Why do people find it so hard to say wonderful things like "Sorry", "I Love You" or "Thank You"?
I tend to say "Jeg Elsker Dig" to my Danish lover a lot, but I feel unappreciated when I don't even get one back. Also, I tend to overly apologize. I guess the more times you use it, the less it means. Same with the word "hero" and "patriot".
It depends, in what circumstances you are saying and to whom you are saying. While I also believe in the ' Forget and Forgive' rule, many a times, the person who is quick to say sorry or thank you, is easily exploited. People have a tendency to take him/ her for granted. You can have a control on your behavior not others. If the person in question reciprocates in the same spirit, there should not be a problem in saying the above mentioned golden words. Many a times people's ego comes in between like a rock.
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I think many see the use of such terms as signs of weakness. To apologise or to say I love you, for many is subjugating yourself to the whim of others. Actually they are real terms of strength, if one really means the apology or one does really love someone.
As others have said the terms can be overly used on occassions and so lose their meaning. for instance I know of a couple of people who say "I love you" at the end of all telephone calls, to their family, the butcher, the baker and the candlestick maker, all calls end with "I love you" Do they love them all, or is it just habit?
Even if out of habit,I guess the butcher or baker will feel lovely about it! Not many will give them those words...
But yes! The words have to be backed by genuine feelings
I totally agree, it comes across as a "sign of weakness". But at the same time who says? Where did we come up with the idea that sharing our feelings, or taking responsiblitiy for our actions make us weak?
Thankfully, not all people do. I think it has to do with vulnerability. These expressions open a pathway to our hearts and sadly, for many people, it seems safer to them to keep that path closed.
Thank you for asking this question.
Unfortunately there's a lot of pride out there, and saying things like that makes people feel vulnerable and not as in-control as they would like to be.
maybe because they are afraid to express how they really feel about somethin or some one
I think most people are afraid of rejection when they say these personal things to another person. Thats why these same words said with sarcasm become a negative thing.
I don't know the answer to this question. I try to always say what I feel. I am one of those that is very easy to read. I tell people thank you and I love you every day! And if I messed up, of course I apologize and try not to do that again. Perhaps it is easier to do these things for me because I've always done them.
Never having to say you are sorry.....
well for me its kind of different! completly on other end I actually don't like people telling me those wonderful words! ' I love You" if they really do its shows in their care n everything they do for you! and same is with "Sorry" its not saying these words that's important but the meaning behind them!!
without the meaning the words are just as shallow! And why is it difficult for others its just EGO!
It's all about pride, too much of it. Or they are scared, either way, it's egocentric.
People tend to not say these things due to the fear of the person they are saying it to does not feel the same. whether it is fear, pride, or any other emotion everyone should take the chance and say it for if we don't we will never know what this world is really made of.
Some people find it hard to admit their wrong by saying sorry. And To say I love you is steep some are too afraid of rejection or unmutual feelings. But life's short so take a risk. Thank you is a clue on a person's personality either their just rude and don't like to say it or just forget just by accident.
some people are too shy to say that others are too proud to say that..
because telling somebody you love them or sorry is a hard thing for some people maybe people dont no what true love is like true love is the desire i have for football an chelsea fc
because most people don't really believe, when people say they love them. and it happens because of what they have seen or that has happened to them ..
I use these words far too often and i'm often accused of over using them so that that have lost their meaning
Saying most of these things is a form of common courtesy, which has become a thing of the past for these newer generations. Keep on hubbing
I don't know, but where I work sorry to an Inmate is unheard of. When wrong I always say sorry, and excuse myself etc. The Inmates are in awww. If we are to teach other to be polite how can we not use these skills to teach.
The first thing that causes this is your background. If you have a background or family where people don't appreciate themselves, you definitely wouldn't have the right/kind words to appreciate, commend or acknowledge someone for his/her actions.
Secondly, people also find it difficult to say such words because of pride and the feel of superiority over others.
by StrictlyQuotes 9 years ago
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