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Uncontrollable Tears: Is there something wrong with it?

  1. unknown spy profile image75
    unknown spyposted 5 years ago

    I've been feeling this since I was a child, but it became increasingly difficult to ignore now that i'm old. When I saw people on streets,especially old men and women, and then when i would look closely at them, it feels like their whole life -their sufferings,their emotions,their hardships-would pierce through my heart.Then my eyes would start spilling these precious tears. But not all people,its not that i'm choosing  them but I just know when I saw one. The thing is, I don't even know them, why would I cry or why would it feels i know that life has been hard on them? Its just that I can't control the tears.

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Maybe its hormonal, genetic or the social environment specially when you are growing up - socialization process. Are your parents compassionate too?

      Do you actualize it, I mean do you go and help them too?

    2. IzzyM profile image88
      IzzyMposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Sounds like you are an empath.

      1. unknown spy profile image75
        unknown spyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        empath? is that good or bad?

        1. IzzyM profile image88
          IzzyMposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          I would say bad for you, unless you learn to shield yourself in some way.

          Empaths tune into other people's emotions, but you seem to only feel their pain, not their joy. If these people have suffered great pain in their lives at one point or another, you feel it. That will explain your emotive response - their pain shocks you; that is why you are reduced to tears, you feel it afresh just as if it is yours.

          Somehow or other, you will need to learn to block out the sufferings of others, for your own sanity.

          1. unknown spy profile image75
            unknown spyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

            yeah, i think you're right..i've researched some topics bout empath and it sound im one. My mom told me to stop thinking abut it, but i just cant help it. and it stays in my mind. as if i could see and feel the life they have. oh no...it sounds bad. Yes, i will have to learn to block these things.i just dont know where to start. sad

          2. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image93
            Marcy Goodfleischposted 5 years ago in reply to this

            Izzy has a good point - you absorb emotions and turn them into your own.  It might help you to learn how to set boundaries for this and protect yourself emotionally, while still retaining the ability to have a healthy level of empathy.

            1. unknown spy profile image75
              unknown spyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

              this sounds scary to me, i cant control my emotions anymore. thanks for your answers, really helped me a lot to think of possible solutions..i thought its normal to feel that way..lately ive been asking questions, like when i saw one and asked a friend if she feels it too..if she 'saw' the 'life' of that person, they would say no. that's where i started to ask myself if this is normal..

    3. AEvans profile image66
      AEvansposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      You are just very sensitive to people. There isn't anything wrong with tears it is your passion you have for mankind. It's a beautiful gift embrace it. smile

  2. unknown spy profile image75
    unknown spyposted 5 years ago

    i don't know with my parents..maybe, in their own way.. No, i dont help them if i saw one, i dont know what to say either.i dont want to look at them sometimes but the pain was ripping my heart. as if i want to escape and think that they will be alright so i wont cry anymore.

  3. janesix profile image61
    janesixposted 5 years ago

    This post is hard to take seriously with the giant picture of the crying eye and the use of terms such as "precious tears"

    1. unknown spy profile image75
      unknown spyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      oh..its just a representation.. and i use precious as an adjective for tears because tears cant just be given to everybody...

  4. moiponetsoka profile image31
    moiponetsokaposted 5 years ago

    i disagree ithe picture is very dramatic for me

    1. janesix profile image61
      janesixposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      The pain....the paiiiiinnnn!!!!!

      1. unknown spy profile image75
        unknown spyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        ?? what do you mean?

    2. unknown spy profile image75
      unknown spyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      tnx moiponetsoka..i kinda like the picture... smile

  5. jcmayer777 profile image75
    jcmayer777posted 5 years ago

    A loved one went through something roughly similar.

    She takes a couple of meds each day and swears it was the best thing she ever did.  The first step is to get over the fact it could be an emotional disorder (or whatever it's called) and accept it.  People are generally unwilling to accept anything like this because they think it means they are crazy.  A diabetic needs insulin and diet change, a man with a broken arm needs a cast, a person with an emotional problem of some sort needs help just the same.  Nothing wrong with it. 

    I would honestly suggest talking to a doctor.  Apart from the social stigma you might feel, it could be the best trip to the doctor you'll ever have and could seriously help you out tremendously.

    1. unknown spy profile image75
      unknown spyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      a psychologist maybe? i dont know if we have one here.. it's kinda exhausting feeling this everyday..seeing people and your heart is hurting again for no apparent reason just because "you've seen their sufferings or hardships or whatever there is". do you think there's a med for this one?

      1. IzzyM profile image88
        IzzyMposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        There's meds for everything but you don't want to go down that road if you can help it.

        What age are you, if you don't mind me asking?

        1. unknown spy profile image75
          unknown spyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          Hi Izzy, i just turned 24.. yes,and im not not med fanatic really, as long as i can handle or take it, i dont take med smile

  6. prettydarkhorse profile image63
    prettydarkhorseposted 5 years ago

    I also go with Ms Izzy. You said that you want to escape the imagery of it all. Do you think in some ways that you can do something with their sufferings and that you feel guilt? Maybe you can sit down and think what is causing that - failure to help, understanding why those things are happening to them. Do you feel helpless as well because you can't help them? If it really bad at times that it is affecting you even if you are not looking at them, you might want to consult a psychologist for initial take on what is causing it. Maybe you are a highly sensitive and an empathic person.

    I used to cry when I look at the TV and see those sexually abused (not only sexually but other forms of abuse) children. What I did is that I joined the UNICEF and I tried to donate some money to children causes. I feel good after what I did.

  7. snigdhal profile image59
    snigdhalposted 5 years ago

    Dear unknown spy ,
       
    I can sympathize with you because I used to be very much like that till a few years ago . My parents used to tell me its wonderful to be able to feel other people's pain in such a way . As I grew older i realized how just shedding tears wasn't helping me or anyone else .
      I would suggest that first you do make sure that you are not suffering from hormonal imbalances .  3 in every 10 women are suffering from hormonal imbalances.
    If not so , ask your self why exactly it is that you are crying . Is it because you really want to share their pain ? Logically crying over someone else's pain doesn't really help . If you truly want to be sympathetic pull up your socks , wipe away your tears and lend a helping hand .
      If you are crying because you perceive the world as having too many cruelties than you should speak to someone (a professional counsellor , a healer ,  whatever floats your boat really ) because there may be some basic problem bothering you .
      Either ways crying that much is not helpful !

  8. jirel profile image77
    jirelposted 5 years ago

    I think it is called empathy.When you're empathic you can feel the pain of others.Empathic people can also  be very emotional ;they do not like to see the suffering of people, as they are able to feel the emotions of others.Being empathic can cause problems too.Like you try hard to stop yourself but you can't stop yourself from crying.As far as I think its empathy.In order to reduce these feelings, you should be surrounded with happy people.If you're in a place which is peaceful and calm, I think you can avoid them. Empathic people do not have to choose a person.They can automatically know what is wrong with the people around them.It's an ability .Not everyone possess this ability.However, if you want to stop yourself from crying,please try to be in a place where there are no sufferings.There are empathic children who become sick because they are not able to see the pain of others.And this is involuntary.You won't be able to do anything about it.I think you should research more about it.This is what I've understood.Hope it helped.

  9. glmclendon profile image51
    glmclendonposted 5 years ago

    If crying clears your system do so. If this is all the time I think it may hender you from making some decisions.

    Why would one take on the emotions of other people? Maybe I have this wrong but I think there is trouble brewing if not checked.

    There may be nothing wrong, but it won't hurt to run some test and see. That is why we get check ups to catch things in the early stage.

    That is why we get check ups each year.

 
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