To Say Sorry and Thank You!

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  1. Cardisa profile image89
    Cardisaposted 8 years ago

    The apology: I feel I need to say I'm sorry because that's how I'm feeling. I hate tension, and I may have played a part in contributing to a forum discussion which caused tension on HP. In the three years I have been here I have never been accused of being disrespectful and I have now resorted to calling people trolls and being harsh. I learned several years ago in self-defense class never to allow others to lead you away from your comfort zone, I did that recently and I'm SORRY. I sit at my computer and heart is heavy for my behavior.

    Thanks In the three years I have been here I have gotten a lot of assistance from people and in that time I have encountered bullying and abuse. Most of the people who have abused me have been banned. Thank God, but there is one veteran Hubber who has been hard on me on occasions and sometimes make me feel like an idiot, but in those same moments, she has always offered her help. Without her I think I would have gone in the wrong direction many times. So I want to thank that hubber who has been here when HP was in Beta and is still offering her experience to people like me who are often stumped as what to do. Thank you Veteran hubber, I promise to try and understand you and be more grateful from now on.

    These are the hubbers who have always been of assistance to me in the forums:

    Marisa Wright
    Writer Fox

    No matter how tough my situation, I always get an answer. Thanks!

    1. Solaras profile image95
      Solarasposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      This is a very nice post, and you are very sweet.  The forums have been tense lately, and I am afraid they have begun to make people paranoid. We should all take a chill, and imagine the best possible meaning of a post rather that the worst.  At least to begin with.

      I believe Cardisa has the best intentions at heart.

      1. Cardisa profile image89
        Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        I hate cussing and tension, I don;t see why I should indulge in a virtual backlashing, backstabbing and quarreling.

        Thanks, I had to get it off my chest.

        1. Marisa Wright profile image90
          Marisa Wrightposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          That's the thing that really got me about that thread - that perfectly innocent women started wondering, "Are they referring to me?"

          Cardisa, I've never heard you say a cross word to anyone here, so I know the posts you're referring to were out of character.   Don't worry about it, it's forgotten!

          1. Cardisa profile image89
            Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Marisa, I did start to wonder if the thread was about and then I went on another thread and accused a newbie of being a troll. I apologized and he was quite pleasant but it seemed that that particular thread got to me more than I realized!

    2. Kiss andTales profile image60
      Kiss andTalesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      There are many people that are good and talented here on HP ,besides being good hub writers . And it was always a wonderful privalage to meet those people here. I myself do not posses the writing talents or skills  that many have here. But my joy is sharing bible truths , I am not getting paid for writing, but my blessings have always come from another source . Thank you Cardisa for sharing your wonderful hubs I am happy to say I met some one here who loves good cooking and has shared valuble recipes in Jerk food. I never knew a family that was so perfect they never disagreed ,or said something they should have not, we have been here like a family for years ,sure we are going to say things and get on some one's nerves ,that is normal even in families. Some times people say the funniest things that make your day, then some body is sad and some one comes along and know what to say! We all work hand in hand, and even those who are bullies, guess what they have a purpose too! They keep you on your toes ,they help you to see who you really are and what are you really made of ,glass, stone, or puddly.  If God almighty can tolerate abuse for centuries who am I that can not stand a day .So I remember he is ever so much greater in love .

      1. Cardisa profile image89
        Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Thank you Kiss and Tales. You are so right, we have been a family here and family get on each other's I hope the tension blow over soon.

    3. TIMETRAVELER2 profile image90
      TIMETRAVELER2posted 8 years agoin reply to this


      Things here are tense because not only have there been many major changes recently, but also because Google updates really hit a lot of people hard.

      People do not like change, and when that change affects how they have always known things to be, they do become snarky.

      This site clearly is having problems, and some people tend to take their tensions out on others...but I feel there are plenty of great people here to offset what they do.

      Don't worry.  Be happy.  Enjoy the good and ignore the bad and just keep doing your best.  Life does not begin and/or end with Hub Pages!

      1. Cardisa profile image89
        Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks Timetraveler2 smile

  2. Barack James profile image93
    Barack Jamesposted 8 years ago

    Sure! Those names are so familiar to everyone on HP; they never get weary of assisting!

  3. tirelesstraveler profile image61
    tirelesstravelerposted 8 years ago

    The last six months I have rarely been able to spend time on HP.  Still I know the ambiance of HP has changed.  I don't  have an opinion whether the change has been for the better or not.  It's just different.  I do remember when you had a rant, but you were not disrespectful. 
    You continue to be gracious or you would not have posted this apology.

    1. Cardisa profile image89
      Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Tirelesstraveler, I have realized you were MIA for a while.Yes the atmosphere has changed and I c n't stand it. I feel quite jittery coming here.

      1. Marisa Wright profile image90
        Marisa Wrightposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        It's odd, the atmosphere has changed every since the Squidoo members joined - and yet the great majority of Squids seem to be really nice people and community-minded, and they're not the ones causing all the bad feeling, so it's not their fault.

        1. Cardisa profile image89
          Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          I never thought for one minute that the Squids had anything to do with the atmosphere, I just think that a lot of people started rubbing each other the wrong way and things got out of hand. I was kind of upset that hubbers were coming down hard on the Squiddoo writers who migrated.

          1. Marisa Wright profile image90
            Marisa Wrightposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Yes, maybe that's what started it, things did get a bit hairy at that time!  Plus we've had Panda since then and a lot of people are upset about their loss of traffic.

            1. Cardisa profile image89
              Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              I know my traffic has upset me a lot. I am thinking of moving back my hosted WP food blog back to Blogger. I lost all my income when I moved in January. The Blogger blog is still there (just not public). I'm thinking of opening it back up and see how it does.

        2. tirelesstraveler profile image61
          tirelesstravelerposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          I have been doing so much traveling for research that I didn't know there had been a merger until a couple of weeks ago.  I don't even know when it happened.

          1. Cardisa profile image89
            Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Squidoo closed its doors so HP acquired it content. It wasn't a merger per se, only the articles along with the authors, nothing else really. The site is closed I think.

        3. Millionaire Tips profile image91
          Millionaire Tipsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          My take on this is that there was a different culture at Squidoo.  There, the forums were moderated and people who said anything negative were not allowed.  That's my understanding anyway, as someone mentioned starting another forum to get away from the "positivity" rule.  It was a culture clash that was exacerbated by the speed of the transfer.

          The Hubbers were used to speaking their minds, were rightfully surprised by the change and were worried about moving content over from a site that had a Google penalty.  Unfortunately, the writers from Squidoo had already joined the forums, and felt that they were not welcome here and rightfully felt that their writing was being labeled as inferior.

          I think that most of this culture clash is settling down and people are feeling more comfortable being a part of a big family, and we are now simply trying to figure out what the new culture should be.  How much positivity should be required here in the forums?

  4. Kiss andTales profile image60
    Kiss andTalesposted 8 years ago

    Yes it will ! It has before! lol!

  5. Beaddoodler profile image67
    Beaddoodlerposted 8 years ago

    You are a very big person to post this.  I'm new to Hubpages and hope to be here for a very long time and have the privilege to read many more of your hubs and forum posts.

  6. Shades-of-truth profile image83
    Shades-of-truthposted 8 years ago

    Cardisa, it took a lot of character to state what you did. You have my admiration!

  7. colorfulone profile image80
    colorfuloneposted 8 years ago

    Cardisa, your divinity is showing by starting this thread and expressing yourself, and loving yourself and others. <3

  8. Cardisa profile image89
    Cardisaposted 8 years ago


    I thank you for the admiration but I feel I don't deserve it. I feel that, as a hubber here three years, I should have known better than to join in a forum that was denigrating to other hubbers. I fact that these hubbers that were criticized was not for anything other than their attitude. At no point were these hubbers out-rightly abusive. It was more of what the persons on the receiving end perceived as condescending, know-it-all or sarcastic behavior.

  9. Mekenzie profile image80
    Mekenzieposted 8 years ago

    Cardissa,  your humble comment causes me to respect you even more.  We all slip at times but there are few who will actually admit it.  Kudo's to you lovely Cardissa!

    1. Cardisa profile image89
      Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you McKenzie, I am humbled by your comment. smile

  10. ecogranny profile image82
    ecogrannyposted 8 years ago

    Cardissa, I was reading that thread the other day, since it keeps popping up in the feed, when I saw your comment. That's when I decided I didn't need to read any more, thinking it was another thread for people who have a need to vent, which I didn't--at the moment, anyway! : )

    As one who sometimes opens mouth and inserts foot, I can imagine how much you must have agonized over that comment and your feelings of anger and, perhaps, betrayal, given the other thread you refer to here.

    In apologizing in this way, you show us the graceful, peaceful path to resolving conflict and to expressing care and support for our online community. Your love for the community shines brightly.

    Thank you.

    1. Cardisa profile image89
      Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Ecogranny, that's exactly right. I have agonized over that since I participated there and am truly feeling awful!

  11. Kathleen Cochran profile image78
    Kathleen Cochranposted 8 years ago

    This kind of post is what makes HP a special community.  Have I ever posted a comment I almost immediately regretted?  Ah, more than once.  When I'm upset I try to sleep on it before I start typing a reply, but that doesn't always happen.  I also tend to write as though I am the last word on a subject and nothing could be further from the truth.  I don't know you well, but I'm impressed by your humility and sincerity.  HP is a better place for it.

    1. Cardisa profile image89
      Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Kathleen smile

  12. DzyMsLizzy profile image90
    DzyMsLizzyposted 8 years ago

    Cardissa, you are a class act. 

    I did not actually see the original thread which prompted the post for which you feel the need to apologize.  So if I misinterpreted anything there, I, too apologize.

    Upward and onward!  The past is the past, and there it shall lie.

    1. Cardisa profile image89
      Cardisaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Ms Lizzy smile


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