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What are your strategies for coping with negativity?

  1. midget38 profile image90
    midget38posted 4 years ago

    What are your strategies for coping with negativity?

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    lesliebyarsposted 4 years ago

    To me the best way to deal with a negative person is to remain positive and kill em with a smile. It doesn't always work though.

  3. sherrituck profile image87
    sherrituckposted 4 years ago

    It is difficult to help a negative person see things in a positive light.  This change must come from inside the person with the negative worldview.  However, negativity is a poison that spreads quickly.  If I encounter negativity, my strategy is to listen to the other person with empathy if possible and offer help (if help is wanted).  Sometimes you have to tune things out or walk away if things are too negative.  Otherwise, negativity will take over your life.  If see shades of negativity in my own actions and words, I try to make a conscious effort to change my way of thinking before it is too late.

    1. midget38 profile image90
      midget38posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      yes indeed, it is the readiness of the person.

  4. Sri T profile image80
    Sri Tposted 4 years ago

    The best way is to clear your own thoughts and think highly of yourself.  When you do this, everything else disappears. You are only disturbed by your own thoughts and feelings. If that is too difficult or if you think others are the cause, then there are other methods: http://srit.hubpages.com/hub/Free-of-Negativity

  5. cebutouristspot profile image76
    cebutouristspotposted 4 years ago

    By starting to think positive smile Try to see the light as much as possible.

  6. marwan asmar profile image80
    marwan asmarposted 4 years ago

    Be hopeful, put up a stiff upper lip. Don't think of the negatives but of the positives

  7. jennshealthstore profile image90
    jennshealthstoreposted 4 years ago

    It is not easy to do. It actually takes a lot of will on your own part in order to change negative thoughts into positive ones. Lets face it, most of us have things happen in our lives that will naturally make us think negative thoughts. Sometimes we will even give up, but we have to train our minds to think of the positive things that will come out of the situation. There is usually a lesson behind negative things and when we can learn to accept the lesson and realize that better things will happen, we can start to think more positively.

  8. RealityTalk profile image60
    RealityTalkposted 4 years ago

    Smile & discount it.  I coached soccer for boys & girls from ages 5 to 15 and I had to deal with negative feelings a lot.  We are all brought up differently & we all face different experiences in life.  Many of these life experiences breed negative feelings within about oneself and others.

    The reason I mention coaching kids soccer is because I took it on as my job as coach, and a parent, to help the kids overcome any negative feelings they had about themselves and others.  I stress to the kids to that they can play any position and then I assess their abilities and work on improving their weaknesses.  It is usually the weaknesses that scare them from attempting to play certain positions.  Once I help them improve, they feel better about themselves & more positive they can succeed.  I also allow encourage them b y telling them what they did right more than what they did wrong.  Kids need encouragement to do well & enjoy doing it.  I find my philosophy differs from some coaches who only choose the kids with superior talent to play first string, all the time & certain positions.  I believe a good coach breeds talent & a positive attitude, (s)he doesn't merely look for talent & discard everyone else.

    I also try to stress a positive attitude about the game, the referees & the other team.  I tell the kids to accept whatever call the referee makes & I will as well and just play the game; it all evens out in the end.  I also stress we are playing to win, but we are playing to enjoy the game; to have fun.  And so is the other team, so compete against ourselves, to play better, not to beat the other team. 

    This year I coached for the first time after taking a break to watch the game for four years.  I coached a girls U15 team; a group of girls who had not won more than 2 games a season in 4 years.  We ended with a winning season & all throughout the girls were excited to play and everyone got along great and had great fun.  A positive attitude made for a great season.  Fun for them & fun for me.

  9. Bishop55 profile image93
    Bishop55posted 4 years ago

    For me...
    quickly remove myself from it, and meditate or go into my own thoughts until I can process, release, and move on.  Sometimes it's really hard!  Especially when the negativity comes from friends or family.

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    MysticMoonlightposted 4 years ago

    I get outside. Often I talk walks, sit near water, or simply sit/lay in the grass to clear myself and my thoughts of anything that's negative or that's bothering me. I also try to take some time to meditate. I light some incense and a candle, great triggers for the mind to relax, and try to clear my mind. These things have really helped me cope with negativity and stress in my life.

    1. savvydating profile image96
      savvydatingposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Good answer, MysticMoonlight. I have found that a candle and incense is a "great trigger."

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      MysticMoonlightposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you savvydating.

    3. midget38 profile image90
      midget38posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent, Moonlight!

  11. wqaindia profile image62
    wqaindiaposted 4 years ago

    I have started writing short inspiration stories for kids with no element of negativity and really Kids are enjoying short inspiration stories. The positiveness needs to be taught at the tender ages.

    1. midget38 profile image90
      midget38posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes!

  12. savvydating profile image96
    savvydatingposted 4 years ago

    Unfortunately, one has to learn how to cope with negativity, because negative people exists in the workplace (and everywhere else, for that matter). But since we spend so much time working, it helps to develop one's communication skills. That is not to say I have developed all of them, but some techniques do help to deflect negativity
    That having been said, when we experience negativity either inside or outside of ourselves we must 1) recognize it, 2) reject it's untruth, 3) confront it if it is having a destructive impact on you (confront it for the bully it is), 4) realize that negativity is an aspect of life, but it doesn't have to change your attitude, 5) Have self- respect, 6) Do not fight it, but learn to walk through it - so that it is left behind you.

  13. CraftytotheCore profile image82
    CraftytotheCoreposted 4 years ago

    As difficult as it is sometimes, I try to see the positive in all situations.
    In a sense, I tune it out. 

    In order to move forward, I stop thinking about the negative situation and focus on something else.  This has been effective for me in order to plow through a situation without being bogged down with the bad side of something.

    1. midget38 profile image90
      midget38posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      And not dwelling on things is truly the way to move forward.

  14. liesl5858 profile image88
    liesl5858posted 4 years ago

    My strategies for coping with negativity are: one - not listening to people who are always thinking negative thoughts about everything. Two -try to see the positive of things in people not always seeing the negative sides. Three - Eliminating negative thoughts.

  15. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 4 years ago

    I am always positive minded and do not allow the influence of negativity. I never get myself into such situation with people who are negative.

  16. Chuck Bluestein profile image60
    Chuck Bluesteinposted 4 years ago

    I listen to someone speak who has unlimited positive energy. Prem Rawat says "You are more complete than you will ever know. You have within you the greatest treasure." http://theypi.net/video.php?title=Infin … &id=22

  17. BuffaloGal1960 profile image73
    BuffaloGal1960posted 4 years ago

    First, I try to set the example.  If they don't catch on, I exit.  Not for them, for me. No one really wants to be around someone who sucks the life out but sometimes all it takes is for them to hear you speak positively.  Negative people are often depressed people so I hope to have compassion, but sometimes, it's a life-long habitual thing and I can't see much change in their future.

    1. RealityTalk profile image60
      RealityTalkposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Giving up on people is why there is so many with mental illness. Many people with negative mentalities have reasons for being so. Many of them are looking for help; for some positive expressions from others. Walking away is the worst thing.

    2. CraftytotheCore profile image82
      CraftytotheCoreposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Wow Buffalo!  I'm really surprised at your answer.  As Christians, we are called to Lift Up !!!  big_smile

  18. PoeticPhilosophy profile image80
    PoeticPhilosophyposted 4 years ago

    Either ignore them, or playfully play along. This will irritate them.

  19. Beata Stasak profile image83
    Beata Stasakposted 4 years ago

    The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new, not on fighting the negative, but on building the positive. Socrates read more

  20. fivesenses profile image77
    fivesensesposted 4 years ago

    Go for a long walk, do some hindu or buddhist chanting or listen to music to take your mind off negative stuff.

  21. easylearningweb profile image92
    easylearningwebposted 4 years ago

    If a negative thought comes to mind, immediately replace it with a positive thought. Think positive and believe that things can be better. Strive for perfection. If you encounter a negative person or situation, try your best to see the good in the person or situation. If necessary, remove yourself from the negative situation.

    Hope that helps.

  22. winjoy profile image60
    winjoyposted 4 years ago

    I simply cut out negative people and activities in my life and focus my energies on things that make me happy and fulfill my life. It all starts from allowing  good thoughts in your mind opposed to negative. Stop watching negative images on television or the media and allow selective opinions from people to enter your mind. Do activities that enhance your physical as well as your mental progress.

  23. Reynold Adade profile image61
    Reynold Adadeposted 4 years ago

    negativity is like a virus it mostly spreads to anyone it touches so is positivity and cheerfulness some people are like a dark cold night they suck all your joys away others are like the sun reliable, shining every single day warming up everything in their parts,the funny thing is that we choose to allow either of these people to affect us,if we know what we want and how we want it there is very little someone with a negative vibe like pessimism can do to affect us after all good people sometimes come out of bad homes and bad neighbourhood thats all because they kept a positive outlook on life when you meet a cheerful person think of it as a bonus

  24. tillsontitan profile image87
    tillsontitanposted 4 years ago

    As others here have said, try to turn it into positivity.  We can't run away from negativity but we can turn it around.  If it is someone who is negative try to talk to them and change their viewpoint just enough to allow them to see the positive side.  If it is a negative situation try to diffuse it and turn it into a more positive experience.  In other words look at the glass as half full instead of half empty.

    1. midget38 profile image90
      midget38posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      That's true. Life with always be full of curve balls but it is how we respond.

  25. desaiamarjeet profile image60
    desaiamarjeetposted 4 years ago

    I go blank. Keep that negativity on low fumes of ideas and try to find what is the reason of Negativity or is it really a negativity or your thoughts that made it negative.

 
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