What do you do when you feel like giving up?

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   peeplesposted 10 years ago

   What do you do when you feel like giving up?
   
   When you have moments where you feel you can't take the problems of life, what do you do to continue moving forward?

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   abetterwaytoliveposted 10 years ago

   I usually stop whatever I am doing and take several long deep breaths and try to find a friend to talk to. Communicating my problems with someone else usually alleviates a lot of the stress. Crying also helps.

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   CraftytotheCoreposted 10 years ago

   I think about who I would hurt the most.
   There are others who depend on me.  If I gave up, what would I do to them?
   That's what keeps me going.

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   Mr. Happyposted 10 years ago

   I think of starving children in Africa, or the people who lost everything in Pakistan after the floods and land-slides. I think of the people of the First Nations who lost nearly everything, including their identity and culture after the invasion of the Americas by the Europeans. After all that, I realize my life ain't so bad ...
   
   Good luck and all the best! : )

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   fpherj48posted 10 years ago

   peeples.....Moving forward, despite the problems of life, although a difficult and often, unending struggle, is what makes us WHO we become.  It is what proves that our problems are NOT who we are, but that we are the champions of our own destiny.....bigger, better and much more important in the scope of things, than any difficulty, crisis or tragedy we face.
   There will always be "moments," when we truly FEEL we can take no more....nor go on for another second.   We doubt our value, our strength and stamina....as humans, we have learned to believe there are limits, that a time comes when we fold and simply give up.  These moments, in the course of an entire lifetime, are in fact, like one tiny speck of sand, in a vast Universe that goes on and on forever.
   To say, "I have been there," at this point in my life, peeples, is beyond laughable.
   Without writing my Biography, which would read much like a Horror Story.... with each of those "moments,"  I entertained giving up, somehow, in inexplicable ways, it was that very desperation that spurred me into overdrive.  Can I tell you why or how?   In retrospect, I would surely try to help you understand.
   However, suffice it to say that you too can find that determination and will, to move above, beyond and forward.....DESPITE ANY & ALL PROBLEMS IN YOUR PATH.  Believe completely, that folding, giving up, stagnating, wallowing.......is to say that you, your precious loved ones.....and the future gifts you are yet to give and receive, amount to NOTHING.   That, peeples, is contrary to every reason you were born, it spits in the face of all that you have accomplished thus far, it negates every ounce of love and joy you have shared with those who mean the very most to you.   That simply cannot be....and I am confident that you know this.
   Accepting this truth, leaves you with only one thing to do......move forward.   Make it your only direction.....until what remains behind you, is but a cloud of smoke, visible only enough to know you don't want to go back, for it will choke you..............................Peace, my dear strong woman.

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   Diana Leeposted 10 years ago

   I pray and I pray again until the thought goes away. You can't move forward if you are stuck with bad feelings in the present and dwelling on the past will only make it worsen.

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   Sunshine625posted 10 years ago

   I pick myself up, dust myself off and move forward...there is no other option because I'm not a quitter. Giving up is not in my DNA.

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   IDONOposted 10 years ago

   You can always move forward if you know where you stand. I have to take an honest look at myself and decide if my problems are actually problems or if they are unfulfilled expectations that I set too high in the first place. Or if instead of making a plan, I was planning results.
         Do I think not getting what I need is a problem when my need was actually a want? Knowing that 95% of the things I worry about, never happen, but yet I worry anyway? Or do I see things that I can't control as a problem or do I accept these things and make the best of an otherwise bad situation? Usually, our problems aren't as bad as we think. Things almost always work out somehow. It just takes a little more patience than we are used to. Then there is always someone worse off than us, even at moments when we don't think that's possible.
        And I agree with the others. A little prayer goes a long way. Even if you don't believe in God or just aren't sure; pray. Pray to your cat. Pray to Hubbers. It don't matter. Just pray. I say this because it's the best way to get out of yourself. Getting out of ourselves gives us a much clearer view of what is going on in our life and we can find that what we have seen as a problem can actually be an opportunity. I've said that in other Q&A and I believe it now.

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   Globetrekkermelposted 10 years ago

   I rarely have moments of giving up on anything. My dogma is, if it ain't this one, there will be a better one. I am an eternal optimist. I always see the good thing in every situation.

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    MysticMoonlightposted 10 years ago

    I think about my family and what it would do to them if I decided that I couldn't go on. Life is hard enough without giving those that I care for and love an even bigger struggle. I just couldn't ever be that selfish even in the toughest of circumstances. It just breaks my heart to think of breaking theirs.

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