Is 10 years too much of an age gap when it comes to dating someone?

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  1. stricktlydating profile image84
    stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

    Is 10 years too much of an age gap when it comes to dating someone?

  2. profile image58
    Jane Griffinposted 14 years ago

    Depends in my view on the younger persons age, if the younger person in below 18 and not really fully deveoped as a adult then yes, but if the younger person has a more mature outlook the go for it

  3. donotfear profile image84
    donotfearposted 14 years ago

    I can only answer from experience. Was married for 12 yrs to a man that was ten years older. Generation gap was huge. He was a Vietnam Vet, I was a 70's hippie. It just didn't work out, there were too many differences due to this gap. Plus the fact he was damaged from his experience in Vietnam. Probablly cannot speak for everyone else but I know another couple who split up for the same reason. Who knows? If you guys have a lot in common, go for it..

  4. dabeaner profile image59
    dabeanerposted 14 years ago

    20 and 10 could be a problem.  80 and 70 not so much.

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    shinujohn2010posted 14 years ago

    In case of dating age is not a problem . Only in case of marriage it comes into importance

  6. tanay253 profile image59
    tanay253posted 14 years ago

    Age should not be a factor in dating when mentality tallies.

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    reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

    age really doesnt make a difference once you have connected with that individual.  The connection is what matters.  Most people date become serious, get married and their is no connection and NO LOVE.  SO go figure.

  8. Laura Thykeson profile image62
    Laura Thykesonposted 14 years ago

    I am 49 and my hubby is just turned 40, and this is marraige #4 for me, but his first. Personally, he is the best thing to ever have happened to me! Luckily, we share the same interests on alot of music and art, although, when I was going to the concerts, such as Led Zeppelin, he was too young to stay up past 10pm, lol!!! But I have bridged the gap between him and his parents and made their relationship much better and closer also, according to both him and my in-laws. I can see both sides, being a parent and grandparent myself.

  9. Rthoughts profile image62
    Rthoughtsposted 14 years ago

    My mother is 45 and her husband is 70. I'm 22 so obviously i think it's gross. I look at it like this when he was 25 she was just now being born even though they are both of legal age and grown and can make their own decisions i don't agree with it but i love my mom to death and whatever makes her happy i'm going to support that.

  10. queenbe profile image59
    queenbeposted 14 years ago

    You have already gotten the answers I would say. I agree with them. It really comes down to how you two feel about it. Happiness in life is crucial. Search your heart and take your time and then you will 'feel' your answer. Just don't sell yourself short and 'settle' for second best. You deserve to be truly happy in your life. Best of luck.

  11. The Rope profile image62
    The Ropeposted 14 years ago

    depends on the outcome you are hoping for when you are dating.  it can be an enlightening and enriching experience to date people outside your own comfort zone.  if you are hoping for a long term relationship then i can't answer for everyone but i've been with my sweetie for over 25 years and there's a 12 yr age difference between us.  i think it has to do with the fundamental connections and how much each is willing to devote to the relationship, not the age factor.

  12. edguider profile image63
    edguiderposted 14 years ago

    Age should not be a factor at all. I would say 20 is pushing it but 10 is still fair. My parents have a 11 year gap and they are still married after 34 years

  13. It's just me profile image60
    It's just meposted 14 years ago

    only if one of the daters is still a child and the other an adult

  14. Paul Marshall profile image60
    Paul Marshallposted 14 years ago

    Not a problem if the people are compatable. My grandparents had a 10 year age gap and remained happily married for many many years. He passed awat 2 years ago age 98, & she followed 6 months later. She said she did not know what to do with her life without her love next to her. A TRUE romance story.

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    laxminayak05posted 14 years ago

    No... certainly not, when it comes to knowing a person, age does not matter, only the chemistry you have with the other person. It is all about the thoughts that match..and older people can become young and young ones be mature.

  16. bill yon profile image74
    bill yonposted 14 years ago

    as long as yawl are grown meaning 25 + 35 o.k. but 25 + 15 hell naww!

  17. DatingDragons profile image58
    DatingDragonsposted 14 years ago

    age is just a number both from a psychological and physiological perspective.  i think it's more important for the couple to have similar interests, outlook on life and plans for the future. 

    however, if one party is under the age of consent then this is obviously a problem and a criminal ofence.

  18. Singlesstreetlife profile image61
    Singlesstreetlifeposted 14 years ago

    It can be if the couple involved are not prepared to work on their relationship. Look at this way, the couple are essentially a decade apart.  If you for a few minutes consider the last decade and compare it to the current decade we are in, you have to acknowledge that much has changed.  If a conscious effort is not made by the couple, subconsciously their interactions, decisions, world view etc will be from two different decades.

    However love is blind and can cover a multitude of sins. At the end of the day it is down to the couple.

  19. Springboard profile image80
    Springboardposted 13 years ago

    I don't think so, generally. My wife and I are six years apart. My sister and her husband are 5 years apart. But we're also in our 30s. 10 years gap between someone who is 20 and 10 would be a bad idea. A 30 year old with a 20 year old I think is just fine.

  20. blue.lotus profile image60
    blue.lotusposted 13 years ago

    One of the greatest loves of my life is 11 years younger than I am and he speaks to my soul. 

    Must be two consenting adults.  And of course, it depends on the people and how compatible they are.  I wouldn't have dated just anyone that much younger than me, in fact I resisted him at first, but he was different...   and I don't regret it for even a second.

    Though he is young, he knows more about love than men even 10 years OLDER than me.

  21. CheckMate4U profile image58
    CheckMate4Uposted 13 years ago

    NO WAY!! Age is just another number...and ladies..never forget...a 40 year old man is equivalent to about a 20 year old woman, maturity wise

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    jkbensenposted 13 years ago

    Nope, my current roomate/girlfriend is much older than me, and to be honest I really dont care what people think.

  23. Theblackorean2010 profile image59
    Theblackorean2010posted 13 years ago

    I think it is a nice age least for me!  I have always dated older men and since 21 I usually only date men 10-15 years older than myself.  If one of the people in the relationship is a minor that this nice gap does not apply.  Teens need to date teens.  Adults need to date adults.

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    vampier920posted 13 years ago

    no if you are in love with the girl or guy you should be fine

  25. Jaynie2000 profile image85
    Jaynie2000posted 13 years ago

    I think it depends on the interests and maturity levels of each person involved. It also sometimes depends on what ages you're talking about. If you're 20 and he's 30, that might make a difference. At 20, you're likely still in college, clubbing, going to parties, figuring out your life goals. At 30, he may be trying to settle into a career, thinking about purchasing a first home, and maybe even interested in starting a family.

    But 10 years doesn't seem as big of a difference as 15-20 years when it comes to maturity and energy levels, so I'd say, if you're really interested in each other, go for it. There's no harm in trying if both parties are game.

  26. Jay Louidor profile image60
    Jay Louidorposted 13 years ago

    I don't think ten years is too much of a gap at all.

  27. freecampingaussie profile image62
    freecampingaussieposted 12 years ago

    I am 45 , my husband is 63 & we are having an amazing time as we have a lot in common which is VERY important  . We both love snorkelling , camping, travel, same music and a lot more !
    And patience is needed.

  28. Moon Willow Lake profile image69
    Moon Willow Lakeposted 12 years ago

    I don't think so. I am one of the writers for Moon Willow Lake, and I have always been with guys who are older than I am. The reason is because for whatever reason, I just could never connect with guys my own age. The person I'm with now is 26 years older than I am and we've been together in this way for almost 7 years now. We just have a good personality dynamic together.

  29. BreakingUp profile image61
    BreakingUpposted 12 years ago

    Compatibility is more important than age.

  30. IntuitiveMind profile image60
    IntuitiveMindposted 12 years ago

    NO! My hubby is 42 and I am 51.
    We are the loves of each others lives.
    Just depends on the individuals...sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Good for you!!!

  31. HaileyAdams profile image58
    HaileyAdamsposted 10 years ago

    I think no, because man are slower in developing, so actually you'll be at the same level, my personal opinion.

  32. Edward J. Palumbo profile image87
    Edward J. Palumboposted 9 years ago

    My wife and I are just over 10 years apart in age, and we've been married for 31 years. We met in the work environment; I was 34 and she was 24. Age didn't come up in conversation for quite a while, but I thought she was older and she thought I was younger. By the time it was a topic of discussion, age was irrelevant.

  33. profile image0
    swilliamsposted 9 years ago

    No. In some cases women mature faster than men so older men seem to want to settle down more. From a older woman and younger man standpoint you may want to make sure that young man is fully ready for a relationship.

  34. lostohanababy profile image57
    lostohanababyposted 9 years ago

    That depends on the 'situation' involving the dating.  And how mature or early age of the younger person in the relationship to the 10 years older partner.  It would take some work, but it can be a good relationship!

  35. C.V.Rajan profile image59
    C.V.Rajanposted 9 years ago

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  36. Andrew Paris profile image54
    Andrew Parisposted 8 years ago

    I wish I knew I'm 34 just went through 4 years with someone that age and now wanna have 3 kids with her?!?that's way to much to ask 18 she'll be nearing 70 vanity becomes less a sin there I wish I knew what to do she's part of my team from now on though and need's a roommate I need kids we like each other probly a mix up in a big city seeya I would do it though seeing old workers I work with

  37. MarieLB profile image76
    MarieLBposted 7 years ago

    It seems to me that what you are asking is would it be wise to date someone if it is the forerunner to a stronger committment, Age is a problem if you make it so.  Concentrate on whether you like being with that person, and they with you.  Discuss your values, your hopes for the future, and if all goes well, then you can make age JUST a number.

  38. nina64 profile image70
    nina64posted 6 years ago

    Age ain't nothing but a number. As long as two people are consenting adults, who knows what will become of the relationship. I once dated someone who was twelve years older than me. Too bad it didn't work out for us, but we have remained good friends down through the years.


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