What are some tips for dealing with a co-worker who wants you to fail (and keeps

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  1. Earl S. Wynn profile image78
    Earl S. Wynnposted 13 years ago

    What are some tips for dealing with a co-worker who wants you to fail (and keeps setting you up...

    for it?)

  2. MoneyCreator24 profile image56
    MoneyCreator24posted 13 years ago

    Sometimes you have to think like an entrepreneur - fire fast, hire fast. - Get separated from him.

  3. MickS profile image60
    MickSposted 13 years ago

    If you can prove this behavior, report it to your manager and get your colleague sacked or transferred.  If you can't, and your colleague is a man, get him to a to place where there are no witnesses, put your hands on his shoulders and explain that you are dissatisfied with his behavior by sharply raising your right knee into his crotch, this should put an end to the problem.  If your colleague is a female, whilst the action may hurt, it won't have the desired effect and it's not good practice to go around cracking women, whatever they may have done.  You will need to just keep watching your back and be ever vigilante to what she is doing.

  4. womenintouch profile image60
    womenintouchposted 13 years ago

    I have found that to flip the scrip on them works what that means is instead of being mean to them when they willingly try to kick you down. Find out when their birthday is or some special day in their life is and surprise them with a small token. This will cause them to pause and think how great you are.  This will not build some great friendship but it will get them off your back. make sure you are sincere when  you do it or they will see right throught you. Kill them with kindness and you will have them eatting out of your hands. It has worked on many occassionas for me and others who ask the same questions you did.

  5. izoooom profile image60
    izoooomposted 13 years ago

    I don't mean to undermine your issue but first things first is to collect evidence to back up your case if you have not already.

    There is nothing worst that reporting to someone above and being asked to support it and you cannot.

    Then the next step is talking to the person and just generally finding more about them, like what their career motivations are and if they clash with yours, for example. Ask around with your fellow colleagues and co-workers to find out more about this person. Some people are just difficult characters and may be nothing personal against you and that is how they treat everyone else, maybe?

    Just back it up as hard as you can and try to deal with it openly (like an email between you and the co-worker) because anything said privately could be used against you.

    The nature of life is we have to deal with everyone, somehow. It is difficult to avoid a co-worker, that is the fact, but you can do everything as correctly a possible to cover your tracks, teach you about people management and fast track your career and take you to the next level.

    Good luck

  6. profile image0
    Butch Newsposted 13 years ago

    Try to become their friend.  Read "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie.

    Call them by their name

    Try to find something you like in them and tell them.

    That kind of person sees you as a challenge to them and they are insecure.  You need to prove you aren't a threat.

    I know it's hard to deal with idiots but don't let them bait you.

    Sometimes completely ignoring them is best if nothing else works.

    If it's because they think you are gay, or some issue like that then it will be more difficult but there may be conflict resolution methods such as filing a complaint.  But read the book and see if that helps.

  7. EvelynSparks profile image60
    EvelynSparksposted 13 years ago

    Well if you are sure of whom this person is, go to him or her and find out why or what they have against you. Try and work things out, and if this deon't work then you try stay away from them.

  8. Security News profile image61
    Security Newsposted 13 years ago

    Make sure to take action quickly. You may eventually become so angry that your efforts to address the situation could become irrational. It’s better to tackle the problem while you can maintain some objectivity and emotional control.

  9. 19621205 profile image59
    19621205posted 13 years ago

    Set things first and plan ahead of how to make a win-win situation with that co-worker. Make a constructive idea on how to deal that person.

    Throw a smile at that person though the response is still negative.

    Say a simple "hello" though it's not appreciated.

    Extend your services in any other way so that he/she will come to realize that you are not being affected by his/her bastard actions.

    If he/she persists on setting you up then he/she is a loser and don't intend to be as one cuz losers never win.

    Start your day with a great enthusiasm and always wear a smile.

    Remember the secrets in searching for TRUTH? It's simply HUMILITY...

  10. profile image59
    Writer Chuckposted 13 years ago

    Keep your relationship on a professional level. Don't let him or her get to you. Other people in the company most probably know the way he or she is. Most of all watch this person, beware of who your dealing with, and realize that others see what is going on.

  11. Iontach profile image68
    Iontachposted 13 years ago

    Mention it to your supervisor or manager in a friendly way, and keep a positive attitude, also tell them to look out for the situation  in the workplace and more than likely they will spot it.
    That person who is doing this to you WILL get what they deserve, it always happens in the end. Karma is a B*t*h!

  12. technorican profile image61
    technoricanposted 13 years ago

    There is some truth to all of the responses. However, there are circumstances where no matter what action you take, you could end up in a miserable situation you could not have anticipated. It takes both sides to cooperate for a win-win. Sociopaths will not care at all about you and they prefer control/power.

    1) Always always document: keep e-mails, write down incidents & conversations even if you are not the target.

    2) Report to management in a timely manner. However, remember that they & Human Resources will protect the company and themselves.

    3) Even if you do everything in a positive & professional manner, some people know how to twist it all into negatives.

    4) Read the book "Mobbing: Emotional Abuse in the American Workplace." There are also books on "toxic" people. You will learn why most of the reasonable tactics won't work. They may actually backfire.

    5) If necessary, file a complaint with the EEOC. However, the legal system is not educated in workplace bullying. You need to learn the legal lingo and have money to spend on a lawyer on a contingency basis. Learn before you spend.

    6) Support Healthy Workplace Advocate organizations. Bullying in the workplace is illegal in several countries. It is psychological violence, which can have devastating effects on your health, your career, your family, and your finances.

    7) Leave before you are injured! PTSD, depression, & anxiety are serious medical conditions, which can take years and money from your life.


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