Do you agree that women look for Mr. Right while men look for Ms. Right Away?

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  1. kallini2010 profile image79
    kallini2010posted 5 years ago

    Do you agree that women look for Mr. Right while men look for Ms. Right Away?

    Are women genetically wired to be patient while men are are more impulsive by nature and their impulsiveness comes from the time they were hunters?  Where the reaction speed was the question of survival?

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  2. dontaytte profile image75
    dontaytteposted 5 years ago

    As a man our we evolve the older that we get.  In out teens we are more inclined to have many relationships. I guess as a feeling out process to find the type of woman and the type of characteristics that we like. In our young adult stage we are actually learning how to become committed to one person at a time, so that in the future we will know how to treat and care for a woman that we fall in love with.

  3. abbykorinnelee profile image73
    abbykorinneleeposted 5 years ago

    I took a class last semester called "Theories of Personality and Counseling" and this was a topic we did discuss.  According to my professor, Men do seem to look for the Ms. Right away as you put it.  They are wired in a way that is sexual.  However, in reality they actually seem to subconsciously look for a mate that will bore them their child.  The whole wide hips are actually an attractive feature of women that women hate about themselves thing?  It has some merit to it.  Women look for men who will be able to financially take care of them.  They are more into looking for some sort of stability in a man and they do tend to be wired to find the man of their dreams that Mr. Right, right away.  It seems we were created in a way that we would be hardwired to keep the population moving in the right direction...lol.  As for my personal view I think that men will "hook up" with almost anyone but when it comes to the one they will be with forever they are more likely to not rush things because of investment of emotions and such that men don't typically do on a daily basis and that is more sacred to them.  Women will invest emotionally in men really fast.  Thing is in this class we also learned it is a sign of mental illness or an abusive man if they rush into relationships and propose marriage too fast.  If I had the research for that I would share it but sadly I didn't think to hang onto my notes...lol. It is an interestiny hypothesis to say the least.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    No, I honestly believe (timing) is the main difference. Both genders are known for wanting to have a period of [carefree wild times and partying] especially those on college campuses. It’s been reported that recent generations of women are putting off both marriage and having children in order to pursue career opportunities. The more successful a woman is the more likely she is not in a rush to “settle down”.
    The age at which a woman may start looking for Mr. Right is earlier than the age that most men are considering getting married. Lots of women start thinking about marriage in their mid-late 20s while men oftentimes don’t really give it a thought until their earlier 30s. This is why it makes sense that a woman in her mid 20s improves her odds of finding a marriage-minded man if she dates men in their early 30s that have never been married. “Timing is everything!”
    The toys we give little girls often include baby dolls, strollers, clothing to dress the dolls, Easy Bake Ovens to cook cakes and cookies. Many girls are given outfits to dress up like a princess which often leads to fantasies of having a prince or her dream wedding. Compared that to toys we give boys such as water pistols, remote control cars, planes, boats, things that flash and make noises or games where he can compete against friends.
    The girl has been “practicing” being a mother/wife/nurturer and dreaming of marriage (subconsciously) since her childhood while the boy has only had to think about having fun. My point is the marriage seed was planted in women many years ahead of men.

    There are over 2 Million marriages that take place in the U.S. each year and the vast majority of them take place after a (man) proposes to a woman.
    Even a strong independent woman would rather (wait) to be asked by a (man) to be married rather than propose to a man.
    Therefore in order for him to be “Mr. Right” he must also see her as being “Ms. Right”. If men were only interested in “Ms. Right Now” there were be far less than 2 million marriages taking place. There would also be fewer couples living together as well. Both marriage and living together are ways that men settle down.

    1. lupine profile image73
      lupineposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Girls are conditioned to be "mothers" and boys are not conditioned to be "fathers" by the toys they grow up playing with.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      lupine, Yes, boys are not "conditioned" nor "expected" to be "nurturers". If we say "practice makes perfect" then it is girls who have the most practice of being a parent.  Boys don't play daddy. We gain interest later in life. One man's opinion! :-)

    3. kallini2010 profile image79
      kallini2010posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Dashingscorpio - I wanted to thank you for your thought-out and detailed answer - one suggestion - in the future if your answer runs such a length, it would be more beneficial for you to claim it as your own hub.  Cheers!

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    JThomp42posted 5 years ago

    Yes, I would agree with that until Men mature into real Men and realize that Women are beautiful Human beings and not to be used for their pleasure. This is when a Man will find his Ms. Right. Hopefully for everyone. Women included.

    1. abbykorinnelee profile image73
      abbykorinneleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Those Mr. Rights? Yeah, not so easy to find lol

    2. profile image0
      JThomp42posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Nor Ms. Rights LOL

    3. abbykorinnelee profile image73
      abbykorinneleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      At this point any right lol

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      JThomp42posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Still waiting  smile

    5. abbykorinnelee profile image73
      abbykorinneleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Well, I don't know what to tell you...get in line LOL...I was there first

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      JThomp42posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      In that case, we must be very close to one another on line? LOL

    7. abbykorinnelee profile image73
      abbykorinneleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      From the looks of these comments you are right behind me! LOL....but I guess we can be in the same spot because you want a woman and I a man...so we don't have to trip over each other's feet to get to the next available one..smile

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      JThomp42posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly smile

    9. abbykorinnelee profile image73
      abbykorinneleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      smile Just stand far enough away they don't bypass me thinking I am taken LOL

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      JThomp42posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      LOL Will do

  6. soconfident profile image82
    soconfidentposted 5 years ago

    That may sometimes be the case, if it is with some men it really is just a phase and by then it may be too late

  7. lupine profile image73
    lupineposted 5 years ago

    On first instinct I believe you are correct. Most, and I say most...not all men, are looking for Ms Right-away, and they are getting it because a considerable amount of the young women of today are "giving- it-right-away". It has become all too common, thus making marriage unecessary for some, due to changes in family values and society issues. When a man seriously finds someone he respects and wants to have a long life with, he will treat her accordingly.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I would also say both men and women go through phases in their life. Most men will not consider marriage until after they establish a career. Ms. Right Now are women he meets during that period. It's timing. Sexual equality is not bad in of itself.

    2. lupine profile image73
      lupineposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I would say men don't consider marriage until later, where most women look for  it much sooner. Timing is key to settling down. I do believe you have a point...there is sexual equality and it's both the man and woman that make the choice.

  8. Escobana profile image73
    Escobanaposted 5 years ago

    I don´t agree with the question but I do agree with the answer of Dashingcorpio.

    I myself was looking for Mister Right Now for quite some years and I had a lot of fun looking for him.

    In fact, I felt like a manhunter in disguise, I got rid of my need for adventures little by little and I love the peace I´ve found with my future husband to be.

  9. Alecia Murphy profile image85
    Alecia Murphyposted 5 years ago

    I think it depends on the person and their experiences. To me a relationship of any sort takes time and patience to be cultivated and maintained. And for that reason, I don't immediately enter into a relationship with everyone I meet.
    I think alot of women-not all- want Mr. Right at the moment they're ready. For instance, some women seem to think once they get a good job and are settled they're ready for marriage. And many men, want Ms. Right Now because that's how they think a relationship should operate.
    But in the grand scheme of things if you put the proper time and effort into being the best version of yourself- the right person will come your way at the right time.

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    Garifaliaposted 5 years ago

    I think on average that about cuts it. Yes.

    1. IDONO profile image81
      IDONOposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      See Garifalia. I fooled you. I am from Mars. I just changed to fit in with you Earthlings. Compare our answers. Men are from Mars and women from Venus.

    2. profile image0
      Garifaliaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      No my friend, you're not from Mars. You make perfect sense!

    3. kallini2010 profile image79
      kallini2010posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, guys were are from the same planet and we all can learn and be conditioned to look for Right or Right Away.  It is harder to resist good sex for a woman who has experienced it at least once.  Talk about RIGHT NOW!!!

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      Garifaliaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Being of a particular age and experience, I can say that when men meet Mrs Right, they forget about Mrs Right Away and know how to wait. But it takes a while for many, if not most to mature to that point. It's the male sex drive and brain function.

  11. IDONO profile image81
    IDONOposted 5 years ago

    Maybe. But when Mr. Right finds Ms. Right Away, he better know that also opens the door for her to have a Right of Way to his wallet.  If Ms. Right Away lets herself be Ms. Right Away, she is either desperate, loose or really stupid. Therefore, she is definitely not Ms. Right. So, Mr. Right,keep looking and keep your money. Ms. Right won't want it. I know. That's a lot of rights that are actually a lot of wrongs.

    1. lupine profile image73
      lupineposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      You are exactly right, I know men that have had that type of right-away-relationship and they do say that's not the type woman they will marry. Like the saying goes...two wrongs don't make one right.

    2. Escobana profile image73
      Escobanaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Desperate, loose or really stupid? I'd say wake up and welcome to the world of women who choose to be Ms. Right away for a while.

      Like I said before....Mr Right Now worked perfeclty for me for some years but I never qualified as a gold digger:-)

  12. rouilliewilkerson profile image61
    rouilliewilkersonposted 5 years ago

    I don't see a difference. You find Mr. Right, you get married. He finds a gal that's a good fit for him, he' gets married to her right away.

    1. lupine profile image73
      lupineposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      In this case, they both found the right one. Both looking for the same thing...marriage.

 
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