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Have you ever helped an unknown perrson in your life time and?

  1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
    VENZKHVAMposted 6 years ago

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    Have you ever helped an unknown perrson in your life time  & later regretted it or felt happy about the help irrespective of  a lack lustre attitude by the person who recieved your help?

    1. KeithTax profile image70
      KeithTaxposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Back in the 1980's when I had my office in the home, I saw a woman pushed out of a car outside my home. I went out and helped her up and brought her into the house until the police came.

      The next tax season one of my clients started telling the story about the nice man who helped one of their tenants that was pushed out of a car and let her into his home until the police arrived. I smiled politely while the warm and fuzzy feeling grew inside.

      It proves what goes around, comes around.

      1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
        VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        you mean to say that   what you sow that you reap . Am I right?

    2. Valerie F profile image60
      Valerie Fposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Sure. Sometimes I feel pretty decent about it. Sometimes I'm too busy figuring what I could have done to be of better help to pat myself on the back. A few times I may feel a little frustrated, worried, or downright rattled. Once I even needed to hide for a bit afterward and cry. But it's all in a day's work, and I won't stop.

  2. Cagsil profile image59
    Cagsilposted 6 years ago

    Yes, I have helped people who are not known to me. And, no I've never regretted helping them.

    I know what I did was right and regardless of them, it's my way of making a difference.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image93
      paradigmsearchposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      +1

    2. VENZKHVAM profile image61
      VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      But will you feel bad if the szame person mistreats you or never acknowledge that you did the help?

      1. Cagsil profile image59
        Cagsilposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Nope.

        1. paradigmsearch profile image93
          paradigmsearchposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          I have an inquiry...

          1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
            VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            what is your inquiry paradigm search

  3. profile image0
    Emile Rposted 6 years ago

    I've never regretted helping. I actually appreciate a lack lustre response, more than I do some. Like 'God bless you'. I don't like that. Why should someone expect a deity to bless me for an action that should be a natural response to the need of another?

    To be honest, I don't help as much as I should and when I help someone I usually feel guilty. I feel so good about being able to help, I think I get more out of it than the other person does. I think they are cheated in the exchange.

    1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
      VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      so what exactly are you you going to do if you get a chance to help , will you look back for his gratitude?

      1. profile image0
        Emile Rposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Like I said. I never expect it. I'm the grateful one. I'm in a position to try and help and not the one in need of it.

        1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
          VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          OK that sounds good and  a very clear message. thanks for giving me the clarifications

  4. knolyourself profile image61
    knolyourselfposted 6 years ago

    Ya - I got to save someone's life, a teenager drowning, a long time ago. Swam out and brought him in with the neck hold to shore. Funny thing was his whole family was there all strangers, and I having long hair and beard did notl get so much as a bye or leave ya, nothing. Not a word was said. But that's beside the point.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image93
      paradigmsearchposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      No, it isn't. smile

    2. VENZKHVAM profile image61
      VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Knolyourself,
                          what you ahd done is a selfless act. this is really sweet. it happens out of impulse, where you dont havce time to read.

  5. habee profile image95
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    Yes, and I've never regretted it. Never.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image93
      paradigmsearchposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Now that is unusual. Normally we get screwed. smile

      1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
        VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        hahaha  i know you afre speaking the truth , But still iam looking out for those good natured still out there with some good experiences?

  6. earnestshub profile image88
    earnestshubposted 6 years ago

    Have I ever helped an unknown person? I do it as a way of life everyday, as many others do.

    I don't hang around expecting thanks, but often get it anyway. Helping others where possible is not an event, it is a part of daily life.

    1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
      VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      that sounds great ,that youa re able to do it in day to day life.Can you for the benefit of the readers put couple of examples and the feelings.

      1. earnestshub profile image88
        earnestshubposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        OK I will try to explain with a couple of simple things that I have done of late.

        Shopping this morning, I saw and elderly man trying to dial out on a pay phone and hold his weight up with a walking stick. I grabbed a chair from the shop next door and put it in place for him. Took 20 seconds and almost no effort.

        While I was in the store one of the people loading shelve was dropping cans on the floor. I picked them up and helped her to juggle the case they fell out of.

        Last week I changes a tire for a lady on the freeway.

        I don't have much feeling about it at all, I simply see the opportunity to be useful and deem it to be what I am supposed to do as a civilised person living in a civilised society.

  7. Reality Bytes profile image84
    Reality Bytesposted 6 years ago

    Helping a person with the thought of gratitude in return is not really help at all.  It is a form of ego gratification of self.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image93
      paradigmsearchposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I disagree. Now what?

      1. Reality Bytes profile image84
        Reality Bytesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Your welcome?

    2. paradigmsearch profile image93
      paradigmsearchposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Actually, I agree. Now what?

      1. Reality Bytes profile image84
        Reality Bytesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks?

        1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
          VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          so this thanks given is ego satisfaction am i right?

          1. Reality Bytes profile image84
            Reality Bytesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            If that helps smile

            1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
              VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

              hahaha

      2. recommend1 profile image72
        recommend1posted 6 years agoin reply to this

        So - now go help that poor glowing green cat get painted so it can get back to chasing mice at night !!!!!

        1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
          VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          hahahaha that's nice.

  8. nimeshgraphic profile image60
    nimeshgraphicposted 6 years ago

    s i have helped a uncle met with an accident  though i couldnt attend my college on tht particular day i felt happiness on his family face for bringing him to hospital at right time on tht day i felt proud on myself wink

    1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
      VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      ok that is good one man

  9. imediadisha profile image60
    imediadishaposted 6 years ago

    yes!!! and it really felt great !

    1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
      VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      that is nice to know

  10. asmaiftikhar profile image77
    asmaiftikharposted 6 years ago

    yes dear i agree with you that what you sow that you reap.in my professional life i help many people but dont have any regrat about it.

    1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
      VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Cool  that sounds some thing great. i too had helped minimum 150 people to get job in pharma industry . Majority of them are in great position today and whenever they see me the love and affection in their eyes had given me immense pleasure for what i had did.

  11. georgescifo profile image76
    georgescifoposted 6 years ago

    yes..it has happened numerous times in my life...its all parts and parcel of life..we have to take it as granted and move along...

  12. VENZKHVAM profile image61
    VENZKHVAMposted 6 years ago

    well siad,
    so it means little things even which makes no difference to you but to others it become big help and for which in mind they will surely thank you .

    this is good.

  13. VENZKHVAM profile image61
    VENZKHVAMposted 6 years ago

    well siad,
    so it means little things even which makes no difference to you but to others it become big help and for which in mind they will surely thank you .

    this is good.

  14. VENZKHVAM profile image61
    VENZKHVAMposted 6 years ago

    well siad,
    so it means little things even which makes no difference to you but to others it become big help and for which in mind they will surely thank you .

    this is good.

  15. AEvans profile image80
    AEvansposted 6 years ago

    Yes, without any regrets. smile

    1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
      VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I am that is the mantra of selfless acts. "no regrets."

    2. earnestshub profile image88
      earnestshubposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      No expectation takes care of that. smile

  16. Marie-Renee profile image84
    Marie-Reneeposted 6 years ago

    Yes I have helped somebody and even strangers without expecting anything in return from that person but hoping that a loved one would get the same help someday. I do believe in karma. I have also had situations when my help was turned into a negative thing, that hurt but I have accepted the fact that life's like that, you really can't please everybody.

    1. VENZKHVAM profile image61
      VENZKHVAMposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      100/100 MARKS TO THIS ANSWER. you are right  what ever you do you get repaid back in your life time.

  17. Stacie L profile image89
    Stacie Lposted 6 years ago

    I have helped many people in my lifetime,without a lot of reciprocation.
    I don't do it for anything in return;it makes me happy to help.
    There are times when it would be nice to have that help without asking for it. There are two types of people in the world; those who expect others to come running when they are in trouble and those who come running to help.
    One can't exist without the other.

  18. profile image0
    Wentworth35posted 6 years ago

    I have had a friend for some years, who always has a lot of trouble in her life.  Whenever something is going wrong, she phones me, and asks me to solve the problems for her.  Of course, I cannot do this, all I can do is offer advice and a listening ear.  But this is not enough, and she actually demands that I tell her what to do.  She also is under the impression that I am psychic and that I will be able to see into the future and tell her how things will work out.  It doesn't matter how often I tell her I am not psychic, because she insists that I am.

    Sometimes I have been on the phone with her for hours, talking over her problems and trying to find a solution.  However, when I have had a problem, and decided to ring her, she tells me that she is far too busy to talk and puts the phone down.   In fact, every time I have phoned her, even if it is to ask her how she is, she says the same thing and puts down the phone.  So, I no longer call her, but wait until she calls me, asking me to solve her problems.  I do get annoyed, but have never said so, and still try to help her the best I can.

    1. Stacie L profile image89
      Stacie Lposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      My advice to to not take any more calls from her or tell her that you are too busy.
      we teach people how to treat us...

  19. VENZKHVAM profile image61
    VENZKHVAMposted 6 years ago

    @STACIE That is the key point.  with out expecting there lies the wonder. congratulations

    @went worth   thanks for your participation.
      Stacie is wright in saying that you should forever stop attending here calls. That will give you more piece OF MIND.
    Wish you all the best.

 
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