Life Turns ? How will you react ?

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   skyfireposted 13 years ago

   Something that is bugging me lately, situation is i never had opportunity to something that i wanted in a particular time and now that i settled my mind without it, i mean i managed to see to life without it that opportunity comes up. I don't know whether to pick it up or let it go. I don't know what to do cause when i was down when it was not reachable i convinced myself that i'll find much better life than that opportunity and i made myself strong for that. Now after 3 years it comes up suddenly and i have decision to pick it up or not. (I feel that if i let it go, i'm just plain stupid in the eyes of others or maybe for my life). But for that opportunity i'm feeling very uncomfortable inside my mind i don't know if i want it or not.
   
   You can suggest what you think about this (it's not that personal thread as i made it look general and i'm just asking for general suggestion on making decision.so you can give your opinion based on this situation, maybe you had such in your life if so let me know what you did).
   
   What you think i should do in this case ?

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      double_frickposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      sit down. close your eyes.
      put EVERYONE else out of your mind completely. this is about YOU. forgive me for sounding trite, but, follow your heart.
      
      even if logically it is everything you've "always wanted" if deep down something doesn't feel quite right...go with that gut feeling! try to investigate more, really take as much time as you can or need to and think about it, imagine taking the opportunity.
      visualize exactly how it would play out in your head right down to the plane ride to your destination. see how you like it.
      
      a friend always wanted to be with this one person. we will call him ronnie. we'll assume he is her first real love, that kind of thing. well, after years ronnie finally says all the things this friend always wanted him to...but something doesn't feel right about it. she gives up taking a trip out of state to see him. come to find out a year of regret and heartache later he had another girl (he was living in another state) he had just started talking to. and is now still dating. the regret dissipated and she is left with a stronger trust in her intuition for if she had not listened to that tiny, nagging feeling she would have ended up a heartbroken "fool" (as she says)
      you know what is right for you, you just have to listen.

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   whiteorchidsposted 13 years ago

   What exactly is this opportunity that has now risen after three years? It is hard to give someone a thought when we don't know exactly what it is you are discussing, you are rambling a little bit.

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   skyfireposted 13 years ago

   To be specific, It's decision related to career (offshore)..

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   Cagsilposted 13 years ago

   Regret no decision you make. Keep your eyes, vision and effort to move forward.

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   skyfireposted 13 years ago

   Now that is something hard on me, if i not choose this am i moving forward ? or if i choose this am i moving ahead ? I simply,don't know.

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      What you are failing to realize, is regardless of what you do, you are moving forward.

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         Mishaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Yep, agree. And even when you are doing  nothing, you still are moving forward

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            Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Actually yes you are moving forward if you do nothing, but that is moving at contentment fulfilled forward motion. Content is settled for things as they are now, in th present.

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               Mishaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Nah Ray, too complex and went above my head

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                  Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Naw, it's something you can mediate and get your answer.

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   WriteAngledposted 13 years ago

   You move ahead with every decision you make, whether it ends up being good or bad. Either way, you learn something about yourself and life. If you avoid decisions, you stand still.

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   skyfireposted 13 years ago

   @Writeangled, right that is good point.
   
   @Casgil, yes i'm but i guess i'm thinking about things going to happen after that and i guess that is making me restless perhaps.

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Then, plan the future, don't let if fall into your lap. Go and do something to make your future better. Sitting thinking about misopportunities will only have you running in circles for the rest of your life.

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         skyfireposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Okay that makes me comfortable. Thanks for that. I'll go with picking that one, maybe even if i don't get that i'll be back to place where i was(i guess it works that way).

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   Cagsilposted 13 years ago

   The point I am trying to make.
   
   Determine what YOU want to do with your life?
   
   Once you determine that, then figure out everything there is to know about it?
   
   Once you have done that, then figure a plan of action/effort you can do to push forward.
   
   

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      skyfireposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Just in my case, what if you don't know what is right for you, i mean what if you're confused about what you want/you have. How you go in that condition ?

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         Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         This condition you say you have is just you not making a decision about yourself.
         
         What IF you don't know what is right for you? There is NO right or wrong for you.....it is up to you what you want out of life. This takes some time to figure out, because first you have to figure WHO you want to be? It helps and goes a long way.

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            skyfireposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I get it what you mean. But right now, it is hard for me to think like what i want and what i want to be. I mean i was on that track when i was trying for that opportunity but now i don't seem to feel that way(perhaps i'm wrong if others are thinking in this situation). But what i want to be question and this opportunity is something not working out inside mind. It all just got mixed up.

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   theirishobserver.posted 13 years ago

   skyfire, life is not complete if opportunity missed, do it, my life is full now as I am doing the things I always wanted to do...yep even talking here....go for it...life is too short...

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      skyfireposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I agree TIO....But It's just that making me uncomfortable for something knocks up suddenly and unexpected. I felt it like mirage when i started to think about it.

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    theirishobserver.posted 13 years ago

    skyfire, hear what you are saying, but you must put all your cards on the table and decide what is good for you....I have made choices that were good and some bad, now I am happy, you just have to decide what it is you want from life...some peopel get too cosy....mortgage...relationships etc but dont become fulfilled.....you decide what is good for you and let everyone else take care of themselves...unless your looking after a sick rooster...dont leave him behind...

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       skyfireposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       thanks for that, i'm just confused now. But i'll take some decision about this which i guess will settle this in mind once and for all.

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    WriteAngledposted 13 years ago

    Meditation doesn't have to mean anything terribly mystical. Just sit quietly and listen to the voice within you. Some people call it God, some your guardian angel, some your spirit guide, some your higher self. What you are listening to is your heart, your body and your truth. Sit quietly, let the surface chatter of your brain die away and listen. See yourself taking one of the paths, and then the other. What does your body tell you rather than your mind? Listen to yourself and remember that no decision is ever wrong.
    
    I've made decisions in my life, which some people would say were horrendous, and yes, I've suffered from them. But each of these decisions was directed by my heart, my guts, my inner voice at the time. I've learned from each one, each one has made me who I am now.

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       skyfireposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you. I'll try to keep my head cool for a while so that i can take decision comfortably. It's like two side in mind suggesting two different things, one holding back and one says you have nothing to lose go for it. And i'm sitting still with it.

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    theirishobserver.posted 13 years ago

    step back and take your time, I can only tell you what has happened to me, when I was 16 before I got into a whole lot of crap, I was asked to go to New York never did, still have the card the guy gave me with his number, job, accomadation the lot, I still wonder how my life would have been if I had made that call...

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       skyfireposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       That is very good point. I don't want to think about it later and regret it, so i'll take my time.

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