Have you ever had to end a friendship? Why? And how did you do it?

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   Marcy Goodfleischposted 9 years ago

   Have you ever had to end a friendship? Why? And how did you do it?
   
   Sometimes things change, even between BFFs.  Have you ever 'broke it off' with a good friend. Not someone you dated, but a friend?
   
   Why did you decide to move on?  And how did you make your exit?

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   bravewarriorposted 9 years ago

   Oh yeah, twice that come to mind right off the bat. The first was my high school best friend. She started having sex before I did. Long before. She wasn't as attractive as I was, so she'd become friends with my boyfriends, then have sex with them behind my back (I was a virgin). Once I discovered this, I simply wrote her off. In fact, she ended up marrying an ex-boyfriend of mine. I wonder if they're still married. I highly doubt it.
   
   Another time, I found out my supposed best friend was you-know-whating my boyfriend (this was after I was no longer a virgin). I handled it the way I felt appropriate. I called her into a bedroom at a party, backed her up against the wall with my hands around her throat and told her to stay away from my man.
   
   After I discovered "my man" was the culprit (many times) I left him, but not without leaving my mark. He'd beaten me often. I finally got my pay back. That's a story all in itself. I try to forget it, but I'll always remember, and I've never been physically abused again by a boyfriend.
   
   Sorry to get off topic. Your question brought back memories that will never leave me no matter how hard I try to let them go.

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   chuckandus6posted 9 years ago

   my friend Lisa in school, she heading down the road of drugs and I tried to help her for years and wasn't able to, so I ended the friendship.

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   Jackie Lynnleyposted 9 years ago

   I had a friend I had so much fun with and my husband and I both liked her new husband and had them over often and I was always very generous and treated them like family; always fixing great meals and snacks for them. Times we went out shopping I usually bought lunch too. She would claim she had little money but then later spend shopping but I let it pass. They bought a new house and they asked us to stop and see it one day and so we did and her husband offered us lunch and I saw this friend make awful faces at him because he asked and so I quickly said no we couldn't stay but that hurt me really deeply and I wrote her off right then and there. There just is no excuse for someone being that way and they are not a friend.

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      Jackie Lynnleyposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Oops and how I ended it was to never be available anymore when she would invite herself over or want tp go out. Apparently she finally gave up and we did not have to have words and I did not have to listen to any lies.

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   peachpurpleposted 9 years ago

   One of my good friend migrated to Australia, she settled down, had her own life, we lost contact even though I tried to emailed her. ANother good friend ended our friendship when she ran away with my money, others were married, had their own families, we just drifted apart this way

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   fpherj48posted 9 years ago

   Marcy.......Absolutely I have ended friendships through the years....at the precise moment and time I realized "they" were simply & truthfully NOT friends.   HOW did I do it?   Very much like Jackie.  No drama, no exchanges full of lies and/or denials.  I didn't need nor want to waste any more of my precious time nor start a war.
   The reality is.....MOST people know exactly who they are and what they do.  They know they push the limits, use people, lie, back stab and LIE some more.  It's not my job to point out these egregious behaviors.  They're aware
   My job is to do what I need to do and watch out for Me!..BTW...not once have I ever regretted ditching someone who earned being kicked to the curb!...UP tweeted & pinned.

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   Ji Zero Andreaposted 9 years ago

   Yeah,once I guess. It all started when my BFF found a new friend. It was never easy because as close friend we almost do everything together,parties and hang-outs, it is like the two of us is part of each other. Then time came when new people arrive into our lives.Suddenly,  this friend of mine had  already a very close relationship to this new person, they were so close it was like they've known each other for a long time. and as for me a lonely girl for  my past friend have found new one was left out. I felt so alone,then I have decided to have my own way. Though it really hurts that everything you've been through with your friend has come to ruin, you have to accept that change is inevitable and believe that there will be greater person that will arrive into your life. since my past BFF is my classmate  I have a difficult moments to carry the pain. And by that eliminating that friend into my life  it made me realize that I have to open my life into new horizons. There are many possible relationship outside my borders that  I have never notice because I have been isolated to my past friend where I thought that relationship would last. There I manage having new friends, not just one but a lot of true friends that accepted me as I am, and felt there is some thorn being release from inside of me letting the pain go and this could not happen without my new friends who helped me to be a better person.

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   Alyssa Gripshoverposted 9 years ago

   I had a best friend that I met at work. We shared stories, same interests. I used to babysit her four year old daughter. She was struggling to get out of debt, take care of her kid, her father had kicked her out, etc.....I helped her move all her things into her apartment. Then she started borrowing money. No big deal at first, not even significant amounts. Then she started getting involved with guys. We slowly grew apart at that point, but kept in touch. It wasn't until she fell into heroin that I said I'd had enough. She lost her apartment, couldn't feed her child much less pay me back, and spending all her money on drugs.
   After a few years apart(she lost her job due to lack of attendance) I ran into her at a superstore. She was engaged to a guy, she was turning her life around, etc... We had swapped phone numbers again to try and reconnect. The first text message I got from her was to ask a favor. I deleted the message and deleted her number. Never saw her again.

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   Stacie Lposted 9 years ago

   Yes, I've ended a number of them in my life, which makes me question my judgment; or maybe I was too trusting and  patient with some people.
   Honestly, some people have hidden agendas and pick their prey carefully. I am a generous person and have been taken advantage too many times, so now I am trying to be more choosey about those I befriend.

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    swaliaposted 8 years ago

    I had to end a friendship recently because my friend was constantly lying to me. I ignored most of the times but twice I told her to stop lying. After second time, she broke contact with me. So actually I didn't have to end the friendship. She did it herself.

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