Can you still continue with a happy relationship when you realize that your husb

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   sriparnaposted 14 years ago

   Can you still continue with a happy relationship when you realize that your husband's ego gets...
   
   much higher priority than his feelings for you?

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   jdomingoposted 14 years ago

   You can but its going to be a very one sided relationship, usually those types of relationships are not healthy to be in, I believe being happy with someone else is a two way street we have to give as well as receive in order to be happy.  Giving giving giving can be very draining especially when you get nothing in return, although I do know of people that like it this way but those are far and few in between.  So I guess the only way to be happy in that type of relationship is to submit to the husbands ego and let his inflated ego represent your level of happiness?  If his ego is good you're happy?  I'm not sure

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   DStettlerposted 14 years ago

   I have to agree with jdomingo. If he's to stuck in himself it can only cause pain unless you are willing to submit. But that is one-sided.

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   arrowsparrowposted 14 years ago

   My parents experienced the same sort of situation. I think it comes down to how much you value him. Is it more than your own happiness? For some wives their husbands immediate happiness is more important than their own happiness. It is a strange loop where they are only happy if their husbands are happy.
   
   I think maybe in your case, it's not enough that he is happy for you to be happy. But of course, that's up to you to decide. If you are unhappy with your position on his priority list you should talk to him about it. If that is too uncomfortable then talk to someone else you trust to work out exactly how you feel because in the that is what is important. Take care

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   sid_candidposted 14 years ago

   It is a very difficult situation to be in and this is a relationship which is almost meaningless. In other words it is not a healthy relationship. For a relationship to be successful both partners need to be caring, loving and considerate towards each other. Ego is the last thing acceptable in a relationship.

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