How do you know when its time to leave a marriage?

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   LOVE LEI DIVAposted 10 years ago

   How do you know when its time to leave a marriage?
   
   When you exchange vows you say for better or worse.... til death do us part.....so why do so many people get divorces? The bible doesn't suggest its an option unless there is infidelity. Do they marry and then realize he or she wasn't what they wanted?Do they realize Mr or Mrs right is indeed Mr or Mrs wrong?

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   tehgybposted 10 years ago

   I don't believe in divorce, if you don't know someone well enough to know how they will be a year or even 20 from now, DONT GET MARRIED TO THEM.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      What happens when that ship has sailed? In other words the couple got married right out of high school or who they married changed/became abusive. No one is stuck with anyone. The purpose of divorce is to give people another chance to get it right

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Women initiate 66% or 2/3rds of all divorces in the U.S. It is believed in part due to the fact that today's women have better career opportunities and more financial freedom than those of previous eras.
   The more options one has the less crap they're going to put up with! :-)
   There are two key reasons why the divorce rate is high.
   
   1. Human beings make mistakes!
   
   No one disputes this fact except for when it comes to (choosing) the "right person" to marry. Intellectually we know not everyone dates or marries the right person for them self. Oftentimes people get married before truly knowing who they are marrying. Then there are some who never sat down to figure out what they wanted and needed in a mate for life! And then there are others who marry someone who flips the script on them down the road. It's not uncommon to hear someone say, "He/she is not the same person I fell in love with."
   
   2. Oftentimes people get married for the wrong reasons!
   
   Some examples include unplanned pregnancy, an ultimatum was given, all their friends were married or getting married, they reached a "goal age", just got tired of being single, been in a relationship for a couple of years and thought "Why the hell not?", someone joined the military and was about to be shipped away so they wanted to tie someone down in order to ensure there would be someone waiting for them, and other's have been known to (marry people they did NOT love) for money or to get out of their parent's house.
   
   Everyone is entitled to have "deal breakers". In fact if one does not have them odds are they have low self-esteem or do not love themselves. Just because you marry someone does not mean you have to stay with them if the relationship becomes toxic, violent, or one's mate is cheating, not living up to promises they made, verbal abuse, abusing your children, stealing the family money, becomes a drug addict or alcoholic, stopped having sex or being affectionate towards you. There is no virtue in being someone's doormat!
   Most people who say getting a divorce is the "easy way out" have never gone through a divorce! The truth of the matter is (it's a lot easier to get married) than it is to go through a divorce!
   There are millions of unhappy marriages, sexless marriages, couples living apart in the same home or in different homes who have never bothered to get divorced.It takes courage to publically admit a mistake and start over. Change is rarely easy.
   By the way the bible only allows for (men) to divorce women! http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … forgranted

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   It is time to leave a marriage when you are no longer happy and no longer can communicate about the simplest  of conversations. You tend to  be the only who is trying while your partner  doe snot show any interest.

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