Hmm what would be the perfect birthday message for an ex boyfriend??

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  1. Shanaaya profile image61
    Shanaayaposted 12 years ago

    Hmm what would be the perfect birthday message for an ex boyfriend??

    its been 1 yr we r not together..its his birthday cming..we dnt usually talk but when we meet we still say hi hello... I want to wish him happy birthday and plz I need the perfect message wishing him all the joy and all ...

  2. blondepoet profile image67
    blondepoetposted 12 years ago

    " I hope you have a lovely day and that all your dreams come true. I swear to God it wasn't me that put those prawn shells in the seams of your curtains last birthday. Oh my goodness they must have really stunk the house down. At least you and your woman, the one you replaced me with finally tracked down that hideous smell after living with the stench for a month." ....'Blondepoet secretly smiles to herself'

  3. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 12 years ago

    why. he's your ex so unless you want him to know he still has a hold on you, don't waste your time.

  4. Zainnisar profile image41
    Zainnisarposted 12 years ago

    Totally agree with nightwork4 unless you want to him back and still miss him that's worth wasting you time.

  5. lorenmurcia profile image86
    lorenmurciaposted 12 years ago

    It seems to me that you still love your ex or you wouldn't even bother remembering that it's his birthday much less think of a perfect birthday message. Just greet him a happy birthday and wish him well.

  6. Dexter Yarbrough profile image68
    Dexter Yarbroughposted 12 years ago

    Listen, you don't have to want your ex boyfriend back just to be polite. This was someone that was an integral part of your life at one time - you don't have to discount him just because you have moved on. There is nothing wrong with you sending him a birthday message.

    As for the perfect message, just say what comes to mind. It seems to work best.

  7. duffsmom profile image59
    duffsmomposted 12 years ago

    I would just send a nice general card saying something simple like "wishing you a very happy birthday and all the best wishes for the future."

    Its nice not to burn bridges between exes, staying friends is rare but is really better in the long run. Bitterness is so overrated and exhausting.

  8. fpherj48 profile image60
    fpherj48posted 12 years ago

    Shanaaya.....Oh dear, honey, is it OK if I give some sincere "Motherly" advice?  The relationship has been over a year....and you've only exchanged "Hellos," since then?  Wanting to send him a BD card tells me you are using his BD as an excuse to make contact ...beyond your courteous greetings to one another...which, in turn, tells me you are simply not "over him"  and secretly hoping you can sneak into his mind via a "card".....just in case he's not over you...
    Shanaaya, BIG mistake.  IF he is involved with someone else now, he will either throw your card away or worse, use it to make her jealous....neither of which is your intention, I'm sure.  Because I don't know anything about your relationship with him when you were together, nor why it's a little difficult to be more detailed than saying,,,,.it was, it isn't any more, he hasn't shown an interest in re-kindling in the past year........get all thoughts of him out of your that one day, you can get him out of your heart.  Focus on healing YOU.  Sending a card may seem like a simple harmless thing.  It is not.  You will be expecting "something," and when that doesn't've just gone backwards.  Good luck.

    1. gLaizaMari profile image54
      gLaizaMariposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      :'( teary  eyed while reading your msg.. and I can actuaLLy reLate to this issue.. tNx 4 makin me reALize the trUth..

    2. profile image54
      lupita coloradoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I need help I wish there was a way I could tell you about my relationship. @Fpherj48

    3. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      lupita...   I am  always happy to lend an ear and at least try to add some support and are welcome to send me an email if you like...It may be a while before I can give it the attention it deserves, but eventually, I will.

    4. Dasari Lavanya profile image61
      Dasari Lavanyaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I completely agree with Paula.  Such a great advice. You really connected yourself as a mother Paula.  Thanks for helping her. I really appreciate from my the bottom of my heart for connecting with people.

  9. Ramsa1 profile image63
    Ramsa1posted 12 years ago

    He's your ex, don't waste your time, move on.

  10. juiwei2000 profile image60
    juiwei2000posted 12 years ago

    Depends on what your current relationship with your ex is, if you guys are still best mates, you can even throw him a birthday party, but if it is some other, it is best you guys just be strangers.  It really depends

  11. Expert Gardener profile image57
    Expert Gardenerposted 12 years ago

    I have been to this situation so I have the full right to say this. Don't ever attempt to talk to him unless you had good dealings when you broke up.

    Guys are rude and will take your greetings as if you still like him. So keep it.

    But if you had good dealings before this is my message:

    Hi, hello! It's been  a while and I (state your present heart feelings this time) ....

    (greet as a friend)


  12. prettylittlewhims profile image60
    prettylittlewhimsposted 12 years ago

    A simple "Happy Birthday" is sufficient. Any elaborate greeting can lead to a lot of awkward questions to your ex-boyfriend from his PRESENT girlfriend.

    Don't over-think it. Just say "Happy Birthday" and get on with your life...

  13. Michael-Milec profile image61
    Michael-Milecposted 10 years ago

    Hello shanaaya
    A broken relationsh is none existent relationship. Sending to him any kind of attention may deepen your ' hurt ' keeping  you stagnate , while there is a wondeful perspective. One single  act of ' forget it all' will set you free , since only when one leaves past behind can enthusiastically move one, enriched by another experience and definitely wiser.

  14. Moniquee Curryy profile image54
    Moniquee Curryyposted 10 years ago

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    1. Michael-Milec profile image61
      Michael-Milecposted 10 years agoin reply to this

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  15. Sundeep Kataria profile image63
    Sundeep Katariaposted 10 years ago

    No point in re-visiting a chapter in life which is closed.

  16. Hui (蕙) profile image60
    Hui (蕙)posted 10 years ago

    I can't give any suggestions on this, because I would never do this, even I indeed miss him. Dignity is the first thing for me to keep! It is not that good, actually, but this is me. People are different!

  17. Agnes Penn profile image61
    Agnes Pennposted 10 years ago

    Only one word is needed to answer this question, but HP doesn't allow it: Silence.
    You are describing him as ex-boyfriend.  He is either a friend or not.  Think of how many people exist in this world that you have not wished a happy birthday to who are good and since you don't know them you don't say anything.  If he is your ex you don't really know each other.  Be at peace.
    Unless... what you really want is to get back together.  In which case you need to do a lot of soul-searching as to what/who you want in life.

  18. 1kmjs profile image64
    1kmjsposted 10 years ago

    "I'm glad your growing up."

    -Your Name-

  19. Engr Shahid profile image57
    Engr Shahidposted 10 years ago


  20. cebutouristspot profile image78
    cebutouristspotposted 9 years ago

    Why would you send him a birthday card ?  It just show that you havent gotten over him.

    Just move on and live your life to the fullest

    1. alan raj profile image78
      alan rajposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I too feel the same...

  21. Eazy_E profile image60
    Eazy_Eposted 9 years ago

    If there is some kind of desire to be back with him, I say be honest. Wish him a happy birthday. Give him your well wishes, but also let him know how you feel, how he made you feel before. Two things can happen; he realizes what he lost and you both rekindle something that could be great or he is honest with you and let's you down easy. In that circumstance, you may deepen your hurt, but it's temporary and can be therapeutic. After all, holding it in now is never going to stop your deep down pain, only let it fester. Getting it out gives you the opportunity to move passed it and grow.

  22. nishanahsin profile image59
    nishanahsinposted 9 years ago

    dont be so silly ! ay do you have to text him anyway? unles you still have something in your heart... think about it before doing it.

  23. SatendraSaini profile image47
    SatendraSainiposted 9 years ago

    Actually It depends on his nature. And I think you are well aware about it. So do something best for him to make that birthday  memorable.

  24. Shanaaya profile image61
    Shanaayaposted 9 years ago

    Thanks everyone for your responses.
    indeed you are all right in your way..
    one thing we need to learn, a broken relationship cannot be mended like before.
    we can make the effort to prevent further scratch only
    thanks again smile
    a simple HB was enough smile

    1. Divakar P profile image60
      Divakar Pposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Still there's no wrong is trying to mend a broken relation if it still means worthy to you. Just because you have sent a bday card doesn't mean you are desperate for his love, ex can sometimes be one of very good friends. I may be wrong but i dif

  25. dailytop10 profile image87
    dailytop10posted 9 years ago

    don't message him...hahaha a complete waste of energy in typing if you ask me...have a great day!

  26. be grateful profile image61
    be gratefulposted 9 years ago

    Nothing.  He is in your past.  Let it go so you can open yourself to what lies ahead...

  27. lostohanababy profile image57
    lostohanababyposted 9 years ago

    If there's a chance of getting back together, maybe you should consider.  That would be a 'best' birthday, a ex-boyfriend, could wish for, if he is still caring for you!

  28. padmendra profile image51
    padmendraposted 9 years ago

    If you break up with your ex  boyfriend was owing to social reasons, the message should be like this  - Many many happy returns of the Day. Wishing you a happy and prosperous life in the years to come. Missing a loving friend.

    If it was broken  because of other reasons like cheating, etc., - it should be on this line what I feel – Happy Birthday to you – with an advice not to breach the trust of those who sincerely and emotionally liked you a friend, if you really want to maintain your inner peace.

    1. Hui (蕙) profile image60
      Hui (蕙)posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      No social reason, I think.

    2. padmendra profile image51
      padmendraposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      You may be right, but it  is owing to   difference between  heart to heart in this kind of feelings.

  29. MThacker profile image64
    MThackerposted 9 years ago

    I would recommend not wishing him happy birthday at all as what would be the point? Did he wish you happy birthday? When a relationship is dead and gone then it should be left as such or it will end up bringing more heartache than good.

  30. Janani Shankar profile image60
    Janani Shankarposted 9 years ago

    I suggest you not to send any gifts or cards, just send him Happy Birthday that's enough for him.

  31. sweetpikez profile image68
    sweetpikezposted 9 years ago

    Everything was over. Sending him a birthday message would be a big NO. Your step of sending him a birthday message would be interpreted as "chasing after your ex". Someone deserves your greeting not your ex.

  32. Nigham AFZAL profile image81
    Nigham AFZALposted 9 years ago

    You don't have to send him any kinda message.
    lol...This question was asked about 2 years ago...I mean, he passed his 2 more birthdays. :p

  33. creativewriter123 profile image60
    creativewriter123posted 9 years ago

    Happy Birthday Ex-Boyfriend. Wish you many many happy girlfriends in future. wink
    Just kidding...Just wish him Happy Birthday.

  34. profile image0
    MrDanielAbramposted 9 years ago

    I would wish him the best in life and just leave it at that.

  35. MariaMontgomery profile image91
    MariaMontgomeryposted 9 years ago

    Why would anyone bother with an EX-boyfriend. He is history.

  36. samanthamjordan profile image66
    samanthamjordanposted 9 years ago

    Honestly, I would not say or do anything at all. You have been broken up for a year, and despite all the history you may or may not have had between you two, it is not healthy to dwell on a previous relationship, but rather learn from the experience and move on. It is a new chapter in your life and making an effort on someone who has already moved on only makes you look desperate and sad.

  37. alan raj profile image78
    alan rajposted 8 years ago

    I won't encourage you in messaging him,but if you want to message him,just message him as if he is just you friend and not ex-boyfriend.

  38. profile image56
    peter565posted 8 years ago

    Send this message [I got a new boy friend and he have a bigger dick then your's ha ha ha]

  39. Fahad ansari12 profile image59
    Fahad ansari12posted 8 years ago

    dont forget he is your ex so just txt him..
    "tere chehre se mujhe lagta h khauf
    fck off fck off!!"
    and move on.. live ur life in ur way.. smile

  40. passionatelearnr profile image85
    passionatelearnrposted 8 years ago

    Dont send him any birthday message.ex boyfriends don't deserve it.if you can't help sending one send an empty message.

  41. Shyron E Shenko profile image71
    Shyron E Shenkoposted 8 years ago

    Happy Birthday
    To a friend
    Although we are not together
    I wish for you a love that never ends.

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  43. CrescentSkies profile image63
    CrescentSkiesposted 8 years ago

    Send nothing. He's not your boyfriend anymore, so unless he's a friend his birthday shouldn't be important to you.

  44. Ashish Dadgaa profile image48
    Ashish Dadgaaposted 7 years ago

    Wish him
    Happy birthday to my ex-B.
    You are best and we had a wonderful time together and remind him about a kiss you gave him on his last birthday.
    He will be happy smile

  45. Ken Burgess profile image80
    Ken Burgessposted 7 years ago

    It really depends on his personality, how the relationship ended, and how well and how long you knew each other.

    However, people who are not in one another's 'circle' of friends or family don't usually send or say anything on a birthday.

    Although, if you are still following one another on facebook (or some such social network) you will likely get the message that it is their birthday, and then it is ok to wish them a happy B-day on that social network.

    Hope that helps.


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