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If you knew someone who was about to drive home drunk, what would you do?

  1. nlwaters01 profile image59
    nlwaters01posted 4 years ago

    If you knew someone who was about to drive home drunk, what would you do?

    This person blocked you and you have no idea how drunk they are but that they live two hours away and is the parent to 6 kids, You also know that they they are out driving now, and have no idea I they are with someone or not. Would you call the bar to find out if this person is still there? If they didn't answer would you call the cops on them? They say they are going to do what they want and you are not their b/f or g/f or husband or wife,... that they are a grown adult and will do what they want and you can't stop them.... What would be your next move?


  2. prektjr.dc profile image86
    prektjr.dcposted 4 years ago

    Simple.  Tell them, "Hey. Not cool. I care about you and your kids. It isn't fair to them or the other innocent people who could get hurt. If you don't care about yourself, that's your problem, but you don't have the right to hurt others."  Then I would hang up and call the police and report concern about the person and give them a description of the vehicle, the driver, the license plate number of the vehicle, the location of the bar and their home.  It is better for them to be mad than dead or alive with someone else's dead kids on their conscience. 

    I have a bit more intense point of view though than most people.  My ex-husband is an alcoholic, I am a teacher and deal with kids who live with this kind of parent AND my son is a police officer.  I really KNOW how this can go bad fast.  Hope it helps.

  3. tsmog profile image83
    tsmogposted 4 years ago

    Hello nlwaters. Nice to meet you. For the main question "If you knew someone who was about to drive home drunk, what would you do?" to be honest is a tough question.

    First, I am no expert of law on this manner other than experience(s). The onus of liability to my understanding for a DUI injury or damages is the driver's if found to be intoxicated by any legal means defined, regarding adults. As to consequences that is a different matter.

    Next, how much social responsibility & what could happen to me attempting to stop a person deemed drunk is the question. The drunk could say, "get out of my way!" Or, poke me in the nose?

    From there escalation is the question and how much liability I have attempting to stop that person with social mores, folkways, and then both criminal and civil law. Next, is risk. Realizing any move I do, must be accompanied with accepting that responsibility.

    Example of Life Experience(s). I use to drink socially at bars for whatever reason. I was diagnosed with diabetes. I still went to bars, could not drink because of medications. So, I became a designated driver at a few select bars.

    Yes, I was single, I was bonded, I provided a free service, and had fun. I drank Free drinks from the bar - soda, water, coffee, etc, got free appetizers, and I liked green olives. So, those two primary bars said all I could eat of those on the house and they smiled too. And, I had to consider ethics and morality issues. 

    Without oddity, there was a clip board with a sheet stating they were "delivered to the door of their residence" safely. They were provided with a 8-1/2 x 11 sheet explaining how they got home, identified the service, identified me, I wrote down the bar they came from, the time of leaving the bar initialed by a bar employee, time of arrival, and provided all the legal mumbo-jumbo. A Taxi Service is different.

    So, lesson is even though I provided a safe & free service for "drunks" being mainly people who either are irresponsible, simply got carried away having fun, or somewhere betwixt and between, well, I had to take responsibility for that free service. Fortunately I had a friend who explained these to me. I thought I would just drive people home. Remember they are generally speaking strangers.

    Try this one on. You are a manager of an auto repair shop. The customers brakes are metal to metal & obviously unsafe. They refuse the minimum repair offered at cost saying no money. The law says they can leave. What do you do?

  4. lburmaster profile image82
    lburmasterposted 4 years ago

    It's their decision. I wouldn't really do anything and have been in a similar position many times. You cannot argue with a drunk person and, short of assulting them, it's not wise to engage them. They are old enough to wise up to their choices and anything short of a drastic encounter would change their lifestyle.