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The Follow Button: Strong Enough for Men, but Remade by Women

Updated on February 23, 2012

© 2012 by Aurelio Locsin.

The Follow button is a HubPages feature that emails you when the people you follow publish new hubs. You can also leave them fan mail and view their favorite hubbers. Here is the official HubPages position on this control, taken from the FAQ, among other places. It is suitably paraphrased to avoid the Duplicate curse.

  • Follow only those people whose writings you can truly read and comment on.
  • Do not follow others just because they follow you.
  • Your HubScore can drop if you follow hubbers indiscriminately.

These guidelines are unshakably logical, judiciously ethical and mathematically precise. They were obviously written by a man. (And being one allows me to come to some conclusions, however sexist, about my gender.)

These guidelines are totally inappropriate to and commonly ignored by most hubbers.


First, accept that most of the HubPages community consists of women. (If you need the statistics to back this assertion, you can read my research in Who Reads HubPages? Audience Stats to Increase Your Traffic and Maximize Your Hubs.) We can all agree that women behave differently from men. However, I have neither the scientific expertise nor the social wisdom to say whether nature or nurture is behind this dichotomy.

One characteristic ordinarily ascribed to females is the importance of relationships. This reliance on social interaction can easily trump any artificially created prescriptions. Chief among the tenets for good relationships is reciprocation.

  • If someone grants you a kindness, you respond in like manner.
  • If someone follows you, you follow them back.

This cycle of give-and-take build trust and enhances the relationship.


Skeptics may trumpet the supposed flaw in this thinking. Indiscriminate use of the Follow button can quickly lead to hundreds or thousand of followers. How can any relationship-oriented hubber possibly keep up with the writings of all those admirers every day? You can easily discover how people keep up up with your hubs by the number of comments they leave with your articles.

But that tit-for-tar calculation is a man's convention..

  • That gender measures success only through results.
  • For women, the effort is just as valid as the actual accomplishment. Followers who sometimes visit and leave comments are just as valued for keeping up the relationship as those who do so all the time.

Mathematical Advantage

This female transformation of the Follow button also presents a mathematical advantage that should appeal to male minds.

  • Assume a group where each hubber has a thousand followers producing a hub each day. Assume that such a large number only allows for any 10 percent to follow any of your hub writing on any day. Ten percent of 1,000 still equals 100 views a day.
  • Compare this to another group of hubbers who only follow those writers in which they are truly interested and can respond to 100 percent of the time. This slavish attention reduces the number of possible followers to a practical maximum of 50 or perhaps less, which reduces the number of maximum views to 50 or less.
  • The 1,000 partial followers still produce the greater number of view than the 50 total followers.


Go ahead and follow people simply because they're following you. But do try to visit their hubs at least some of the time. This reciprocal system works well even if it runs somewhat contrary to hub guidelines.

You may accuse me of doctoring numbers to fit my conclusions. And I will freely admit that my suppositions are based on experience and feeling, more than scientific analysis. But I have over 230 hubs, 386 followers and nearly 30,000 views a month to support my words.

I also welcome differing opinions and statistics to make for a lively discussion. Put your judgments in the comment field below.

Please also take the poll. Those results should hint at how often hubbers actually follow their fans..

How often do you visit and comment on the hubs of people you follow?

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    • supermom_in_ny profile image


      6 years ago from NY

      Another great hub! I follow hubbers that publish content I am interested in. That way I can comment on any new content. :). Voted up!

    • Dancing Water profile image

      Dancing Water 

      6 years ago

      Fun and insightful hub! A psychological study of men and women, and very useful as well! Voting up!

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      Victoria Lynn 

      6 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Interesting hub. It is impossible to read everybody's hubs all the time, but I try to check in on hubbers I haven't read in a while from time to time. Great info here. Many votes!

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I hear you, barbergirl28. This business of following can be a vicious cycle that only gets more time-consuming as you become more popular.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      6 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      I love the title and agree with your conclusions too. I agree its impossible to read 100% hubs by one's followers as the list grows. So, I try to respond to those whose hub topics and hubs too I like and who respond to mine too. I would not be able to read all the hubs all the time but I try to reciprocate most of the time.

      Aurelio, this hub is a welcome change from your tech hubs but still the essence of analysis is there. Loved your analysis.

      As for me I follow someone who follows me is being courteous.

      Thanks for sharing. Voting it up and interesting.


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      6 years ago

      It is hard to read every followers new hubs but I do try to read one from each follower as much as possible. Thanks for the tips. I use to follow more but when my author score kept decreasing I stopped. I now follow who I think I will read consistently. After reading this I may reconsider. Take care, Kelley

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      Stacy Harris 

      6 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      I have to admit - I had a hard time particpating in the poll because none of the answers really fit. When I first started on here.. I followed the ones who followed me and I could get through their writing (we all know that not everything on here is 100% awesome or of any interest to everybody!)

      However, now things have changed. I have found that since I have several hubber friends on facebook - alot of times I click on the hubs that are posted their and grab my attention. It really has come down to time. While I used to go through (and I still do occasionally just not as frequently as I did when I first started) and read through all the new hubs of the people I follow. Now, because I use facebook as a major tool, I am finding people that I "follow" but don't actually "follow" because I read their stuff but never actually go to their profile page to make sure I am actually following them. Ok - so that was a mouthful.

      I will also state that lately I have made it a habit of "You scratch my back and I scratch yours" so people that stop by and comment and share my work - I try to return the favor. It keeps me active on reading other hubs while I try to respond to different comments. When I finish that, I usually alot time for reading other hubs and writing my own hubs.

      In the end though - I want followers who will read my stuff regardless of whether I read theirs. After all, while I do believe it is good to return the favor - and I do have those I comment on no fail because I just love what they offer, I want to be that person that people read because they love what I have to offer to them.

      Interesting hub! Loved the perspective and the thought process. Well done!

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Yes, indeed, Vinaya, women are the dominant gender on HubPages.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      6 years ago from Nepal

      When someone follows me, most of the time I follow back, because I want to reciprocate. But later on, I unfollow those whose content does not interest me or virtually absent.

      I had not noticed that most of the Hubpages members were women.

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      Rosemary Sadler 

      6 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      Haha you write it, I am no good at writing this sort of thing. Lol

      Good luck :)

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Thanks for your thoughts, Rosemay50, and posting your helpful experiences.

      But to clarify, I never said follows have nothing to do with your score. I said that the HubPages guidelines on Follows were inappropriate and ignored by most hubbers. The gist of the article is that the Follow button is used by most hubbers as a form of interaction, not as a way to raise scores.

      My experiences with the button closely mirror yours, because it's the most efficient way of dealing with hundreds of followers.

      That's an interesting experiment deleting followers -- I've heard the same results from other hubbers. Sounds like you might have a hub about this you can write about ;)

      Thanks for stopping by.

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      Rosemary Sadler 

      6 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      Very interesting read.

      I would tend to dissagree when you say that follows have nothing to do with your score and doesn't affect your score.

      When I first started on HP I was 'nice' and followed anyone that followed me. My score never went above 85. Not so lang ago I went through and 'unfollowed about 40, hubbers that had never commented on my hubs and neither had I commented on theirs. My score immediately jumped to the 90's. So IMHO the follow COMBINED with activity would seem affect your score.

      I have several friends who I read every hub that they publish, unless the are publishing 3 a day, then I only read 1/3, if they publish daily I probably read 5/7

      Then I try to pop in on around 5 to 10 a day of other people I follow, but not very often. Like today :) I find this works well for me, so I do get to visit most of my followers at least once a month, I may not always comment either because I have nothing to say or it has all been said by others, but I do read them. I also try to read one hubber I have never met before a day.

      My tactics may change drastically though if I ever reach 1000 followers :)

      I did enjoy reading your hub and found it intersting.

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      This changes from month to month, Happyboomernurse, but according to my latest 30 day stats about 44% come from Google. About 14% comes from and 11% comes from I'm not sure how to interpret those last two statistics, however. They may indicate followers, or just me editing my hubs. But the short answer to your question is that most comes from Google.

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      Gail Sobotkin 

      6 years ago from South Carolina

      I'm still focused on those 30,000 views per month that you're getting. Just curious, do most of your page views come from Google and other online searches or your HP followers?

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Thanks sunbun143.

    • sunbun143 profile image


      6 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Thanks for the tip Nell Rose! @alocsin - my account - following (option on top) - hubbers you follow (on the left). This way you can see the most recent hubs sorted by each hubber you're following.

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I'm embarrassed to say, Nell Rose, that I don't even know about "new hubs by followers." Is that an option somewhere? That's the first time I've heard of it.

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Everyone is in the same boat, sunbun143, especially when you start getting more followers.

    • truthfornow profile image


      6 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      It is hard to read all the hubs of those you follow ~ downright impossible. However, I do try to visit on occasion to see what my follows have been writing. I miss a lot on my feed. I always follow people who follow me because that seems like the right thing to do. Follows are good because it seems to attract people to your hubs. Those who have a lot of followers seem to have a lot of page views. I am only annoyed by those who go around following people but don't have any hubs. I want to at least know a little something about who I am following. . .

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      Brett Caulton 

      6 years ago from Asia

      Interesting angle Alocsin. I tend to follow most who follow me, but I do check to see if what they write about is at least mildly interesting to me. That said, I am open to learning new things, so I will check out subjects that I don't know much about too.

      Thanks for SHARING your thoughts.

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      Nell Rose 

      6 years ago from England

      Hi, I tend to always read the hubs of people who comment on my hub, and then I check to see any new followers, go over and take a look, then follow them back and read their hub, then once or twice a week I try and go through as many as I can that follow me, I think a lot of people tend to forget the 'new hubs by followers' in our account page, thats a great way to see what to read as it tells us who has just written a new hub that we haven't spotted in the feed, up and shared!

    • sunbun143 profile image


      6 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      I too am finding it difficult to keep up with the reading...sometimes I just read one hub, comment (and automatically follow this hub for a bit) and then come back to follow the writer if he or she has more eye-catching hubs I'm interested in. It takes me awhile because I hop around hubpages on my smartphone only. I can only get on my laptop every now and then and I'm usually writing when I do. That said, I'm following you now!

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      6 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I second fpherj48. Why repeat a comment when what she said is what I was going to say:) Great minds think alike!Up/Awesome/Superb!

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      Jeannie InABottle 

      6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

      This is an interesting look at following other hubbers. I really do try to only follow those that write good hubs, but sometimes, I will admit that I do follow someone who is a loyal follower to me. Interesting hub and voted up!

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I try to set up a regular time in the morning to get all my hub stuff done as well, fpherj48. But as you get more and more followers, that time just seems to grow and is never enough.

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Well, I certainly read your comment, tsmog, if no else did. I appreciate the compliments.

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      My point exactly, dragnhaze.

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Thanks for your honest appraisal, Peggy W.

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      Theresa Ast 

      6 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Funny and entertaining - and I think your analysis is quite correct. Voted UP useful awesome interesting. :)

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      WD Curry 111 

      6 years ago from Space Coast

      This is a great hub. It has a little bit of everything. I thought the products that you put up were really apropos. I had to check funny, too. You have a very analytic mind.

    • fpherj48 profile image


      6 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      alocsin...I agree with your entire hub, which makes you a "FIRST" (male) in my life. lol....I have my own personal formula for following and/or not following. It came to be, after about 6 months of my residency here at HubPages. It's not etched in stone and every now and then I will make exceptions for reasons I see fit.

      What I have tried to do, right along, is set aside a certain amount of time/days to devote to reading and commenting exclusively. That helps me to give those I follow, the attention I like to give them.

      The thing is, when I read a hub, I also read ALL comments that have been posted to that point. (this is not only interesting to me, it provides me with more insight on other hubbers whom I may not have met yet and even those I do know.) I care what others have to say.

      I was rather surprised to be told by numerous hubbers that they NEVER read comments, but just leave a comment and exit. Also, I always vote.. always. Again, it surprises me when I am perhaps comment number 15 and absolutely NO ONE prior to me took the time to vote at all.

      Based on this.....sure looks to me like too many hubbers are in too much of a big hurry....too often.....sad.

      Rushing like that would definitely take the joy out of my Hub Life.

      I came here to write, read, learn, RELAX and enjoy myself. So, that's precisely what I do.

      Thanks for the great hub. UP+++

      Oh, yes, one more thing......3-word comments? To that I say, "Why bother?" Anyone who has ever been a tipped employee can attest to the fact that NO TIP is better than a 3-cent tip. At least they can assume the customer "forgot."

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      Tim Mitchell 

      6 years ago from Escondido, CA

      Thank you so much Alocsin again for answering a question and a quest considered. I am in the middle or my marketing/social media planning. The crux of the matter is simply time. I have one hour to use wisely at hubpages each day. I spent approximately 25 minutes reading this hub and the many comments so I can gain a complete overview. It is worth it to me.

      However, that is about 2 or more less hubs I can read and just vote on. Tick-Tock goes the clock. I comment much more on Thu & Sun when off. And those are the days I write hubs. I now caution nicely those I now follow that I vote more than I comment. Anyone I chose to follow I will leave fan mail, read at least one hub, comment, vote, then move on.

      My work week is lengthy since the turn in the economy. And there is the laundry & stuff too. Hubpages is a five year plan to supplement Soc Sec. Hubpages is my retirement plan. My investment today is different than yesterday as can be seen by the follower count. But, the investment is still - Time.

      Although many may not read this lengthy reply, if any, I know you do. That is the social interaction I appreciate. My desire is to raise your & other hubbers I read a return on investment through voting and sidebar comments - interesting, awesome, etc.

      Hubpages is a community of writers in my view. Each with a goal. The statistics point out the commonality of it all, which you eloquently have been presenting to us - Thank You. When I was a chatter I would have done this (alocsin), which meant hugs or handshake to you - dude, and dude is a compliment - The Big Lebowski, a great social commentary film.

    • dragnhaze profile image


      6 years ago

      I'd have to say your poll results speak quite well for this article. Being a subscriber doesn't mean you have to read every single last thing written by the author, but if it catches your eye, why not at least read it and give the author the view.

    • molometer profile image


      6 years ago from United Kingdom

      Hi this was a very interesting topic to cover. i am sure we all think about it from time to time especially when time is an issue.

      The poll actually back ups what you state. Men are generally less engaged in the social aspects it seems.

      I did follow quite a few hubbers when I started. Now I tend to do as others here have said. I follow hubbers that make me think and write about a wide variety of topics. Sometimes I find that I have been reading hubbers for months and then realise that I am not following them (formally) so then I add them.

      I like to follow women as I think I have learned so much from their perspectives. The men and women I follow all share one common characteristic. They are all interesting writers. Just like you.

      Thanks for a great hub. Certainly blew the cobwebs from my brain.

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      Peggy Woods 

      6 years ago from Houston, Texas

      I agree with sgbrown when she said..."Anyone who comments on one of my hubs will always get a read and a comment back on one of their hubs. Anyone who shares one of my hubs will always get a share back." Unfortunatley there is not time enough in a day to be reading everyone's hubs, so those are a priority with me. Occasionally if all of those are first attended, and I have extra time, I may read some new hubbers or scan what is on the front page and if something grabs my attention, I will read it. If I like a hub, I always leave a comment.

      As to following everyone back who follows me...if, when I look at what they are doing and that is all they are doing...following one after another followed by another...the answer is no.

    • urmilashukla23 profile image


      6 years ago from Rancho Cucamonga,CA, USA

      Interesting Hub! Bookmarked and shared. Voted up!

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      Radhika Sreekanth 

      6 years ago from Mumbai,India

      Informative and interesting hub. 'Follow' can increase traffic to your hubs and I follow all those who follow me.

      Thanks for sharing. The title is very appropriate for this hub. Up, interesting and useful.

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      Kimberly Lake 

      6 years ago from California

      Great hub. I try to comment on and read as many hubs thati can. If I see a hubber that I have been following publishes a new hub I try to read and comment or at least vote on their piece. I try to put aside anhour a day at least to visit hubs.

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I'm glad people here still remember that slogan, EuroCafeAuLait.

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      Anastasia Kingsley 

      6 years ago from Croatia, Europe

      Funny that the pun you made of the title is for the antiperspirant, Secret: "Strong enough for a Man, but made for a Woman." That is the secret, isn't it: following, reading, learning, improving. Voted UP

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I think that is the honest and ideal way, sgbrown.

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      As you've all stated in many ways, the ideal situation is to read every single article produced by your followers. Unfortunately, that becomes harder to do as you become more famous.

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I think then your strategy is wise, since you have your real name out there.

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      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I think following hubbers with contrary views makes for interesting commentary, UnnamedHarald.

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      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      It depends on your computer, winbo, but here are the options:

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      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I agree, tammyswallow, with somen being more supportive.

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      Mark G Weller 

      6 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Another very informative and well thought out Hub alocsin! I do enjoy your writing.

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      Arlene V. Poma 

      6 years ago

      When I first started HubPages, I was following everybody. Now, I follow writers who constantly give me the information and excellent writing that I am looking for. Each of these writers specialize in something, and I don't have to look far. Yes, I am selective. I am retired, and I have many interests pulling me in different directions. I don't feel obligated to follow anyone, but once you've got my attention in your own special way of writing, I'm following you. Simple as that. I don't follow a writer based on their homies' hype, a Hubscore, number of followers, time in or the number of Hub of the Day awards. With me, it's all in the writing. Voted up and everything else.

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      Stephanie Henkel 

      6 years ago from USA

      As a woman, I can agree with your insights on a woman's take on followers/following. I do try to return "niceness" when possible, though I don't always follow someone who follows me. However, I do always look at the profile page and at least one hub of a new follower. While I'm sometimes overwhelmed by all the reading, I do try to read hubs of the people I follow as well as those of some of the new hubbers in the community, and comment when I can. Voted up and interesting as always!

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      Karen Hoy 

      6 years ago from Wiltshire, England

      I'm glad this has come up. It's prompted me to ask a Q in the forum. I read people's Hubs, and I follow, but I look like the most antisocial person here, because I don't really comment. I want to, but this is my real name, and once I start I would flood the google search on my name with stuff that will drown out what I need people googling me to see. I want to be all girly and communicative!

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      Sheila Brown 

      6 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      I only follow those whos hubs interest me. Sometimes I feel a little guilty not following someone who has followed me, but I just don't feel honest about it. Anyone who comments on one of my hubs will always get a read and a comment back on one of their hubs. Anyone who shares one of my hubs will always get a share back. I feel that is only right. Up and interesting! :)

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      6 years ago

      This was a great hub. I follow those who write what I can read and digest. It is difficult to keep up with the writings of a lot of followers but I try to read hubs of my followers as well as the ones I follow. I end up reading more than writing most of the time. Thank you for sharing this information.

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      Rebecca Mealey 

      6 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      Great Hub Alocsin. I TRY to comment all who follow. As soon as I get a new follower I immediately go to their profile,read one Hub and comment. But because of time, I may not get back! I should try harder to revisit followers.

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      David Hunt 

      6 years ago from Cedar Rapids, Iowa

      As a general rule I check out Hubbers that follow me and most of the time I follow them back because their interests usually at least coincide with mine. That said, I sometimes follow people who disagree with me or hold views I don't support but they are civil about it. You've got to be open to differing views as well as those who are supportive. I also, of course, search out Hubbers when I read a good Hub. Great hub and great comments.

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      Cynthia Calhoun 

      6 years ago from Western NC

      Haha, alocsin. Another great hub. I'm with you - I have tried to follow people that I can keep up with, though. In any case, great ideas here.

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      Shasta Matova 

      6 years ago from USA

      I agree with you that that the guidelines are male centric. When they said they wanted to do away with the please vote graphic, I knew it. Hopefully they won't make it too masculine and take away all graphics. There are people who will follow many people just so they will be followed back. I don't follow them back. If someone has taken the time to comment on one of my hubs, then I know they have some basis of following me, then I may follow them, or at least look at their hubs from time to time.

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      Keri Summers 

      6 years ago from West of England

      Hmm. I have to think about this. I don't mind at all if people don't follow me if I don't write what they're interested in. I'm v interested in history and science, as a reader, but unlikely to write much about it. I do think before following someone, I do follow the people I follow. I won't follow someone back if they clearly haven't read anything (I can tell because I don't have many Hubs up yet). And I'll also check on their Hubtivity to see if they have just included me in a random spate of following.

      Having said this, I will occasionally follow someone without reading, if I want to be reminded of them later, but have to get on with something else for the moment. But I will go back and comment later when I have some time to read and something meaningful to say.

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      6 years ago

      nice one.. How do i use copywrite symbol on my hubs like u did on your hub

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      6 years ago from North Carolina

      Wow.. you know your stuff and you know a lot about women. I personally find women followers to be more supportive in reading and sharing. This is a great lesson for everyone.

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      Audrey Howitt 

      6 years ago from California

      Interesting read as always!!

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      L.L. Woodard 

      6 years ago from Oklahoma City

      My method is much like the one Teresa Coppens explained. I am more discerning now than I was when I first came to HP, but do tend to follow those who follow me.

      Still, it is interesting to read your take on the subject and food for thought for the future.

      Thanks for SHARING.

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      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      That's wise, Teresa.

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      Teresa Coppens 

      6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Very interesting article. I learn something new every time I read one of your articles. I have to agree wholeheartedly with your assessment. But I am trying mor and more to check out a new followers hus before I follow them. I still follow a lot of my followers but I am trying to be more selective. Those with closer interests to mine tend to come back much more often to read and leave comments. Great hub!

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      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Thanks teaches12345, you're definitely confirming my findings about men and women on the Internet.

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      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I think we all have to find a middle ground with the Follow button, Melovy.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      6 years ago

      I've asked students in my internet marketing courses if they are part of an online community. Many do not know what it is (even though they are on facebook, twitter,etc.). Anyways, the male students always comment that they don't have the time to invest in community. They prefer gaming (even though this is also a community) and online entertainment sites. Women love community and will befriend all and love all. You are right on with this article! Voted up, up!

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      Ann Carr 

      6 years ago from SW England

      Interesting and amusing. I try to follow as many of my followers as possible (but that's not loads at the moment (34)). I divide my available hub-time per day between as many activities as possible - answering questions, reading comments of hubs I follow, reading new hubs of people I follow and hub-hopping. The best bit is that it's all fun! Voted up & funny.

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      Yvonne Spence 

      6 years ago from UK

      This was really interesting alocsin. I was totally bemused by following when I started on HP because I’d had no experience of it before. At first I followed people who seemed to be writing on subjects that interested me, then I went to following anyone who followed me, and eventually I’ve come to some sort of middle ground. If someone follows me but yet has never left comment I don’t follow back (unless I already know them), but otherwise I tend to follow those who follow me. I tend to think people who are likely to read frequently leave comments and people who follow to try and get followers don’t, but I could be completely wrong.

      really like the open and honest way you’ve written this.

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I meant the title to be funny. I'm glad that a lot people still remember the commercial it's taken from.

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      Michele Travis 

      6 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      Your hubs are always good. They help me learn how to increase my hub score, even though I am not trying to make money. I still want more people to read my hubs!

      Thank you again for this hub.

    • vespawoolf profile image


      6 years ago from Peru, South America

      Thanks for the encouragement. Patience is not one of my virtues. : ( By the way, the title of this hub makes me laugh every time I see it!

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I think, vespawoolf, your hubscore has more to do with your being new than anything else. If took me several months to get to 90, so the fact your at that number only after a few weeks is great.

    • alocsin profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Susanm23b, that's a good point that the hub should've been discussed by the hub. You certainly don't want to follow anyone whose hubs hold no interest for you. But I think that the writings of most hubbers are varied enough that I usually find something worth reading there.

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      6 years ago

      To "follow or not to follow" -- to "friend or not to friend" , etc.? These questions belong to our time--fifty years ago they would have been meaningless.

      Your hub made me smile the entire time I was reading it. As a female, I was taught to be "nice"--which could be the same as if you follow me, I'll follow you. However, I try to break out of that to make my "following" genuine interest in other hubbers' topics. "Nice" is one thing but "fake" is another. In other words, I would never follow someone whose hubs I had ZERO interest in and would never comment on.

      If I choose to "follow", I try to read as many hubs as I can.

      I really enjoyed this and think you conclusions are right on target. Voted up.

    • vespawoolf profile image


      6 years ago from Peru, South America

      As always, your hubs are interesting. I'm still trying to figure out the whole "following" bit myself! I have a feeling it may have something to do with my hub score that never hits 90.


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