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Would you let your young daughter cut off all her hair and dye it pink like Will

  1. davenstan profile image73
    davenstanposted 5 years ago

    Would you let your young daughter cut off all her hair and dye it pink like Willow Smith?

  2. Catzgendron profile image73
    Catzgendronposted 5 years ago

    Yes I would and I have allowed my daughters to have blue hair, pink hair and even yellow hair.  All girls between the ages of 13 years and 18 years are in search of their identity and sometimes that includes changing their hair color.

    1. gmwilliams profile image87
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Nothing is wrong w/fashion experimentation.  I think that it is great that Willow can fully explore & create her fashion identity.  Teenagers who aren't allowed to explore their fashion identity WILL REBEL no doubt about it!

  3. lifelovemystery profile image92
    lifelovemysteryposted 5 years ago

    I think teens seek a certain level of individuality, but it needs to be tapered with common sense.

    You may want to check with your school on the haircut and color.

    Some schools may consider it a distraction to other students, and send her home.

  4. thisiknow profile image60
    thisiknowposted 5 years ago

    I have always encouraged my children to ‘be who they are’, as long as what they do does not harm themselves or anyone else. If they are kind and respectful, good and hardworking people then it does not matter what clothes they wear or what color they dye their hair. My daughter has several piercings, a few tasteful, hidden tattoos and bright, colorful hair but she has also had a job since she was fourteen. She has been with the same company for years and is working her way up the ladder. I believe that always letting her express who she is has given her the confidence to become the strong, intelligent woman she is today.

    1. gmwilliams profile image87
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Total applause.  I believe that parents should realize that their children are individual beings, not appendages.  Children should be allowed to be creative re: their fashion identity,  Nothing wrong w/fashion experimentation.

  5. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    No.  We need to teach our children self-respect and caring for themselves.  There are a lot of creative ways to express yourself without making yourself into a spectacle.  But - once she turns 18 - go for it!

  6. sarovai profile image76
    sarovaiposted 5 years ago

    It is good to Leave them their own way to stylish themselves the way they like, but the guidelines should be strict enough to avoid any dangers arises from dyes and the way they try to attract others.

  7. gmwilliams profile image87
    gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago

    I saw nothing absolutely wrong with letting Willow cutting and dyeing her hair pink.  Preteens and teenagers are going to experiment with fashion.  I would rather have them experiment with fashion options than to experiment in more dangerous activities.   Fashion is fun and a creative way of self-expression. 

    THIS is the TIME to freely and fully create and have fun with various fashion personas.  Young people CAN do things with fashions that older people CANNOT.  Let preteens and teenagers experiment with all aspects of age appriopriate fashion.  This is the way preteens and teenagers learn about their fashion wants, desires, and personas. 

    Preteens and teenagers who are allowed to fully experiment with fashion will not rebel.  They know that they can BE and DO freely.  As they get older, they tend to make more mature fashion choices as they were allowed lots of leeway in their formative youth years.  Their attitude is been there and done that, let's evolve into a more mature fashion persona.  As a result of the experimentation, they learn what suits and does not suit them in terms of fashion.  They also realize what was appropriate as a preteen and teenager is not appropriate as they become older.

    Preteens and teenagers who had parents who did not allow them to experiement in terms of fashion will rebel.  The girls whose parents did not allow them to wear make up and/or dye their hair once they become a certain age will literally go all out.  Since they were not allowed to experiment in terms of fashion in the parental home, they go buck wild once they leave home.  They also do not have the maturity and/or independence as far as wise fashion choices go.  They are fashion infants so to speak.