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Is there any problem with a younger guy marrying and older girl?

  1. Justjed profile image60
    Justjedposted 5 years ago

    A friend was very much in love with a girl and he plans to marry her. But the girl is saying she cant just because is some months older than the guy. The guy is doing all sorts to persuade the girl but she is not budging. I guess, he has to move on . Any crime in a younger guy marrying a lady couple of months older?

    1. Diane Inside profile image82
      Diane Insideposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      If its a matter of months it seems unimportant honestly. 
      I married a man six months my younger.  Didn't bother me.

    2. recommend1 profile image65
      recommend1posted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I have rarely heard anything so stupid and pointless - what possible relevance does a few months difference have over a lifetime.

    3. JamaGenee profile image88
      JamaGeneeposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      A few months difference in age is NOT a valid reason to refuse marriage if both parties truly love each other. There's something else going on here. Sounds like the girl is using the beyond-lame "I'm older than you" excuse instead of simply saying she doesn't want to marry him, period. He should definitely move on and forget her. She's a lost cause, not worth his time or energy to try to change her mind. She won't.

      btw, I was six months older than my second husband and it was only a "problem" in the sense that every year from my birthday until his, he could razz me (in fun, of course) about my "advanced age".

  2. mistyhorizon2003 profile image90
    mistyhorizon2003posted 5 years ago

    No problem at all. My Mum is a year older than my Step Father, and it is a far far happier marriage than she had to my real (now deceased) Father who was much older than her, (and they have now been married over 15 years). Months mean nothing, it is only a potential problem if the age gap is substantial, especially if the women is older than the man, and then only if it is by a good number of years.

  3. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 5 years ago

    Age isn't as important as maturity level.

  4. Pearldiver profile image87
    Pearldiverposted 5 years ago

    It's far worse when you take her to meet your parents and your father remembers her intimately from his school days! big_smile

  5. wheelinallover profile image80
    wheelinalloverposted 5 years ago

    The wife I will love until the day I die was two years older than I. Love is not about age. It is about chemistry and whether each party can get along with the future in laws. An important question is, do you want this person to be the mother or father of your child?

    My grandmother had a saying "love h***, can you stand to look across the breakfast table and see this person for the next 60 years". If the answer is no, don't marry them. She took care of the man she loved for two years after he was bedridden, caused by a stroke, and fed him his meals for those two years. He was 20 years older than she was.

    When she was asked in later years if she would marry him again she said she would in a heart beat. One thing many people don't realize is women usually live 12 years longer than the men they marry. So a few months should be no big thing. My grandmother lived to be 89, she had been without the man she loved for fifty years.

  6. profile image60
    wim99posted 5 years ago

    Spend your time in deep meditation on this question, because like a zen koan, there is no single right answer. There are many forms of love in modern society, and a couple are developed out of a platonic relationship based on equality, and freedom. Judge not, lest ye be judged.

  7. pharuk temmy t profile image60
    pharuk temmy tposted 5 years ago

    It depends on the age range if they are no kids say under 20 or between 20 and 24 age. Age is just a number and it has got nothing to do with marriage. Instead what one has to figure out is the level of one's happiness with him because the best thing in marriage is happiness. if you are happy, put the age away and see him as a man and as the head of your home. Give all the due respect a man deserves and worry not about anything.Age is only figure that counts and maturity is different from wisdom.