Do you BUY someone a gift just because they BOUGHT you one?

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

   Do you feel obligated to reciprocate gifting at Christmas?
   
   Or do you pre-buy general gifts and have them ready
   should this situation come up?
   
   I feel obligated.

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      Karina S.posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I agree ,I feel obligated plus I always buy general gifts-just in case.

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      Stimpposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Well, what did you get me cuz I got you sumpthin real perty!  Actually, I do feel obligated AND I do buy stuff on sale or whatever after the holidays as general gifts to have on hand.

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      Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      no

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      OregonWinoposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, I would say that you do need to give them something, even if it is small.  I do not think it is the idea of getting something, but rather that they are being thought of etc.  I am a big fan of getting cool/neat things when they are on sale and keeping them for house warming gifts etc.

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         Stimpposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I need a house warming gift.  What do I get?

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            lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            ask for furniture or crystal - Lalique of course

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   cosetteposted 14 years ago

   yes.
   
   i also buy 'general' gifts for unexpected guests. not out of any sense of obligation necessarily - it's just being nice.

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      lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I love you Cosette and will be dropping by ps- I love chocolate

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      Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      well, your genuinely genorous. i bet you dont expect anything back either? i soooooo wish more people were like you

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         Stimpposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Ya, I'm not like that.  I want something in return

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            Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

            i thought you were going to bed? 

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               Stimpposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               I'm having a beer in hopes that I will sleep and have a dream to report to Lyrics forum tomorrow.

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                  Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  dude, ive had 6 still awake.....going to get 7 now....

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                     Stimpposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     

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                        Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                        STOP FOLLOWING ME!!!!!  kidding, im getting confused

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                           Stimpposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                           Yes, I'm a hub stalker.  I'm getting confused too.  Did you see what I said about your cat. What is it's name.  I bet its something knucklehead-ish

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   starme77posted 14 years ago

   Nope

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   bojanglesk8posted 14 years ago

   I never buy people shit, and they never buy me shit. That's the way it is.

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   Stimpposted 14 years ago

   But what is super awkward is when YOU buy someone a gift and they don't reciprocate.  There's like an odd silence as you are handing the bag/box over....almost like you want to yank it back.

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   torimariposted 14 years ago

   Yes. :s It would be awkward and I'd feel inconsiderate not to return the gesture.

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   Ivorwenposted 14 years ago

   It really depends on who it is and why they got me something.  I do keep general gifts on hand, some of them are even ready to give, with the addition of a card. 
   
   Sometimes, I am the one giving something out of the blue, just because.  I don't like when people feel obligated to give something back.  That ruins the fun of the surprise.

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   shazwellynposted 14 years ago

   I see gifts as just 'stuff'... I would much rather give of myself and I REALLY value it if someone gives of themselves to me.  Time is precious, so when it is given that is the greatest gift of all x

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   kmackey32posted 14 years ago

   Yep I would.

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    Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

    I give without expecting anything in return. But if someone buys me a gift then I make sure that I buy something for them just to show my appreciation that they were thinking of me.

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    Lita C. Malicdemposted 14 years ago

    "Give because you receive" gifts. If that's not exchanging of gifts the young so enjoy this season, it might fall under "obligation" to an adult.
    
    There is always that child in us to expect something, right? To an adult's point of view, gifts are just tokens of a long-enduring friendship we want to keep for life. Omit the gift and someone says, "has he forgotten"?

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    Cleancloverposted 14 years ago

    yes beacause it is give and take

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