Communication tips during initial stage of dating : Early Stage Dating Tips

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During the initial stage of dating there are some communication tips we need to know. These tips are very important so as not to ruin a new beginning for you. These are just some of my personal suggestions.

There are several stage in dating. The first stage is usually the attraction stage. In this stage we are usually attracted physically to the other person. Whether you saw their profile in the internet or you met them already in person, we always pass the stage of “getting to know the other person“ stage. This stage is when we start to exchange communication through SMS, emails or telephone conversation or going out to dine or visit some places. If you met the other person online, usually you communicate through emails.

Most of us sometimes wonder why does a person whom we have just met whether online or personal stop communicating with us anymore. Did we do something wrong along the way. What are the necessary thing to do or ask a person when you just met them so as not to ruin a nice new beginning. Initial stage of dating is very important because it is in this stage where you show your personality to the other person. It can make or break a new and budding partnership.

Whether it is just online or personal communication here are some questions which we should avoid asking during the first two stage of dating:

  • Asking them how much do they earn and what kind of job do they have. If you ask this questions it seems to appear that you are interested in how much money does the person make. It seems you are only interested in the capacity of the other one to sustain your needs when you will be together or how much will they contribute to later on. Instead try to ask questions about themselves, light conversational questions etc. Surely, the things that you needed to ask will just come out as go along the conversation.
  • Don’t ask, their political leanings, whether they are liberal or in what political spectrum they are. Don’t criticize other peoples views about politics too. Don’t engage them in a heated debate. If you want to talk about it, then just discuss it lightly and politely too. Always respect where the other person is coming from. If you did talk about it and if you don’t like his/her political thoughts or leanings you can always think about it later.
  • Refrain from asking about their religion. They will open up to you as you converse with them later
  • Don’t ask about their exes. In your case, refrain from badmouthing your ex. They will get the impression that you will do that to them later and that you are very vindictive.
  • When choosing a place to have dates refrain from commenting badly about the place and foods etc and behavior of some people. Just bring lighter conversation with the other person and avoid being vindictive.
  • As you go along all things shall be clear to you . You can get in a conversation with a prospective person by not pressuring them to tell you about their personal lives.
  • Listening is a good virtue. Concentrate on what the other one is saying. Be honest in your opinion but try to sound not too rude. Show your real self by not sounding impolite. Be nice to people you meet when you are with your date. I suggest do this not only during dates but be consistent with your behavior. If you are just pretending to be nice, they will surely learn your true behavior later on.

I hope this simple tips will help you as you go along with your dates.

Thank you and have a good day always!

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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

During my past/present relationship, I brought up my ex-girlfriend just to "fire-up" my current one just to get even with her. Doing so usually works. A little fire does well to spice things up, just so either partner knows where the other one stands!

Thanks for the invaluable tips. All of them are helpful, Maita.

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prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US Author

Hi Dohn, yes your right, little fights are ok to have the best situation after, I am happy you like some tips and they are invaluable, thnaks again for the read, maita

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stricktlydating 7 years ago from Australia

Great advice!

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prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US Author

thanks stricktlydating!

poetlorraine 7 years ago

must remember all those comments, in case i ever need them in the future, never know what the future may hold

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prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US Author

thanks poetlorraine, yes LOL, you make me smile you are a great lady, you will find one someday! Have a great day! Maita

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wavegirl22 7 years ago from New York, NY

Pretty . .wise words you have here. .but I am not surprised. For you always have great tips to share. I have been on one to many dates to relate to everything you have said here!

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prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US Author

thanks my friend, Maita

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carolina muscle 7 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

I was just wandering around looking for something good to read... and your posts never disappoint, Maita!

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prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US Author

thanks Carolina muscle for dropping by, maita

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Coolmon2009 7 years ago from Texas, USA

Hi Maita

Good advice, you hit the nail on the head. In the early stages of dating saying too much can be a death blow to a potential good thing. Yes you are correct when you suggest keeping the conversation light. Also, listening both with your ears and watching the body language of your date is so important - thanks for sharing


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prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US Author

hi Carla, I am glad you like this one and bless always, I am happy to share my thoughts always, Enjoy and thank you, Maita

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acaetnna 6 years ago from Guildford

Loved it, you have given some great tips here. Thank you for sharing these.

Mesh 5 years ago

Nice tips, am really in one problem now which i do not really know how to sort it out... I love him but his at fault, he is dating his neighbour and i went on reporting her to another neighbour and his get mad at me.

LG 4 years ago

If communication seems to die out, how long should one wait before moving on?

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