Why is that some people share great rapport only with music, their vehicle, pets, solitudeness...
Why is that some people share great rapport only with music, their vehicle, pets, solitudeness or any other non living object but they fail to connect with people, social gatherings and other such kind of things??
I think the main reason is they cannot connect with people. Their mindset does not match with the people around them. There may be various reasons like they might have got hurt, they might have had abusive relationships in the past, or just simply because these persons does not enjoy being in such company. Main thing anyone need is solace, where ever they get it, they will like to spend a more time with them/those things.
the thing that you said is what i too believe.....and some more things such as dual character, diplomacy, sarcasm etc
The common attitude is that there is something "wrong" with these people. It is simply not true, at least in a lot of cases. There is a breed of men who need time, lots of it, completely to themselves, to think, to reason, to find answers that are true by their own standards, not just by the explanation of others.
The following summarised extract from "The Fountainhead" might help explain it:
“The creator lives for his work. He needs no other men. His primary goal is within himself...
“The basic need of the creator is independence. The reasoning mind cannot work under any form of compulsion. It cannot be curbed, sacrificed or subordinated to any consideration whatsoever. It demands total independence in function and in motive. To a creator, all relations with men are secondary...
“No man can live for another. He cannot share his spirit just as he cannot share his body....[but] Men have been taught dependence as a virtue....
He is the man who stands above the need of using others in any manner. He does not function through them. He is not concerned with them in any primary matter. Not in his aim, not in his motive, not in his thinking, not in his desires, not in the source of his energy. He does not exist for any other man—and he asks no other man to exist for him. This is the only form of brotherhood and mutual respect possible between men.
“Degrees of ability vary, but the basic principle remains the same: the degree of a man’s independence, initiative and personal love for his work determines his talent as a worker and his worth as a man. Independence is the only gauge of human virtue and value. What a man is and makes of himself; not what he has or hasn’t done for others. There is no substitute for personal dignity. There is no standard of personal dignity except independence."
And so, you are asking the wrong question. The question should be "Why aren't all people so content with independence and solitude?"
The relationship with other should be enhancement not a crutch against personal inadequacy. The first step towards great relationships with outside world begins with the one we have with ourselves. Building relationship should be a matter of choice, not a matter of desperation.
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