Are you holding back.....?

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  1. Apostle Jack profile image59
    Apostle Jackposted 7 years ago

    Are you holding back.....?

    .....from forgiving a person, for some reason or another.Sometimes we need to let go,and let be,seeing that, it can hinder our progress in some way. Do you agree?

  2. LADYGIRL profile image60
    LADYGIRLposted 7 years ago

    Yes I agree wholeheartly. When someone does something to you, feel the world is going to end.  However the sun is going shine again like always. You just have to forgive, you can't hold in misery and hate, it not good for the spirit and the heart. Always love again, its the same as forgiveness. And remember God always forgive his childrens. And yes by holding your feeling in an not trying to forgive it does hold you back from your progress.

  3. profile image0
    His daughterposted 7 years ago

    Failure to forgive goes against what Christ taught.  Unforgiveness within our lives will do more damage to us than the person we hold the unforgiveness against.  It is a trap of Satan himself.  One of the most deceptive snares Satan uses is in the area of unforgivenss which will get us out of God's will.  We will encounter offenses in this life, but our response will affect our relationship with the Lord Himself.  It will determine our future.  Recently, I read this statement which is one we need to remind ourselves of when we are offended and find it difficult to forgive:  "A person who cannot forgive has forgotten how great a debt God has forgiven them."

  4. Born Again 05 profile image79
    Born Again 05posted 7 years ago

    Christ died for MY sins long before I was born; long before I was formed in my mother's womb. Who then am I to not forgive someone who transgresses against me? Unknown to me, I did indeed have unforgiveness in my heart. The Lord exposed it and helped me to overcome it. I wrote about the situation in a hub titled "Learning to Forgive".

  5. sholland10 profile image91
    sholland10posted 7 years ago

    Yes, I do agree.  When we do not forgive, we are mentally and physically hurting ourselves.  That said, it is easier said than done sometimes.  When big issues are involved, you have to figure out whether it is more important to be right or to hang onto the relationship.  Agreeing to disagree is one of the best approaches.  Or if you are holding a grudge against a parent or loved one who wronged you in some way, you are giving up time that could be spent healing yourself and that relationship and moving forward.  Trying to rid yourself of the anguish of resentment, anger, revenge, etc. is always in your best interest.  BUT, it is something that we have to work on.  Getting rid of the baggage sure feels better, though. :-) Christ was able to forgive the atrocities done to Him, so I believe we can forgive the pains caused us so we can move forward.  He tells us to forgive, and He is the Authority.  He knows what harboring negative feelings can do to us, which is why it is so important for us to forgive.

  6. MsDora profile image93
    MsDoraposted 7 years ago

    I agree that we need to forgive.  We have all been offenders at some time, and experienced shame and/or guilt as a result.  It's not a good feeling.  The Golden Rule applies here too.  We should forgive so that our offenders could experience joy like we do when we knew that we are forgiven. 

    Beyond that, forgiveness releases us from the status of victim.  It moves both the offender and the offended one rung upward on the ladder of personal growth.

  7. JEDIJESSICUH profile image80
    JEDIJESSICUHposted 7 years ago

    I don't necessarily think we all choose to hold back from forgiving a person.

    There are some people that can't forgive the ones who hurt them because what they did was so painful. My mother left me when I was nine months old and I've never quite been able to forgive her. I don't hold it against her on purpose, but whenever she wants to act like family and as if nothing happened, I get so angry that we stop talking again.

    I agree that people should be more forgiving, but some things take more than an open mind to forget.

  8. Borsia profile image44
    Borsiaposted 7 years ago

    I'm not exactly what one would call forgiving.
    If you are talking about small indiscretions then I will let those slide. But if it is anything of significance then no I don't forgive or forget.
    That person will fall into the chasm of indifference. I don't waste my energy with hate or anything like that but I will never lift a finger to help them or even acknowledge them.
    It doesn't cause me any stress or bother me in any way.
    But I am a firm believer that "if you turn the other cheek they will just pick the other pocket".
    I don't see that as being anything but wise to the ways of the world.

  9. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 7 years ago

    Yes. I do agree if we are holding back it will definitely hinder our advancement.

    We indeed need to learn how to let go of the past and forgive. It is the lesson we need to learn.

    Just let any couple who may be having some misunderstanding, one party should be the first to say - I am sorry. Instead of being stubborn and not giving way to one another.

    We need to learn and forgive others so that we can move on. It is a big step for some but then it should be the way to improve oneself to be gracious enough to forgive.


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