Does it hurt your feelings if someone unfollows you?
Mary615 recently wrote a hub asking the question "What Makes You Decide To Unfollow A Fellow Hubber?" It sparked a lot of comments, but it got me thinking. Why do I want followers? Presumably it's because they will be interested in reading my hubs and/or Q&A or whatever. I've also noticed lately that my follow number is stuck at 229. It's hit 230 a couple of times, but keeps going back down. So should I be upset that some people have stopped following me? I don't think so, if they are not interested, or worse yet are bugged by my posts, why would I want them to follow me?
No, it doesn't hurt my feelings. If people like what I write and it holds their interest, they'll stick with me. If not, they shouldn't. I don't think it's personal, just a matter of personal taste.
No but it might make me wonder why. I have unfollowed a couple of hubbers who had very strong religious views that bordered on cultism.
No, it doesn't hurt my feelings if someone unfollows me but it makes me question myself as to the quality of my writing, subject matter -- and did my big mouth accidently hurt someone else's feelings. I often, in an attempt at humor, have come off as smart-mouth and that was never my intention (unless I've picked up a troll and can't get rid of him). As I write on a variety of subjects my writing isn't going to appeal to everyone all the time and I suspect if I fail to hit on certain subject matter from time-to-time that is dear to someone else's heart -- well, they'll quit following me in favor of someone who shares more of their personal interests. When someone does quit following me I take it as a failure on my part to satisfy them whether it be my writing, attitude, etc. -- BUT fact is, no one can be all things to everyone so one just has to accept that and go on.
People with strong opinions are bound to offend someone.I wouldn't worry about it Angela, just keep on being yourself, I'm sure plenty of people will keep following you. Wouldn't it be boring here if everyone tippy toed around trying not to offend an
Thanks, Sherry -- yes, tippy toeing around would be a real hassle and certainly no fun!
I sometimes wonder why, or who it was that unfollowed me, but I don't get booty hurt about it. Unless, of course, it's someone who I really admired.
When someone stops following you, there's no way of telling if that person simply changed their mind, or if they were a random spammer who got banned.
If they changed their mind, that's their right to do so, and for you to feel mad at them or slighted seems pretty ridiculous and/or self-centered. It's like music: people just like what they like for why they like, and some people are going to change their mind no matter what you do.
And if the follower who dropped off the list was a spammer, well you don't want those sorts of followers anyway... right?
So to put energy into worrying about it doesn't make sense to me.
I would not be upset if I am un-followed. People and their interests change all the time. If my topics and hubs simply don't interest others, then being un-followed is the only way for them to show me. Also, it's possible they want to narrow down the number of people they follow to actually (gasp!) have more meaningful interaction with their preferred hubbers and maintain more control over their time.
At times I can be a fairly opinionated guy. I may have less than 30 followers in my 2 weeks here so far, and yes I've seen 1 or 2 of those drop out. However, I remain firmly of the belief that if they aren't enjoying my hubs/posts/whatever enough to continue following... then I don't want them following me!
I only choose to follow a person who I have a real good reason to, I would expect others to do the same.
(Oh, but to answer your question: Yes, it upsets me a little)
I am convinced that some people who disagree with you un-followe. I also know some of those who have un-followed me have become good friends. We still don't agree, but if you agree with everyone you meet life would be boring.
I try to read a few of hubs before I follow someone. That way I have a feel for the kind of things they write. Sometimes what they write is of no interest, no matter how good their writing so if I have hit follow before reading I unfollow.
I spend some days looking for new people to follow. When reading interesting comments I follow. Some people respond, some respond eventually and some never respond. My followers stay static otherwise.
I think I unfollowed you by accident, I do disagree with you sometimes, but I like your hubs, well some of them. I follow lots of people I don't always agree with. If someone's always pushing an agenda I don't like I probably would unfollow.
It used to bother me allot then my earnings went up and the importance of followers was superseded by readers.
I am frustrated severely and even saddened when a closer hubber's life takes them to different places away from HubPages - I miss them terribly but life has chapters and my Mother used to say ships pass in the night.
Relating relationships to ships and chapters helps me keep it all in perspective - it is not personal, it is simply a part of life.
The main item is we take the best of that person, that fellow hubber with us throughout our lives.
I've been disappointed to see a follower drop me - but I am not "hurt". I enjoy knowing people like my writing, and when someone "unfollows" me I suppose recent hubs may have rubbed them the wrong way. Not sure the reason. However, most of my readership comes from google, not hubpages, so a dropped follower has not significantly hurt my numbers.
I follow people whom I don't necessarily agree with all that they write, but have found them to be excellent writers, thorough in their discussion. I enjoy learning different world views and understanding people from various walks of life. I'd like to think that more people were like that -- but the way hubbers vote answers down on Q&A, regardless of the quality of answer, is a reflection that many hubbers are led purely by emotion, not reason.
I've often wondered if the Hubber you unfollow knows you have unfollowed her/him? And how would I know if a particular Hubber unfollowed me?
I wouldn't take it personally if someone unfollowed me, though.
The only way I know is to look at your list of followers and see who's missing. As the list grows, I'm afraid I don't remember some who don't post regularly. You have to click through all the pages, it's kind of a pain. Usually I don't try.
It doen't hurt my feelings, because the quality of the contents will attract others to follow us or read the pages
No but I do wonder what I have done or not done for them to stop following me then I carry on with answering questions, hub hopping etc !
by Cynthia 10 years ago
Does it hurt your feelings when someone unfollows you?I must admit I feel disappointment. I feel I have let my followers down when I notice my following number has decreased. Why do you unfollow?
by Shawn May Scott 10 years ago
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by Precious Williams 8 years ago
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by Escobana 9 years ago
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by Ben Guinter 11 years ago
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