Why are men intimidated by strong, independent, confident women?

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  1. jagandelight profile image68
    jagandelightposted 13 years ago

    Why are men intimidated by strong, independent, confident women?

  2. Shelvajay profile image60
    Shelvajayposted 13 years ago

    Those kinds of men are dodo heads.  Who needs them?  You don't ever have to stop being yourself, for anybody...

  3. ttrash profile image59
    ttrashposted 13 years ago

    Speaking with many male friends, most of the time it's the case that these guys aren't intimidated, they're annoyed by women who believe they are "strong/independent/confident" but really come off as cocky and bitchy.

  4. Right On Time profile image60
    Right On Timeposted 13 years ago

    I'm not.                                                                                                .

  5. yiasa profile image60
    yiasaposted 13 years ago

    Because women with these qualities can help them in their social, official and family life with more boldness.

  6. Docmo profile image90
    Docmoposted 13 years ago

    Pity those fools ( with apologies to Mr T) for they know not the power of having such a woman by one's side, the pleasure of conversing with confident women, the fruitfulness of such a relationship.

    There is an old fashioned Gent in me who'd love to be a knight in shining armour, show a bit of chivalry but that doesn't stand in the way of loving independence and confidence.

  7. MickS profile image59
    MickSposted 13 years ago

    Are they?
    This is sexist and should be, 'Why are some men...?'  Your question implies that all men are.

  8. profile image0
    Edliraposted 13 years ago

    (When will we stop asking generalized questions...lol?)

    But to answer your question. They aren't, on the ontrary; these kind of women are admired and respected by both, women and men.

    P.S. And as you know there are exceptions to every rule ;-).

  9. BobbiRant profile image60
    BobbiRantposted 13 years ago

    OK Why is an independent woman 'cocky and bitchy' yet an independent guy is a 'go getter' a 'boys will be boys, let's give him a beer and a cigar' kind of guy?  Not all men are intimidated.  My wonderful husband encourages me to excel at whatever I choose to do.  He loves it.

  10. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 13 years ago

    wow,  why do some women use the term "men" instead of some men in their questions. not all men are intiminated or even close. perhaps it's just the men you know but i could be wrong.

  11. Pensive Pages profile image67
    Pensive Pagesposted 13 years ago

    Men, since the beginning of time, have always been stereotyped as big, strong, and courageous. They were meant to save thier damsel in distress!
    In modern day and times, women are just as capable as men, I suppose we're just not completely used to it yet?

  12. tysanders profile image60
    tysandersposted 13 years ago

    A man isn't but an insecure man might be.

  13. miszsfaboo profile image60
    miszsfabooposted 13 years ago

    Because with most men, everything is a contest and anyone who has an upperhand will pose as some sort of threat.

  14. Wayne Brown profile image79
    Wayne Brownposted 13 years ago

    There is an old adage that says something to the effect that we are all salesmen and thus we are all selling something. Being able to sell successfully depends greatly on defining a need and appealing to it.  On that basis, men turn away from women like you describe because they realize that need in those women may be very hard to determine and require a lot of work in the process of doing so.  They want to make their pitch and close the sell rather than haggle and chase. WB

  15. justom profile image60
    justomposted 13 years ago

    I'm with Bobbi, I'm not and have NEVER been intimidated by a strong woman. Nothing ever but encouragement. Guys who do that are just insecure and silly.

  16. Thesource profile image67
    Thesourceposted 13 years ago

    As a man I will not be intimidated by a woman's strength, independence and confidence, if she has the right intentions.
    In which case, I will give her my support.

    However, if she is looking for trouble, I will have to explore my options.

  17. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 13 years ago

    I don't think mature, secure men are intimidated by strong women.  Anytime we feel less than the person we encounter, we tend to feel intimidated.  Search for strong mature people in your life.

  18. Borsia profile image40
    Borsiaposted 13 years ago

    Not all of us are. I prefer them smart and spunky. If she has more knowledge about subjects than I have I find it refreshing. If I am dating a woman who doesn't show some independence and fire I loose interest quickly.
    Some men feel threatened and insecure in the presence of smart fiery women but I have no Alpha complex.
    There are, of course, some that are just bitchy and that is a different thing. But I don't accept that from men or women.

  19. Ciminder profile image60
    Ciminderposted 13 years ago

    I don't know...let me know when you figure it out please?  Haha.

  20. ligiaogl profile image60
    ligiaoglposted 12 years ago

    Because they don't have enough confidence in themselves.

  21. Allen Williams profile image69
    Allen Williamsposted 12 years ago

    Really?  I happen to find those qualities quite attractive, not intimidating at all.  My wife has those qualities and that is why I am married, happy, and turned on every day for the last 30 years!


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