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Have you ever had a "bully" for a boss? What did you do to deal with it?

  1. Virtual Treasures profile image57
    Virtual Treasuresposted 6 years ago

    Have you ever had a "bully" for a boss?  What did you do to deal with it?

  2. Joelipoo profile image80
    Joelipooposted 6 years ago

    I had one at a car dealership I worked at during college.  I wasn't overly concerned about keeping the job, so I would give him attitude back.  The full-time workers there could not do that for fear of their job.  He ended up getting fired by upper-management because of his mean ways, and it never came back to hurt me that I was slightly defiant towards him.

  3. JamesPoppell profile image84
    JamesPoppellposted 6 years ago

    I was unfortunate enough to have a bully for a boss. It was some time ago, but a few of us small minded employees got together and launched operation, "see ya wouldn't wanna be ya." We did not do anything that would hurt anyone else, but we did withhold vital information on a few occasions. We did this three times and after the third time he was transferred to another area and we did our victory dance. Do I feel bad about this? Absolutely not. I do not feel sorry for mean spirited bullies. Good question.

  4. JKenny profile image93
    JKennyposted 6 years ago

    My current boss is a bully, she picks out favorites and treats them better than the others. I can't quit my job, because of money, so my solution is to look for another job. When I eventually leave, I hope I can muster the guts to tell her what I really think of her.

  5. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image98
    Marcy Goodfleischposted 6 years ago

    Yes - it's no fun. In each case, the bully eventually ended up having to move on, or was forced out. But it's torture while they're still there.  I've always been truthful about the issues when asked. Unfortunately, that didn't bring about any rapid changes.

  6. point2make profile image81
    point2makeposted 6 years ago

    I did have a bully for a boss once. It was terrible and no matter how I tried to do my job he was never satisfied with my work and made my life miserable. In the end, rather than quitting my job, I believe I came up with a rather novel approach. I told his wife how he acted when she was not around. Worked like a charm!  She straightened him out very quickly and all the employees were relieved and the workplace became a much more enjoyable place to come to. To my knowledge he never did find out who talked to his wife......lucky for me.

  7. xethonxq profile image65
    xethonxqposted 6 years ago

    Yes I did...and he was a sexist. I set the tone for him about me (but in a firm, respectful way) and made sure his level peers know I did it so I wouldn't be unfairly scrutinized. He was the A** word at best.

  8. Catzgendron profile image75
    Catzgendronposted 6 years ago

    I once had a boss who told me to drop my 1 year old at the hospital and get back to work.  Mind you the doctors thought she had spinal meningitis.  And she actually had children.  i can't imagine how their life must have been.  Needless to say, I quit!!

    1. Virtual Treasures profile image57
      Virtual Treasuresposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I am glad you were able to stick up for yourself and your child!

  9. BeingOtherWoman profile image60
    BeingOtherWomanposted 6 years ago

    Oh, my YES!!!  My last boss was not only a bully.

    This was in a municipal court office.  I was the only caucasian in an office with a staff of 5.  Everything was going well, until a month after I started working there.  That's when a deputy administrator was hired.  This man/boy was racist.  We would all joke around with each other on down times and there was never a problem until he got there.  If I would make a comment, he would go to my boss and say "Are you going to let her talk to you like that?"  Keep in mind that I never said anything out of malice.

    It didn't take long before my boss picked up on his prejudices.  She started screaming at me like I was a child if I didn't do something her way.  I was called a "pig" for washing my hands in the office sink when there was no soap in the ladies room (even though the man/boy washed his hands in that same sink not 5 minutes before me). 

    Every day, she would talk to me like I was a child.  She and the deputy tried their hardest to get me to quit, but I stuck it out.  Even the judge (who was also black) jumped on the bandwagon.  If I was in court working on dispositions, and a defendant had to hand him paperwork, he would say "give that to the lady at the end of the counter".  Everyone else had a name ("please give that to officer so and so" or "Ms Smith will help with interpreting"). 

    The deputy lied about me and after a meeting with the judge and Human Resources, I was suspended, first for a week, then for a month.  I spoke with the HR director about these problems and he said nothing could be done even after I voiced concern that she wanted me gone.  Nothing was done even when I sent a memo about all the city rules she violated, including drinking on the job.

    Well, 3 days after my one month suspension, I was terminated.  I filed for unemployment and the next day, I filed an EEOC complaint. 

    I vowed never to work for anyone else ever again, so I started my own business.  That was 1 year ago.  Now I'm stress-free and happy.  EEOC complaint still pending.

    1. Virtual Treasures profile image57
      Virtual Treasuresposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I really hope you find some resolution.  Nobody deserves to be treated this way or bullied.