How do internet relationships differ from in-person? Are they more real or less

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   150Ideasposted 11 years ago

   How do internet relationships differ from in-person? Are they more real or less real?
   
   In light of Manti Te'o's (Notre Dame football player) experience, do you think that relationships formed over the internet are more real or less real than those formed in person. Why and why not? Even though Manti was a victim of "cat fishing" could it be that the relationship he thought he had was deeper and more true than one he would form with someone in person?  What about non-romantic relationships? For example hiring someone via the internet you've never met?  or support relationships? conversing with someone in a forum that shares the same interests as you?

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   CRe8tiVeLiFeposted 11 years ago

   One word: Catfish.
   
   Have you seen that tv show and movie? If not, you should check it out. I am thinking you would learn a lot from that.
   
   My short answer? It's always best to know the person in their real life context rather than believe someone behind a computer screen - at least if you are thinking about committing...

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   150Ideasposted 11 years ago

   What about your long answer?  Are there some instances when getting to know someone without meeting them in person may be more "real"...without the trappings of physical appearance, without the fear of rejection, and without the outside pressures of other people's expectations? Don't limit yourself to thinking only about  romantic relationships alone; think also of hiring someone online without meeting them first in person. Think also of how you interact with someone on a website such as this one?  I already have formed an impression of you (I don't like that you felt the need to correct the spelling of catfish), and undoubtedly you have formed one of me (maybe you think I'm ignorant because I don't know enough about cat fishing to spell it correctly - btw, I kept the space there to irk you)...are we getting to know the REAL person who is empowered to voice their opinion because of the anonymity that the internet provides? OR instead, are we interacting with a person that doesn't really exist at all?

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      CRe8tiVeLiFeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Wow! In NO WAY was I attacking your spelling of the word catfish. I don't know if I am spelling it right! That is a GREAT example of how you can't get a real feel for a person online. I often use the expression "one word" when I am making a point.

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      150Ideasposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      LOL, I know, and that was why I was messing with you, to make my point!  I actually believe that in a romance, a person needs to get to know the REAL person, but I'm curious if others think that the internet allows the REAL person to come out?

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   UnknownWonposted 11 years ago

   Well 150, if we are going to go by the "first impressions" then I would have to say that my first impression of you is that you are actually quite childish in the fact that you would choose to purposefully "irk" someone that you do not even know by misspelling a word to prove a point, and then have the nerve to attempt to back peddle your childish behavior by stating that you were only "making a point".
   
   How about we put on the big kid pants, lose the diapers (or pull-ups), blow our noses without needing to have boogers all over our faces and act over the age of 18 shall we?
   
   I mean COME ON! Do you truly think that the excuse of "leaving the space" is something that is even valid? Let's call it as it is;
   
   Cre8tive gave an answer you didn't like, so you wanted to go about having  a passive aggressive attack because people aren't going to trip all over themselves to agree with your opinion. My further first impression of you is that you are a cookie cutter, carbon copy (and yes I made the same reference twice on purpose just to 'irk' you) of all of the other talking head phonies that pollutes, not only the internet, but every corner of this world that attack those that choose not to believe as they believe, or happens to have the audacity to disagree with their opinion.
   
   I happen to agree with Cre8tive that using the internet to form any sort of relationship as a means to doing so alone is foolish. I met my soon-to-be ex wife on the internet and married her before I truly knew who she really was. She ended up practically enslaving me; disconnecting me from family, friends, and anyone that could be considered a friend. I am NEVER going to make that mistake again. Not to mention the murders, rapist, and pedophiles that litter the internet? Are you out of your mind?! The internet is a dangerous place to even think of looking for love or any other sort of relationship! You are better off going to a bar at happy hour and having unprotected sex in the bathroom! It's probably a lot safer!!
   
   But back to my previous opinion before I run out of characters; you aren't fooling anyone with your attack of Cre8tive, just because she chose to disagree with. I find that petty, childish, and outright disgraceful. Perhaps if you don't want someone to disagree with you, you should find more like minded people to blindly say 'Yes you are so right!'. And by the way, the  Manti Te'o situation is a beaten and dead topic. Let it go already. Don't you have anything else?

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      150Ideasposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      WOW, now it is my turn to be flabbergasted. But touche. The internet is not someplace where you can really get  to know someone. In fact a small misinterpretation can get totally blown out of proportion. But at least my question is answered. Thanks.

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   cebutouristspotposted 11 years ago

   The internet is a good way to meet people but you must be careful on who you meet.  With regards to relationship yes I believe it can start there like flirting or stuff but it must make a transition to a real life thing like dating and proper courting. 
   
   With regards to hiring someone in the Net.  I for one can say it works I been working online for over 3 years and I must say I like the flexibility of the time it have given me and the trust that my employer had shown.  It make me want to do my best to make sure that his business succeed

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