Don't hate the hater.

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   Beth37posted 10 years ago

   By Chrissy Stockton
   
   1. Negative people will always find something to complain about
   As Katt Williams says, “Jesus was perfect and he only had 12 friends.” It’s important to remember that it isn’t about you, there are people who are weak and feel better/smarter by pointing out things that are wrong with what you are putting out, rather than having a hobby or creating something of their own. If you listened to their negativity and changed what you were doing, it wouldn’t make a difference, they would just find a new thing to complain about. That’s just the brain wiring of a negative person–look for what is wrong. If you can’t cut this person out of your life and need help not letting their negativity get to you, try to think about them in terms of the empty boats zen master story. They aren’t attacking you, personally, they’re just running into stuff that happens to be there because being negative is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
   
   2. Complainers are always below the complained about
   In a way, haters makes you powerful. You are the one initiating the action, they are the ones responding. You are the leader, they are the follower. Consider it a compliment when people take enough notice of you to spend their time and energy hating on you.
   
   3. If no one is hating you, you’re slacking
   No one that history remembers was universally adored during their life. It’s not the nature of doing anything worth doing that it pleases everyone all the time. The only way to do that is to not make any waves at all, ever. Which seems like a huge waste of your life.
   
   4. Haters are deeply unhappy
   You can feel it in their unchill vibes.
   
   It’s impossible to be super judgmental about what other people are doing and not be a Debbie downer about how you feel about yourself. The standards you hold for other people get applied internally, whether you intend to or not.
   
   5. If there’s anybody out there that doesn’t have anyone to hate on, feel free to hate on me

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      sallybeaposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry Beth - I can't oblige - such a wasted emotion - all that hate is just not worth the effort.
      
      If I knew how, I would send a Hubbers Hug instead.

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         Beth37posted 10 years agoin reply to this

         Good for you! We need to be more positive, maybe you'll have that affect.

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      Rad Manposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Can't think of a single person I hate. Thought about it for a while, but came up empty. I can and do disagree with you often, but don't hate you at all.

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         Beth37posted 10 years agoin reply to this

         This isn't a letter to Beth, but thank you... it's a letter to everyone on how to deal with those in your life who are perpetually negative. It's good article.

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   EncephaloiDeadposted 10 years ago

   @ Beth
   
   I don't think anyone hates or wants to hate you, despite your negativity and complaining. Try to be happy and everything will be fine.

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      Beth37posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Huh, good example.
      I wasn't actually worried about anyone hating me, despite my... negativity and complaining... My friend had posted this on FB and I thought it was really encouraging. I thought others might feel a bit uplifted by it too. Take care.

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   Beth37posted 10 years ago

   Here's a good video. This guy is really cute (speaking of positive ppl)... As a non believer, he goes around questioning ppl from all religions. Ive watched him interview before ppl and I enjoy him. He puts his questions to the Baptists this time. It was a sweet video. You might like him too.
   
   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VxLS5Au … SRkBi8tD2i

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