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HOW TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORK!

Updated on October 6, 2011

The perFECT relationship

THE SECRETS OF A LASTING RELATIONSHIP EXPOSED

In the following discuss we are going to bring to light many of the relationship techniques for a lasting partnership. Many relationships have suffered severe shipwreck as a result of ignorance, lack of commitment and focus. This is largely due to the fact that many relationships have failed to follow the laid down rules and principles that govern a lasting relationship.

When we talk of a relationship, we have in mind two distinct individual who have crossed many barriers to feel at home with each other and make each moment a most happy one. However, the basic ingredient for a lasting relationship is LOVE. This means that there must be that feeling of intimacy, passion, spark and spasm. Such feeling of happiness, joy and longing for the person must exist. A relationship based on love has no room for failure. Therefore, the integral element unifying a relationship is that one thing called true LOVE. You will have a longing for the person always. When you develop a feeling for that individual, you will definitely care, love and cherish the person’s company. A person with such love will never do things that will disgust, displease or make the partner feel bad. The basic element governing a lasting relationship is LOVE…

Another unifying element that contributes to the effectiveness of a lasting relationship is good communication. A good relationship based on mutual understanding is always open for growth. This means that partners must be open, sincere, truthful and never be secretive. Each partner must be open minded and free with each other. This entails that they speak to one another concerning their failures, areas of improvement and always look forward to foster unity and good relationship. Considering the fact that they come from different backgrounds, cultures, homes and even religion thus they cannot agree on all issues. However, with love they can come out of their differences and unite to foster a long lasting relationship. Therefore, partners must sit down and table their differences and sought a way out of the problem. “What you know you don’t like, don’t do it to others”
That rule is as good as honey when followed. Partners should try their best possible to adapt to situations and overlook the imperfection and failures of their mates. A lasting relationship thrives under the umbrella of love, good communication and the overlooking of the imperfections and failure of others.

The key elements that govern a lasting relationship are as follows. Later we will discuss on each of them
Love
Self control
Faithfulness
Harsh and sarcastic language
Positive reasoning
Never insist on doing things a certain way – your way
Be patient
How do you react under pressure
Morality
Trust
Get to know each other better
Look beyond outward appearance
Respect
Manipulative, possessive, jealous attitude…

Do you believe in a perfect relationship? Can it work or is it just a wishful thinking? Please express your opinion using the comment box

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      Phil Plasma 5 years ago from Montreal, Quebec

      I agree with you, love and communication. With only one of these the relationship can still fail, I believe both are necessary.

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      To say i agree with you is an understatement. I believe that a perfect relationship can be achieved through a perfect understanding of these elements like trust, faithfulness, doing things together & good communication. Your fine remark is a step in the right direction. Your point is well noted. Take care my good friend

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      snwhator 5 years ago from Manchester, UK

      Nwa nna. Kedu. Chukwu gozie gi!!

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      Oga mi, ahu di m mma. Kedu ka idi. Obi dim uto. Chukwu gozie gi

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      Priscilla Chan 5 years ago from Normal, Illinois

      Wow! Great information! It is well written, Thanks for the tip!

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      Thanks for this positive remark. I am so uplifted. Thanks tim-tim

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      nikipa 5 years ago from Eastern Europe

      Love is communication, no love no communication!

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      That's the word nikipa 'love is communication, no love no communication'

      i so much accept that reasoning. Thanks for that true talk

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      Bud Gallant 5 years ago from Hamilton, Ontario, Canada

      I have to agree with you. It's all about love when it comes to relationships. Thanks for the hub!

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      Bud Gallant, you are a great man. Your thoughtful appraisal of this hub is well appreciated. Thanks so much for reading this hub and i hope all benefits. God bless you my good friend.

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      Jennuhlee 5 years ago from Pennsylvania

      Cant wait to hear about your next key elements, I loved this hub, voted up and useful:]

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      Bud Gallant 5 years ago from Hamilton, Ontario, Canada

      Thank you very much. :)

      God bless you, too!

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      @jennuhlee, i will do as you ve said and i know you would surely love it. Thanks for your kind remark.

      @Bud Gallant, you are a good man. Remain ever blessed

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      Tiffany Renee Whitfield 5 years ago from From: Galva, IL /// Live in: Bogalusa, LA

      Communication is the answer for everything, people just gotta start using their brains & hearts instead of their egos lol = ]

      I

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      Dear tiffany, i wholly concur to your reasoning. Far and beyond, from Europe, Asia, America to Africa if you ask couples who have lived happily ever after the secret[s] behind their success you will come to the realization that many of the factors listed above have in one way or the other impacted to their marriage success. Though, little differences may spring up now and then but the way it is resolved will always foster the unity, peace and love existing in the relationship. Knowing that you re enjoying the dividends of a happy, lovely relationship and the fact that you have implemented some of these techniques listed above gives me great joy.

      Peace to you my dear friend

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      Ingenira 5 years ago

      the listed key elements are important to get a relationship work, and on top of that, good communication (that includes good listening). :)

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      Dear Ingenira, i so much agree with you. Communication is a relevant part that must be present for a relationship to work. Listening and paying attention is also integral. You ve made a great good point. Blessed is your soul.

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      Sunnie Day 5 years ago

      Great hub Ubani,

      Communication is the key and both partners have to have their ears open..May I add one more key..most couples fall backwards when troubled times come but best to make it a habit of falling forward, learning to lean on the other..Thank you for a wonderful hub,

      God bless,

      Sunnie

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      Dear Sunnie,

      you made an outstanding contribution here. Learning to learn and support each other in times of difficulty makes for an easy crossover and stronger love. Great job. Peace to you

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      JherusiaLhean 5 years ago from Aquilla, TX

      Through good communication and being fair to your partner can make the relationship last. But communication with out understanding will not work too. Try to listen and consider both instances may help a lot.. :)

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      Yeah, communication without understanding won't work. They both work hand in hand. Thanks for that awesome comment. It is well appreciated. Bless you

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Interesting hub. All of your points are very true. There is a saying in our culture, man and woman are two wheels of a chariot, both wheels must work to make the chariot move.

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      You ve said it all Vinaya, that saying make sense. Handsome profile picture. God bless you my dear friend.

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      LoveJewel 5 years ago from Texas

      well detailed and put togeteher. love your work. also helpful

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      Love you too dear lovejewel. You re sensationally awesome. Bless you.

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      Frank Atanacio 5 years ago from Shelton

      Very good article yet again.. communication is key, but women are so hard to understand.. I mean men know what they want, and women know what men want.. we want women.. but what do women really want? hey some food for thought for your next great Hub.. :) Frank

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      You re right Frank, what we want is clear but yet we find it hard to enjoy a lasting relationship. Maybe as you said, i will give attention to what women want in my next hub. Peace to you my brother.

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      lyns 5 years ago from USA

      I love this article it is well written sounds a great deal the way I think but very well written, awesome, thank you once again. Lyns

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      Dear Lyns, i thank you for this sweet comment. I am loving it. Bless you.

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      Thomas oyelayo 5 years ago

      Abaji

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      Abaji to you too

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      Mellonyy 4 years ago

      Very informative hub, voted up!

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 4 years ago from Lagos

      big thanks Mellony for that awesome feedback. I really appreciate. Cheers

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