Is it truly better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all?
Is the excruciating pain of a lost love truly worth a brief glimpse of love?
yes it adds flavor to your soul, without feeling it, we would be dreadful depressing human beings. Living in darkness. Love brings you out into the light.
~Where there is love, there is pain.~ Spanish proverb
~True love doesn't have a happy ending because true love doesn't end.~
~Love is energy: it can neither be created nor destroyed. It just is and always will be, giving meaning to life and direction to goodness... Love will never die. ~Bryce Courtney
Well, I know this probably isn't the most popularly shared opinion; but I have to say I lean toward, "It's better to have never loved, than to have loved and lost." (Maybe that's just me I'm just not a big fan of loss. LOL )
Yes, One moment in the sun beats a lifetime of rain.
When relationships don't work out it's natural to focus on the ending. Instead of remembering the joy you felt in the beginning you hold onto the pain.
We'd all do better if we could be like women after child birth. Somehow they are able to FORGET about the pain of giving birth when they start to consider having a second child. Love is it's own reward.
The first time we fall in love we're completely flying by the seat of our pants. In all honesty it takes more courage to fall in love a 2nd or 3rd time. (After you have been hurt).
To give up on the possibility of finding a new love on a planet which has over 6 billion people on it..... is to give up on yourself.
Apply the lessons you learned from your past as you move on towards the future. It really comes down to knowing who you are, what you want, and need in a mate. We all select our own friends, lovers, and spouses. Hopefully with time and experience we gain enough wisdom to be able to spot the person who will love and adore us for who we are and we feel the same way about them. People find new love all of the time!
You just have to be willing to let go of your past in order to see your potential future.
Why does brief glimpse of love bring excruciating pain of loss?
There is a Russian proverb "Love without joy, farewell without sorrow".
A brief glimpse of love, a brief glimpse of pain.
A deep love, deep pain of loss.
Everything is balanced. Love may be a choice. We break our own hearts because we create illusions, nobody create illusions for us, but it is so sweet to surrender. It is painful to wake up.
I am so good at creating fantasies - I am always in love and always heart-broken. Is it worth it? I don't think I can live in any other fashion. The fact that I did not find the man who could reciprocate... maybe I did not look hard enough.
But I am going to...
Absolutely, although it is hard to see that while in the midst of the pain of loss. It equates to 'no-risk, no-reward'. Loss is difficult regardless of what we lose, love, money, respect, etc.... I was married at 21 and widowed by 24 - swearing I would never allow someone into my heart again as the pain was so devastating. Somewhere along the line I felt strong enough to accept a little risk and fell into 'exteme like' and was then faced with the fear of allowing 'falling in love'. Eventually, the idea that I would never allow myself to love him was more painful than the idea that I may someday lose him.
I would like to believe so.
After all, even if we lost it, we still have memories to make us smile every once in a rare while.
If we did not risk it and never loved at all, how would we know?
That's very difficult to answer. Especially..if all that love was just thrown away...and forgotten...
Pain reminds us we are alive. Hopefully it will make us stronger too and even more courageous the next time around.
Personally, I think of my husband whenever anyone says this. If I had never met him and experienced deep, unconditional love, I wouldn't know what I'm missing so I'd be indifferent to the question. But, I did meet him, and if I lost him in the future (Goddess forbid) I know even though the pain would be excruciating, I wouldn't give up the experience for anything. The pain from lost love only serves to prove how strong the bond between you and another really was. This goes for pets too! I have lost 2 dogs and a cat in the past 2 years and while many people might refuse to get another animal because the pain is so great, I believe the joy and love between myself and my dogs is well worth the pain when they pass on. The experience of true love greatly outweighs the pain of losing it. You may not think this at the time of loss, however. The feelings of love never leave and are never forgotten, the memories allow us to relive the feeling of true love over and over again. The pain is only temporary, but the joy love brings is eternal.
by Cristale Adams 11 years ago
Is it really better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all?Is this an example of faith?
by jay2jay 12 years ago
If LOVE so nice, tell me why it hurt so bad.
by NikiDiva 10 years ago
Is it better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all?
by TehClay 13 years ago
Better to have loved and lost, or to never have loved at all?
by Julianna 6 years ago
Why does losing someone you love to death have to be so painful?I understand its written in the Bible; but why does it have to hurt so much? How do you cope with the pain? Why does it take longer for some of us to overcome, while others continue to move on like nothing happened? The reason I ask is...
by ThatFatGuy 13 years ago
Is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?
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