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People who strongly dislike criticisms?

  1. brianzen profile image61
    brianzenposted 7 years ago

    What is the meanest thing a hubber has ever said/done to you (or a loved one if applicable)

    1. Ron Montgomery profile image59
      Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      fierycj continues to reject me.  He's so mean! mad

      1. brianzen profile image61
        brianzenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I'm Listening Elaborate?

        1. Ron Montgomery profile image59
          Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I poured my heart out to him; shared my true feelings...

          And he...he...

          Oh God, I can't go on!

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            cosetteposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            haha!! big_smile hee hee smile too funny...

    2. Stevennix2001 profile image92
      Stevennix2001posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      i would say, but i know i'd be in a lot of trouble. you seem like a really nice guy here, but just one word of advice.  you might want to be VERY careful about what you say about certain hubbers here.  as i found out from experience, you mess with one hubber, your not just fighting them.  your messing with their friends and fans too, so they'll attack you as well.  just thought i'd give you a heads up.

      1. brianzen profile image61
        brianzenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I am truly sorry as I assumed we would use anonymity, and not so much cruel activity as criticism.

        1. Stevennix2001 profile image92
          Stevennix2001posted 7 years agoin reply to this

          ummm...okay. not entirely sure what you mean by that... why are you saying sorry?

          1. brianzen profile image61
            brianzenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Was not trying to throw rocks at a hornet nest, Rather a forum for what (past tense) seemed overboard. The apology was directed at everyone who is going to see this all go horribly wrong if it does.

            1. Stevennix2001 profile image92
              Stevennix2001posted 7 years agoin reply to this

              oh okay.  sorry, i misunderstood you.  my bad.  sorry about that buddy.

    3. Cagsil profile image61
      Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      This should prove to be interesting, to say the least.

      Let's see....the thread calls for "People who strongly dislike criticisms"? This is absurd. If you do not like criticism, then live like a hermit or a recluse. Tucked away from society.

      Criticism is the driving force in one's self-improvement stage, which happens to be never-ending, up to and upon death. Criticism is one of life's tools. Adversity is an aspect of life one cannot avoid. smile

      As for what's the meanest thing said to me? Well, that is in the past and have no need/want/desire to recall it.

      That's my thoughts. smile

      1. brianzen profile image61
        brianzenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        That seems fair and I really thought that the topic would go more like the ones where, we all just recalled someone blasting work out of pettiness, you would have been quite correct about its necessity. But the unnecessary stuff in hindsight is actually funny sometimes.

        1. Pandoras Box profile image69
          Pandoras Boxposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Yeh it is, and as such I generally figure the problem lies with them and not me, and let it go.

        2. brianzen profile image61
          brianzenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Even the worst stuff around friends who disagree, is worth mentioning. What if all the encouragement someone needed was someone disagreeing with some ridiculous comment that some idiot made five years ago?

  2. Pandoras Box profile image69
    Pandoras Boxposted 7 years ago

    I always learn from criticism, when it's useful anyway. In fact, I prefer to know when I'm doing something wrong, or when there's a better way of doing something, or when I'm coming off to others in a way I don't really intend.

    I like to learn, and I don't have a problem admitting when I'm wrong. I'm sure people have said mean things to me, but I either took it constructively whether it was intended that way or not, or I quickly let it go as meaningless.

    So in other words, I can't recall. I use it to my advantage or I forget it altogether.

    On the other hand, it really irks the heck out of me to see people being mean to someone else. You know, unless they deserve it.

    1. brianzen profile image61
      brianzenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Absolutely...but have you ever gone too far?

  3. Rafini profile image89
    Rafiniposted 7 years ago

    You wanna talk about criticism?  Oh man, I try hard to stay away from it, but it doesn't work!  lol  Plus, I'm so overly sensitive that almost anything said to me sounds like a criticism - I am spending a lot of time learning how not to be upset over it and let it go cuz most times it isn't meant to be "negative".  smile

  4. mega1 profile image80
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    none of the hubbers has ever criticized me - to my face.  That is not to say that they haven't been backbiting and talking about what a strange case I am, with each other, behind my back - I'm sure they do email each other about me all the time.  Criticizing my avatars and my stupid thread posts etc.  They openly say my hubs are great, for instance, and then they fan me, and then they snoop around trying to discredit me.  I'M SICK OF IT!  I know who they are, too and I am working on some magic charms that will attack their hubs so that whenever they try to publish a mad leprechaun will hop out and make obscene noises.  I think I've just about got it perfected, so be warned, critical hubbers!  I am on your trail and will hunt you down!

    (all the above was dictated to me by a mad leprechaun - I had nothing to do with it, so don't criticize me for being paranoid - it was the leprechaun.  really.)

    1. Rafini profile image89
      Rafiniposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      lol


      perhaps I should have included the fact I have learned to keep criticisms to myself for the most part?

      1. brianzen profile image61
        brianzenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        That is really the best way to go if the other person is sort of unknown or even just new. I asked for it because I need the feedback, but I might have taken it wrong if it had just been thrust at me like "hew noob shred the article and follow something else"

      2. mega1 profile image80
        mega1posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        well, it is, seriously, hard to know what kind of person one is criticizing online here in the forums, for instance.  I don't know whether you just went through some hella bad sh** and are just not in the mood for constructive criticism, which is what we all agree is best.  and then there are some real loonies who love to get a good adrenaline boost by willfully misunderstanding something you say.  Then, if you don't let it out, and you stew about the crap that is really getting to ya, won't you get an ulcer? ya might.  . . you oughta be able to let it out now and then.  I'm thinking of starting another one of those "vent with me" threads for us - but there is that one about spelling and grammar "hubs that miss their mark" or something like that?  Of course personal attacks are always just nasty and mean and unneccesary.  I like to tell people to their face when they piss me off, as much as possible.  I hate backbiting, seriously.  not that any of us would do that

        1. Rafini profile image89
          Rafiniposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          smile

  5. marinealways24 profile image60
    marinealways24posted 7 years ago

    Criticism is the best motivation.

  6. donotfear profile image88
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    I don't mind constructive criticism given in a positive manner or with love. But outright, nail spitting, hateful criticism is not necessary. Here's the kind of criticism I don't like:

    Someone once told me on the forums ..."....you disgust me with your....blah blah." Then proceeded to bash me for what I believe. It was demeaning to say the least. I mean it was brutal! May as well have rubbed dog crap in my face. What did I do? Nothing.  I'm not looking for their approval.

  7. donotfear profile image88
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    (A quote from Ann Landers)

    “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

    1. brianzen profile image61
      brianzenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I actually have only had good responses so far but I always wonder what the people are really thinking. chalk it up to curiosity more than anything.

 
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