Is it just me or do all men feel the need to have the upper hand before a relationship even starts?
I decided to bite the bullet and go against my instincts about dating a co-worker and someone who was younger then me.
The night ended at work and we decided to go back to his place and watch a movie. Now the night started off well, there was a movie, his couch and a lot of laughter; mainly because we were both smacked but still it was there.
As the night started to wind down, I became more comfortable with my newfound jailbait worker and I decided to slip down to his end of the couch.
There was a kiss and I sank. I hadn’t felt this high in years and I couldn’t figure out if it was because I was going against my instincts or because there could actually be something real.
In the middle of his soft lips against mine, I did something that no man or woman should fight the urge against. I panicked.
“I can’t.”
Nothing had even happened, this was the longest I had ever kissed a guy without him trying something.
I couldn’t help but think; was I too vain to even think that he would want to sleep with me? He could have just wanted to kiss. I didn’t stick around to find out, I flaked out and before I knew it we were both sitting in his car in silence on the way back to my car.
The next week I saw him at work and decided I would casually apologize for my minor lapse in speech, he laughed it off and said he blamed the drugs. We saw each other again but this time it was perfect. Nothing happened and I didn’t have to say no for nothing to happen.
After I left that night it seemed like things were going to go well, but it only took two days and I realized that he was still a man, who was younger then me.
I’m 21 and according to the rules of men and women I should be dating someone who is at least 24, he was 20. In man-years that meant he was 17 and I was 23. It was official I had encountered a high school senior. They like what they have when they have it and when they’re bored they have no explanation or reason for why. They throw it out and forget about it as if it were an old pair of shoes that they no longer need.
I couldn’t help but think; was it because I wouldn’t sleep with him? Did I come on too strong?
I would never know the answers to my questions because I walked into work after a few days and he walked right past me as if he had never been on top of me kissing my lips. It was then that I knew, I would never get my questions answered. I was an old pair of Jordans and he wanted the newest Nikes out there.
Personally I think age doesn't mater what counts is the person's maturity and intellect. Too many times we get in our own ways with rules, principles and beliefs that doesn't serve us. The things I would pay most attention to is the person's personalty, their maturity, communication skills and intellect. Once there is mutual attraction these tend to be the foundation of a good relationship.
Why don't you write a hub instead of wasting time posting in a forum.
Btw- Welcome to HubPages!
never done this before, still figuring it out. thanks for the tip
Yep, this would be a great hub.
I have a FWB relationship.
We're identical age, both divorced, and neither of us wants to complicate each other's life.
Frankly we don't have anything at all in common. No soul-stirring conversations. But, we have a good time together.
When we spend time, it's Fun Only. Time to de-stress, forget problems, check out of the real world for awhile.
never go against your instincts it'll hurt you every time! I did it twice so far and will never do it again.
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