Why ask a question - do you really care about the responses or is it for enterta

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   RJ Schwartzposted 9 years ago

   Why ask a question - do you really care about the responses or is it for entertainment?
   
   

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   jackclee lmposted 9 years ago

   Generally speaking, I only ask a question because I want to know the answers. If I want entertainment, I watch TV or a movie.

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   Old Poolmanposted 9 years ago

   I only ask when I want to know the answer.

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   Jodahposted 9 years ago

   Someone showed me a link once in the learning centre that said you can be paid for questions. If that is true I see an incentive to ask them. I find a lot of questions to seem very trivial and just an excuse to ask something where the asker doesn't even respond to answers given.

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      savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I hear you. One has to wonder about those who post a plethora of questions, (usually the same question worded differently) but never respond. It's weird and kind of annoying, frankly. It's best not to answer in such cases, I think.

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      Jodahposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Great to see someone agree with me savvy dating. Cheers.

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      savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I do agree, Jodah. Nevertheless, I have responded to such questioners. Lol. My bad!

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   manatita44posted 9 years ago

   Sometimes I want objective answers, ones that do not come from me. Sometimes, I really do need to know something. Could be related to health, poetry or presentation. Sometimes I need an expert, and I rely on friends here.
   
   Yes, I do care about the responses, but I'm wary about the arguments, particularly on religion. You may know that it can get quite nasty in this section, and we good men and women can lose our cool. So I generally - after one answer or two - prefer what I call Silent Love.
   
   Of course others will have other reasons, but some are very educational, such as 'How do I do a link' on Hub Pages, or 'why am I not featured anymore?' Nice question, Ralph.

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   jlparkposted 9 years ago

   Because I'm genuinely curious about the answers I might get.
   
   There's no point asking a question to ignore the answers.

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   peeplesposted 9 years ago

   Because I am curious what others are thinking or I need to know the answer. I always read every answer I get. I don't respond all the time, because it's not necessary most of the time in my opinion, but I do like to read through and get different opinions and thoughts.

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   annasmomposted 9 years ago

   I am looking for input/answers.  It is good to see the answer come from someone I don't directly influence?  Outside of my personal life?  SHhhh....I might learn something...

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   bradmasterOCcalposted 9 years ago

   I want answers, but that doesn't mean I can't respond to those answers for any number of reasons.
   
   Do I have a viewpoint, most of the time, but I want to see the same thing from another viewpoint. And, again, I can still comment on their viewpoint, and ask more questions, and get more feedback on the issue.
   
   If their comment is not convincing, I give my reason why it isn't.
   
   I would like all the people that answer my questions to make their arguments. And arguments in the same sense as making their case, and not being hostile or personal.
   
   If this is not the hp way of handling questions, then I have been doing it all wrong.
   
   When people make their argument against the person instead of the message, it really doesn't make their case, but turns it into a personal argument. The latter is not the intention of my questions.

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    dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

    
    
    HP questions are generally conversational or a way to gage public opinion from people in the HP community. Sometimes it leads to debates.No one has their mind changed in the end.
    When it comes to asking questions of people we know it's different.
    Depending on what the question concerns determines whether or not the person is (actually) looking to gain some "understanding" or if it's a rhetorical question where any answer you give doesn't matter.
    Being asked (why) in many instances is nothing more than a dance.
    Oftentimes when someone asks (why) you did something they are in disagreement with what you did!
    They either want to blow your logic/rationale out of the water or make you feel stupid for your actions. You're on the witness stand.
    One example might be a person cheated on their significant other. Their mate confronts them with question (why?) all the while knowing that there is nothing that he or she could say that would make them say: "Okay, I understand why you did that now." The reality is if cheating is a "deal breaker" for them nothing their mate says matters!
    The (why) question was asked in shock or simply to see what kind of "excuse" their mate would come up with.
    Recently when I've been asked (why) by others I started asking them (why) they were asking me why. It's my of making it known to them that I am  aware that they're really not looking to gain an "understanding".
    Hopefully this allows us bypass "the dance" and have them state what is on their mind.
    Lastly the person (asking the questions) is in "control" of the conversation. The person answering questions is on "defense". At a certain point many people will either shut down or snap.
    No one enjoys being "grilled" or constantly having to explain themselves. It can come off as a "parent/child" exchange which oftentimes leads to resentment and passive aggressive behavior.

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    Rochelle Frankposted 9 years ago

    There are a lot of good reasons to ask questions. One is to get different viewpoints and information on subjects you are considering for hubs. Another is to give other people ideas to write about.

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