about it.

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       VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Cool  that sounds some thing great. i too had helped minimum 150 people to get job in pharma industry . Majority of them are in great position today and whenever they see me the love and affection in their eyes had given me immense pleasure for what i had did.

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    georgescifoposted 12 years ago

    yes..it has happened numerous times in my life...its all parts and parcel of life..we have to take it as granted and move along...

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    VENZKHVAMposted 12 years ago

    well siad,
    so it means little things even which makes no difference to you but to others it become big help and for which in mind they will surely thank you .
    
    this is good.

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    VENZKHVAMposted 12 years ago

    well siad,
    so it means little things even which makes no difference to you but to others it become big help and for which in mind they will surely thank you .
    
    this is good.

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    VENZKHVAMposted 12 years ago

    well siad,
    so it means little things even which makes no difference to you but to others it become big help and for which in mind they will surely thank you .
    
    this is good.

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    AEvansposted 12 years ago

    Yes, without any regrets.

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       VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       I am that is the mantra of selfless acts. "no regrets."

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       earnestshubposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       No expectation takes care of that.

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    Marie-Reneeposted 12 years ago

    Yes I have helped somebody and even strangers without expecting anything in return from that person but hoping that a loved one would get the same help someday. I do believe in karma. I have also had situations when my help was turned into a negative thing, that hurt but I have accepted the fact that life's like that, you really can't please everybody.

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       VENZKHVAMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       100/100 MARKS TO THIS ANSWER. you are right  what ever you do you get repaid back in your life time.

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    Stacie Lposted 12 years ago

    I have helped many people in my lifetime,without a lot of reciprocation.
    I don't do it for anything in return;it makes me happy to help.
    There are times when it would be nice to have that help without asking for it. There are two types of people in the world; those who expect others to come running when they are in trouble and those who come running to help.
    One can't exist without the other.

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    Wentworth35posted 12 years ago

    I have had a friend for some years, who always has a lot of trouble in her life.  Whenever something is going wrong, she phones me, and asks me to solve the problems for her.  Of course, I cannot do this, all I can do is offer advice and a listening ear.  But this is not enough, and she actually demands that I tell her what to do.  She also is under the impression that I am psychic and that I will be able to see into the future and tell her how things will work out.  It doesn't matter how often I tell her I am not psychic, because she insists that I am.
    
    Sometimes I have been on the phone with her for hours, talking over her problems and trying to find a solution.  However, when I have had a problem, and decided to ring her, she tells me that she is far too busy to talk and puts the phone down.   In fact, every time I have phoned her, even if it is to ask her how she is, she says the same thing and puts down the phone.  So, I no longer call her, but wait until she calls me, asking me to solve her problems.  I do get annoyed, but have never said so, and still try to help her the best I can.

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       Stacie Lposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       My advice to to not take any more calls from her or tell her that you are too busy.
       we teach people how to treat us...

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    VENZKHVAMposted 12 years ago

    @STACIE That is the key point.  with out expecting there lies the wonder. congratulations
    
    @went worth   thanks for your participation.
      Stacie is wright in saying that you should forever stop attending here calls. That will give you more piece OF MIND.
    Wish you all the best.

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