What do you think should have been done? just a rant

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   pinkyleeposted 14 years ago

   I can't go into detail to much about what happened today at work however I want to know what you think should have happened or been done about a disrespectful comment made to me by a coworker.
   
   While at work and after having a few minor words with said coworker about their laziness in the class and getting things done I was told that unlike me she was doing something with her life because she was going to school and that's why she don't have time to clean or get lesson plans done.
   
   I feel this was inappropriate and something more than just listening to both sides of the story should have been done. I have removed myself from this classroom and working with this person cutting my hours as to not deck her in the face and lose my job. I just don't feel that it is very respectful for a 19 year old girl to tell me that I am not worth anything because I am not going to school to make something of my life. Who is she to judge and make me feel lower than an ant in an ant hole?

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      Precious Williamsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Dear Pinkylee
      I'm sorry that you felt so hurt by your coworker and not suprised you wanted to deck her.  However, don't let her make you feel "lower than an ant in an ant hole".  Rise above it.
      
      You know your many strengthsand your achievements. Remind yourself of them (every day), because no one can ever take them away from you. A technique I use regularly is to imagine someone who has hurt me dressed in a pink bunny suit - munching on a carrot.  It's hard to take them seriously if you do that and it will take some of the sting out of their remarks. Good luck

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      logic,commonsenseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I would have told her that perhaps she needed to reevaluate what she was doing because it obviously wasn't very successful so far.
      But that's just me!

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   Cagsilposted 14 years ago

   My reply to her would have been- that might be the case, but at least I don't have your ego problem.

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      pinkyleeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      lol That should have been my reply

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   Ohmaposted 14 years ago

   There are snobs everywhere. If this person feels she is to good to do the job she is being paid to do perhaps it is time for some supervisory intervention.

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      pinkyleeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That's my thought however there was no intervention other than listening to both sides of the story and me cutting my own hours because they wouldn't do anything even though I have been there for a little over 2 years even though I left for 3 months to live AZ

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   Cagsilposted 14 years ago

   Try not to let people's egos get you down. The path your life is on, is happening because you choose it to happen, just like her.
   
   You are two different people swimming in the same pond with the same goal, find happiness for yourself. Think about it, if you are happy with yourself and your life, as it is, then what she says does not matter, because as she so nicely said- she is planning on being someone....plans?
   
   Plans on being someone rarely work out, simply because other people refuse to work with the ego needed to obtain the status.
   
   So, take pity on her, she is her own biggest obstacle and yet not even she realizes it.

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      pinkyleeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Very true but it made me so mad I was seeing red. Like I told my boss with everything I got going on at home I don't need the stress of some little girl making me feel less than dirt ya know. But tomorrow is a new day and I won't be working with her after next week.

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         Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         But Pinkylee, you are missing the point. I realize you are stressed out at home, but realize that the words are just that, words. Only you can decide if they have any sort of effect/affect on you. Accept it and the words won't hurt.

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            pinkyleeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I got ya

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   mythbusterposted 14 years ago

   Sorry to hear about this nasty incident, pinkylee.
   
   I like Casgil's suggestion and wording.
   
   I hope you're able to remain calm at work - soon, the 19 year old is likely to "insult" another or speak inappropriately to someone else, if that's the way her thinking/behavior works...while you keep your cool and show yourself to be a reasonable employee.

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      pinkyleeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah I can only hope she sticks her foot in it and gets gone lol but I cherish my job and love what I do so I try hard to remain calm as best I can.

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   zzronposted 14 years ago

   I think my response might have been, I am sorry, you sound like a crazy person but good luck with that, I hope it all works out, smiled and went about my business.  I know you have heard the old saying that goes sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.  This is true, but only as long as you don't let them hurt you.  Try to get in the habit of not letting what other people say bother you because you know the truth and you know you better than anyone else. You know what they say about opinions, they're just like bellybuttons, everybody has one, and some of them stink. LOL

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      pinkyleeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Well hers stinks to no end lmao but this is so true and I did tell her it was past her time to clock and leave so if she would just go that would be great

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   zzronposted 14 years ago

   It sounds like you handled the situation just great, I am proud of you.  You go girlfriend. LOL

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      pinkyleeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      thanks lol

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   zzronposted 14 years ago

   Your welcome and happy birthday

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