Up to how many years, you think, parents are responsible for children's misbehav

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   Sulabhaposted 8 years ago

   Up to how many years, you think, parents are responsible for children's misbehavior and bad deeds?

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   ElvisaMposted 8 years ago

   Honestly, until they are mature enough to comprehend the reality. PROBABLY 18. Some kids mature quicker then others. My 17 year old sister in law is is intelligent, is taking college prep classes and has been holding down a job for a year. Others, example Ethan Couch, grow up to be irresponsible and careless and I believe that is a direct result of tame parenting. Not enough discipline. I have two young boys and I will be responsible for their actions and manners for as long as they love under my roof. Now, I am doing my best teach them how to be gentlemen. How to be kind, courteous etc...

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      Sulabhaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, Thank you Elvisa. A lot of hard work you are doing.Sure your sons will do well.

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   manatita44posted 8 years ago

   I think the legal age is eighteen. But why don't you shift it a little? Why not say responsible for inspiring them to become better, more wholesome human beings?
   Are parents responsible for their childrens misbehaviour and bad deeds? It is highly possible that some are, in so far as they teach it to them. It is a very difficult area to cover, as the influence can be so varied: school, environment, friends ...
   
   So if you make it being responsible for their good behaviour and good deeds, then it reads with more love. Ultimately, there can be other forces at play, both for the child and parent: Income, poverty,, health, single parent, karma ... and I do not know of an easy answer.
   
   Strive to be an example to inspire without forcing, clinging, grasping ... and leave all else in the hands of the Supreme.
   
   I feel that eighteen is a good age. I believe it is also the legal age in England. Not so long ago, it used to be 21. Much Love.

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      manatita44posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you, Sulabha. On the one hand, I got 'best answer' and on the other, it was hidden because of 'negative feedback.' Confusing?

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      Sulabhaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I have liked all the comments that have come. I certainly liked yours. There must have been a mistake. But I got answers that I was looking for. Maybe I am not very internet friendly. Hence the mistake.

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      manatita44posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Gratitude ...much....Love to the children if you have any.

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   Express10posted 8 years ago

   I do not believe there is a set time period. However, no matter the person's age that person also needs to understand their actions also reflect good or badly on their parents. Also, while I do hold individuals responsible for what they have done no matter their age, I do understand that parents who fell down on their job in any way can truly harm a person's choices and actions in certain situations as well as in every aspect of one's life whether that person is a teen, a thirty something, and beyond.
   
   It is my firm belief that anyone who is not physically, financially, emotionally, and otherwise prepared to take on the very difficult job of being a parent, not create or have children yet, many still do and too often it is to the detriment of the child (no matter their age) at best and society at worst.

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      Sulabhaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, you are right. Thanks Express10.

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   WithMettaposted 8 years ago

   It's definitely a gradient, not a switch, and it's a matter of control, not time. Even babies are individuals and can't be directly controlled like puppets. I think we should be careful not to hold parents too responsible for their children's actions, as this could lead parents to exert too much authority on children, which will lead to relatively justified rebellion against parents, making children more difficult to work with, rather than easier.
   
   I think a person is responsible for another person's actions to the extent that they exert authority over that person. By exerting authority, you take responsibility for the response to that authority. If exerting authority doesn't work as intended, that's the authoritarian's responsibility, not the subject's. Parent/child relationships aren't qualitatively special in this regard. Authority is just more central to the parent/child relationship than to other relationships.

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      Sulabhaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I fully agree with you Metta Mudita. I have often felt this myself. Thanks a lot.

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   tamarawilhiteposted 8 years ago

   Officially, a parent's responsibility ends when the child is legally an adult. Depending on where you live, that is between ages 18 and 21.

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      Sulabhaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Dear Tamara Wilhite,
      Legally yes. But society doesn't take it that way. All the blame comes on the parents when things go wrong. This rational stand of your is good.

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   fullhouse4everposted 8 years ago

   Well until children are 21 but I think the way young adults act is a direct reflection of their upbringing.

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      Sulabhaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, very much.

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