What man or (woman) would not want to be greeted with a warm smile and have their mate show sincerity in their desire to please them? One of the reasons people love dogs is because they're always "happy to see them" when they walk through the door.
By no means am I comparing spouses to dogs but rather saying everyone wants to be greeted with love and affection after work.
No one I knows wants to walk into a door and get hit immediately with complaints, issues, and problems.
Nevertheless when these "rules" were written the marriage partnership was quite different. The husband was the sole breadwinner and dealt with the pressures of work, trying to get ahead, and making sure his family had everything they needed.
The wife's role was to make sure when he got home the weight of the world fell off his shoulders. He could relax in a loving and peaceful environment.
The fear was if he had to contend with weighty issues at home after a stressful day at work he may start to want to escape for "happy hours" after work rather than rush home or possibly find a "mistress" to shower him with affection as opposed to being with his wife making demands or nagging him about something.
Today most likely both people are working, driving through heavy traffic, thinking about what needs to be done in the office first thing in the morning, and making an attempt to squeeze in some "quality time" with their children over a meal from McDonalds or KFC.
That's assuming they even eat dinner together! A lot of people eat in their bedrooms or in front of the TV. Everyone does their own thing.
Since both people in the marriage are stressed out at the end of the day neither one of them provides that "soft place to land".
However I believe most men today appreciate women who are independent financially and have interests outside home & family.
It takes a lot more effort to sooth another when you have your own truckload of issues!