Advice what can I make things better in my marriage
I have been married for seventeen yrs know and my husband basically controls the marriage,we hardly argue but lately that is all we been doing, I have been going through alot of health issues and in pain all the time and my husband he to has health issues, we get along but lately he has putting me down and he never wanted me to work know its being thrown in my face.when I try to talk to him, he tells me to shut up and get over it.There is so much more and I feel like me having the health issues that I have lately and finacially we are struggling I wish I could work but cannot at the moment I f
I'm really sorry you're going through this on top of health issues. I know that problems in marriage, alone, can be painful. There are so many things that could be causing the issue. I strongly recommend you try to go to a therapist; whether it is just you who goes, or both of you, it will be beneficial. If this all started after your health diagnosis, it could be related. Perhaps he feels neglected in some way that he didn't before. Perhaps he doesn't even realize that that is why he feels so negative.
If you can't get to therapy, I always turn to books. I wrote on a hub about one book called "The 5 Love Languages" - it helped me in my (young) marriage. There is also The 7 Principles to Making Marriage Work, and so many others that may help you. If you're nervous to have those books around the house, you can download the Kindle app to your PC for free, and then buy the books to read on your computer.
I hope things get better for you. Try to remain relaxed. Try not to get defensive. Try not to feed the negativity. Relax as much as you can.... Good luck!
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