If you text someone and they don't get back with you right away, what do you thi

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   lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years ago

   If you text someone and they don't get back with you right away, what do you think?
   
   

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   ketageposted 9 years ago

   I do not answer texts right away. sometimes I do not even notice them for hours. So  if I text someone and they do not answer, I just assume they are like me, if I need an answer to an urgent question, then I call their mobile, rather then text.

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      ketage,
      I know what you mean. If you answer right away all of the time you're tied to your phone.
      Thanks,
      Lisa

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   MickSposted 9 years ago

   Nothing, I never answer texts...............................................

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      Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      What if someone were really in need of help? Texting isn't evil or impossible to learn. Prevents lots of long, drawn-out conversations, too. (Just text the blabbermouths your message). Ex: "I'll be there at 6." enough said--short, sweet, efficient.

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      MickSposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Invalid argument, we have lived through thousands of years of emergencies without phones or texting. It's hard luck the way of the world.

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      Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I see your point and agree to a point. However, humans (except the Amish) evolve now by adopting helpful technology.Just as books won't go totally away, most technologies have a place in our lives. Takes getting used to, though, and settling in time.

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      MickSposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      My friends and family all know that I never answer texts, and rarely, if ever answer the phone.  I answer when I know who is there. There are too many people wittering selling stuff. I phone, don't take calls, if others answer its up to them.

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      Larry Wallposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      My wife does not text. She will answer phone calls. She will respond to e-mail. She even writes handwritten thank you notes on pink stationery. However, she has a small phone, which she likes and does not want a smart phone so she does not text.

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      MickSposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      We just have a mobile that is there for emergencies in case the car breaks down whilst we are out, we never text anyone with it, or use it for casual calls. We have never used it except the once every 6 months per contract, to keep the credit.

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      Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      This might help, Mick: "Consumers can register on-line for the national do-not-call registry by going to www.donotcall.gov. To register by telephone, consumers may call 1-888-382-1222.......You must call from the phone number you wish to register."

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      MickSposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I doubt that it would help us, Laura, we're from England.  We have a service to stop spam calls, but it is said not to be that good. It is just easier not to answer, and so stay off lists.

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      Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Bummer... Sorry, that was my best idea. As you say, not answering is best then.

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   Marcy Goodfleischposted 9 years ago

   I don't let it get to me - many of my friends are in meetings all day or going between meetings and in their cars.  If it's time-sensitive, I might send an email as well, or check again later.  We're all so busy everyday!

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Marcy,
      Sending an email as well is a good idea. Then no matter when they address your text they'll know they better get back with you because it must be important.
      Thanks,
      Lisa

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   Laura Schneiderposted 9 years ago

   If someone doesn't get back to me right away, I assume they haven't read my message yet, were in the middle of another conversation, or didn't realize I was expecting an immediate reply.
   
   If I want an immediate answer/reply, I text "911" and then my message. If it's just an informational text only, with no need to reply at all ever, I text "411" before my message. If there is no urgency, but I would like a reply at some point, I just text the message without the tag in front of it. Everyone I know does this (I thought this was universally done)--it simplifies communications a lot.

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Laura,
      I like the "911" and the "411" technique. In fact when my brother used to have a pager I would put "911" at the end of my phone number if I needed to talk with him right away. Thank you so much.
      Lisa

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      Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      You're very welcome, Lisa! I rarely am expected to return a text or call. 911 is reserved for a REAL emergency (someone in the hospital, in labor...) So, with texts, I never feel worried, esp. at work: no cell talking or personal email is allowed.

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   writerjjposted 9 years ago

   They mighe be busy, did not notice, unaware, etc...so its just fine - no biggie.
   But if I needed a response, would phonecall the person after a few minutes of sending the text

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      Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree: following up with a call is best, unless the person can't take calls at work or whatever. (I've sent one 911 text and received 2 in the last few years that I can remember.) Calling is my first choice, though.

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   stricktlydatingposted 9 years ago

   I just think they're busy, or driving or something like that. It's no big deal.

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      stricktlydating,
      More and more people are not texting and driving. This could be the main reason people who normally get back with you right away don't answer sometimes.
      Thanks,
      Lisa

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      Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Yay!!! Great point, Lisa! People seem to be getting over the texting 100% of the time thing and are settling in on how to use this particular technology along with others. I.e., NOT while driving.

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   FatFreddysCatposted 9 years ago

   The only person who texts me is my wife and most of the time our messages back and forth don't need an immediate response.
   I know, I know...married people are frickin' boring.

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Cat,
      I've been married for 30 years. I hope married people aren't boring:)
      Thank you,
      Lisa

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   ubaidh86posted 9 years ago

   I think that they are ignoring me.... and i don't like it all...!!!

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      ubaidh86,
      If you're used to getting messages back right away then you might be right. Still it could be that they're in the bathroom or something.
      Thanks,
      Lisa

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      Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      They might be ignoring you, but there are a thousand reasons they might not get back to you right away--dead phone battery, no phones allowed where they are, etc. Maybe talking to one or two of them and frankly asking them about the texts would help.

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      ubaidh86posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      @Lisa & Laura: Yes You Both Are Right, Thanks For Sharing The Possibilites.! Blessings To You Both.!

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    mailxpressposted 9 years ago

    I don't rely on text.  I'm grateful I never got into using it.  Call me if you want to speak with me.

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       lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       mailxpress,
       I do like phone calls, but a text is great if you know the person can't have their phone ring at work.
       Thanks,
       Lisa

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       Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       I agree with Lisa--phones (even purses) aren't allowed to be visible in many workplaces, the person's in a meeting, whatever. My friend works in a cleanroom, so I text and wait for the reply at breaks. Text is useful and most practical sometimes.

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    That Grrlposted 9 years ago

    I don't expect instant replies or replies the same hour or day. I've had people spaz on me for not replying right away. I don't own a mobile phone mainly because I don't want to be available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week all year, every year. I never returned the call from the spaz. Anyone expecting a call back the same day and then acting that way is not someone I want to keep around.

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       lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       That Grrl,
       I don't like to be tied to my phone either. If I get a call and I'm busy I'll just call back whenever. I don't worry about it. Everyone knows that I will get back with them.
       Thank you,
       Lisa

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       Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       That Grrl, you sound just like my sister :-). She's tied to her work phone 24X7 and expected to give instant replies due to the nature of her work, and she HATES it. She never returns personal calls/texts at all (which I hate :-| but understand).

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    lburmasterposted 9 years ago

    They are busy. I'm glad they have better things to do. I can't always stop for a text so they shouldn't either.

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       Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Iburmaster-- LOL I'm glad they have better things to do, too, especially if the texts are frivolous. Lots of people are guilty of that. I love your outlook on things--you're always so practical and up-front. :-) P.S. How's the puzzle coming along?

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       lburmasterposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Almost finished Each morning and night I put a few pieces together while eating. How are your hobbies?

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       Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       I KNEW you could do a huge puzzle! Congrats! My hobbies are mostly on hold; I never seem to have the time. I do try to sit down daily at the piano and diddle around for awhile, though (my poor townhouse neighbors). :-) At least I don't sing along.LOL

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       lburmasterposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Ah. I sing so they would not be too happy with me. But I love that you play the piano. One of the most soothing and calming instruments. The hubby and I are thrilled we finally got one! I'm glad you're just as lucky!

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    Larry Wallposted 9 years ago

    Everyone expects immediate replies. I was at a convention once where thee was a person from AT&T speaking and he claimed that their surveys showed that people liked automated voice mail. Remember we use to leave messages with live secretaries or co-workers who could tell if the issue was a priority or an addition to the grocery list he is suppose to pick up on the way home. I heard another person tell the story about calling a person who was about to give a major speech and said I left you a message. The man replied that he had received 13 messages in the last half hour.
    So in your situation, the person may not be in a position to respond quickly and may forget to do so later. Maybe she did not think the message required a response or maybe she just did not want to because of the subject matter, her schedule, or other events you could not know about.
    
    The ultimate issue is that we are all not in the same time zone and on the same schedule, thus messages and responses to messages will not always be in sync.

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       Chinaimportposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       I totally agree.  Texting, like email, is an asynchronous form of communication.  I believe that there is no need to respond immediately to a text.  If something requires immediate attention, I would probably call (synchronous)

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